I would like to sleep alone again

MickeyM04

This is totally new for me. DS slept in his crib in his own room the first night home. DD is another story. She sleeps great during the day. Naps for two hours at a time or longer til I wake her to eat. Sleeps in the bouncer, rock n play, etc. At night I cannot get her to sleep anywhere but in my arms. Not in the crib. Not in the rock in play. Nowhere. So we have been bed sharing which honestly is not really my style. I'm okay with it when DS is sick or something but I'm just not into it otherwise. I know that sounds awful but it just makes me super wary. Not just the SIDS thing which is huge but also not wanting to start something we can't stop. I don't want an 8 month old in my bed at night. You know what I mean? I know we can't start bad habits this early but at some point we can and I don't know when that is. My question is, do you guys have any techniques to encourage LOs to sleep on their own? We have tried swaddling which she seems to hate. We have tried the heating pad in the rock n play before we put her down so she doesn't sense the temp change between me holding her and a cold bed (we always remove it before we put her in). We have tried pacis which work until they fall out and then she loses it. I don't know what else to try but sleeping on an incline without moving for 2-3 hours so I don't smush her is getting to me. Help??

BootsOrHearts

We are still bed sharing because he sleeps so much better and I love it but it's starting to worry me because he can ROLL now! So we're getting a mini crib we can put in our room and we'll see if he does ok in there.

MickeyM04

I think we do have a swaddle sack somewhere from DS. Maybe we will have more luck with that. I am the only person on the planet whose baby doesn't like the rock n play! Such a bummer. Glad I'm not alone though with having to sleep with her. Was feeling like such a loser about the whole thing. Also my poor neck!!!

ProfessorPedals825

I'm so sorry, you must be exhausted.  It's still early and there's plenty of time to change though.  I would keep trying new things until you find the right thing that she seems to like.  PJ slept great on her own until 9 months when we went on vacation and decided to just have her sleep in the bed with us.  Now she does it every night.  DH has always been a bed sharing guy and wanted her in the bed from an early age, but I was too afraid.  Now I like it and we're actually a bed sharing family which I never would have dreamed.  I wish you the best of luck.

4legsRbest

Maybe you can side car her crib and once she falls hard asleep on you can move her to it, but you are still within smells way and arms reach so you can keep a hand on her shortly after you move her. H was sidecar'd until he was 10 weeks. I was too nervous to sleep with him too at that age so it made me feel better to have him on a flat surface but where I could still be face-to-face with him until he got used to the seperation. At 10 weeks we had no issues moving his crib to his room. He didn't sleep for another 10 months, but it had nothing to do with his crib We co-slept from 4-6 months so I didn't lose my mind and he never developed a habit out of it.