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carballa85

To start, I am very lucky to have 2 amazing kids already from a previous marriage. My son is 10, and my daughter is 7. So to now be labeled as "infertile" has been something very difficult for me to deal with. After I had my daughter, I decided on the Mirena for birth control as advised to me by the doctor at the clinic I went to. Right before it was time to replace it, I decided to just have it removed. I was in a new relationship and wanted to get my body adjusted back on track for trying for a baby. 7 months later I wake up one morning thinking "good grief my boobs are killing me", and the light bulb went on. Unfortunately, at 14 weeks in utero my sweet Love Bug passed away from a cord accident. It got all entwined within itself and eventually got too tight and cut off all supply to her. We were devastated. It has been a year now, and I'm still devastated. 3 months later, I felt off again. Another positive, but it just didn't feel right. Woman's intuition I guess. This time, an ectopic. Worst pain of my life. Luckily, we caught it soon enough and only needed to get the shot, no surgery. After this, my Dr decided to do an HSG... both my tubes were blocked. Weren't surprised with the right one as this is where the ectopic was, but my left one was a surprise. So in January of this year I had a lap and hysto done. Outcome was successful, but my Dr has been very realistic making sure I know that my tubes can close back up again. My Dr also believes that my tubal infertility is the result of the mirena causing PID. Since, I have no other issues and was able to conceive previously.

We tried our first round of IUI with Clomid 100mg last cycle, and unfortunately it was negative. So I did another round of 100mg of Clomid, and today had my u/s done to check my follicles and they stated that they looked great (better than last time). They administered a HCG shot this time (so thankful I didn't have to do it) and I go in this Saturday for my IUI. We have already decided that if it doesn't work again we are moving to IVF and have begun all the paperwork and already had our phone appointment.

I should add that my husband has great mobility, 90% and when they did the analysis my dr was very pleased with all of my husbands results. Which, this doesn't help with my feeling that it's all my fault and I'm a complete disappointment. I understand that when one partner is infertile, both partners are infertile but down deep it doesn't change how the actual infertile partner feels.

I'm praying for a miracle. Thanks for reading. :-)

theholmanherd

I know what you mean about one partner. My husband has no issues and I'm over here all effed up with no Dx (unexplained). I hope your stay is short and sweet

lebradford

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Welcome! I also have an older child. My son is 11 and my step-son is almost 10. I completely know what you mean about being shocked and disappointed to be dealing with infertility after conceiving fairly easily before. It's been quite the shock. Our infertility is all on me as well. Good luck!

almostamissus

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I could have written this! My daughter is 8 and after I she was born, I got a mirena. Fast forward a few years, I remarried and had it taken out. 2 mcs later they tell me that my right tube has to come out because of hydro. I can't promise the iud did it but I have my suspicions.
I'm actually in the middle of my first clomid cycle and I just scheduled a surgery consult for the end of this month. I don't know yet what treatments I will be doing post-surgery.

I also know exactly how you feel as my husband has "super sperm" (re's words) so it's just me. If you want to chat or have any questions I can help you with- feel free to pm me. Also on the parenting after loss board there is a weekly checkin for ladies who are trying after a loss and have living children. You might wish to check that out. Welcome aboard and good luck!

BunnyBerry

I'm sorry about your losses. I'm glad they were able to treat the tubes, and I hope they stay clear for you!! Also hope this IUI works, but if you do move to IVF, it is also reassuring to know the better chances.

We knew we had MFI the past few years, but I never got tested. Now this month I'm testing and finding random things wrong with me, and while DH has already come to terms with his sperm issues and is much more okay with it, I am just starting the process of feeling really infertile and like less of a woman! I am trying not to go down that road, and it really helps to be part of this supportive group and remember that something about our body that we have no control over can't define our value as people.

Pintobean39

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First of all welcome and good luck. I also have 2 children from a previous marriage, they are almost 21 and 15. Of course I had no problems having my first I was a teenager my second took 2 years I had lots of issues at the time. Now that I'm with my husband who wants a child of his own all I've been able to give him is miscarriages. I hurt every-time I see him playing with our friends baby. I know it's all me so I get the feeling of being a complete disappointment.

This is a board full of wonderful ladies that are so supportive.