Babies: 3 - 6 Months
Joansmith1128
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Waking after 40 minutes
Joansmith1128
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DS is 3.5 months old and is a fair sleeper. Not great, not bad. When he was first born, DH and i would let him fall asleep on the sofa w us until we went to bed around 10:30 and then he would go in his bed without issue. Then we gradually moved his bedtime up to 9:30 recently. Now, without fail, he wakes up 40 minutes after I put him down even though he is passed out when i lay him in his crib. He doesnt self soothe yet and i wont do CIO this young. Any thoughts as to why this could be happening? It usually takes at least 30 minutes to get him back down, which kinda makes the earlier bedtjme pointless.
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Re: Waking after 40 minutes
I've been doing CIO since she was about a month old and haven't had any issues. Do you swaddle? Sometimes that keeps them from waking themselves up if your baby moves around a lot in their sleep.
Baby GIRL due 12/26
Your baby has no ability to self-soothe at this young age; she just gives up because she knows she's been abandoned and it's futile to waste any energy crying since you won't come help her.
Where did you come up with this brilliant plan? Even Ferber and Weissbluth would frown upon your ST methods for such a small baby.
Yes, I don't love my baby at all....you hit the nail right on the head. *Rolls eyes*
I just have no words.
Nobody in their right mind supports CIO for a newborn. If you got this advice from someone you need to look elsewhere for guidance. If your instincts tell you this is what is appropriate for a baby your daughter's age then you do need advice because your instincts, at least on this matter, are completely wrong.
She often will let out a little noise in the night, we call it peeping so I turn on the video monitor (hard to believe a cold mother would have one right?!) and watch to see if she wakes up. She will sometimes move a little sigh and then fall back asleep. Maybe I misunderstood as this is not crying it out. There have been nights where she will make some noise and then let out a loud cry and I go right in. Typically those times she's wet and I change her diaper.
No wonder people hate these forums most of the people here are so rude and put one another down. We are all mothers and women and should support one another. Not cuss one another out and accuse people of being cold parents.
I love my daughter and no one has the right to tell me I don't. Everyone has their own way they parent and in my eyes no one way is right. Belittling people....maybe you can all teach your children how to do that.
DS had been STTN since he was around 8 weeks old, and would wake about once a week just to eat. Then we hit the 3 month GS and he started waking once a night to eat. About a week after that was the beginning of a long downward spiral. He caught a lot of colds, had ear infections, we had to quit swaddling, and we were dealing with the 4 MW. The worst period was about 3 weeks during which we saw 6-8 wake-ups each night.
I don't tell you this to scare you, but as you approach month 4 there is a serious sleep regression. For some babies it's very short-lived, for others sleep is pretty rough for a couple months. It gradually improved and we got back to one MOTN feeding and finally STTN again, but we saw a regression that lasted about 10 weeks in total.
Just remember that baby sleep is not linear. Just because something happened a certain way one night doesn't mean they'll continue to be that way the next week or even the following evening.
And "I let my NB scream for 10 minutes but it's not CIO" girl can probably look forward to repeating the ST process many times. CIO often needs to be done on multiple occasions, usually following teething, illness, travel, and once they reach developmental milestones. I have friends with toddlers that have done CIO and they're the worst sleepers on the planet. One couple has a 5 year-old that still gets up 3-5 times each night. I'm not saying it doesn't work, it's just that it's a very upsetting process for everyone to endure for something that may provide fleeting results.