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* knock knock* May I come in?

kushie77kushie77 member
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Hi ladies, I've been lurking here for a bit with the hope that I didn't need to join you, but it seems we may be heading in the direction of donor sperm. 
A little background.  H and I are both 36, been TTC since May 2012. After testing it appears H has no viable sperm. Fert Urologist found very large bilateral vericoceles
and feels that surgery would not be helpful. Due to the anolomy of the few sperm he did have, he is not hopeful that sperm extraction would produce any quality sperm. So we are looking at using donor sperm. We are still taking time to process this news and I don't do anything without extensive research, but this is our best chance for a child.  

sorry for wonky spacing, my tab doesn't always cooperate. 

****SIGGY WARNING****


 Hashimoto's with irregular cycles  DH- 37 Severe oligoasthenoteratozoospermia

TTC since May 2012

HSG- all clear

March 2014 - RE appt. 
April 2014- Saline sono all's good, terrible SA results - 8 sperm found all abnormal
May 2014- Fert Urology- Bilateral varicoceles, recommend Donor Sperm
12/2014-  Surprise natural BFP  EDD 7/31/15 Plan:  Starting foster to adoption, natural cycles




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Re: * knock knock* May I come in?

  • lincoln79lincoln79 member
    Welcome to the board!

    TTC #1 since 12/2010 DH: MFI, cancer survivor Me: Resected septate uterus, lap treated mild endo, tubes open, ovulate on own, autoimmune disease 3 Failed IUI's (2/2012, 4/2012, 6/2012) 
    IVF #1 August 2012. BFP! Beta #1 56.7 Beta #2 150 One baby, one heartbeat on 9/20/12! no h/b @7w6d. dandc @8w0d, 
    FET #1 December 2012, BFN
    FET #2 February 2013, no embies survived thaw
    IVF #2, BFP #2, Loss #2 March 2013, Scar tissue discovered, RPL testing,
    IVF #3, BFP #3, Loss #3 (twins) September 2013
    Hostile ute, moving onto Gestational Carrier!

    GC/FET #1 of 1 5AA blast and 1 compacted blast, February 2014, BFP #4 on 3/1/2014!
    6w u/s 1 bean with h/b of 145 bpm, 8w u/s 187 bpm
    EDD 11/7/14. Please, please, please stick little one!

    Praying unceasingly for a miracle. ALL welcome!

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  • brooklynesquebrooklynesque member
    Welcome.  I know the decision to use donor gametes is tough, and it can help to talk to a therapist experienced in third party assisted reproduction to help you and DH work through your feelings.  Even a session or two might help.  But once it sinks in that egg or sperm donation is your only shot at a baby (other than adoption), I think most of us are surprised at how thoroughly our expectations can adjust.  I am just as excited about my (currently in development!) donor egg baby as I would be about one conceived with my own eggs, and I don't regret a thing.  Good luck.
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  • JessarabJessarab member
    Welcome! I couldn't agree more with what is already said. H and I were required by our clinic to talk with a psychologist - the session took about 2 hours but I couldn't believe how much better I felt once we had. These decisions weigh heavy on heart and bring a lot of uncertainty - a tough combination for even the strongest relationship to bare. Research was definitely helpful as we made our decision between using a donor egg and adopting.Now that we're on the egg donor path, I can't tell you how much the support from everyone here has helped. Whatever you decide, I hope it brings you happiness!
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    Married September 3, 2011 | TTC since May 2013
    Me: Diagnosed with ovarian cancer in 2013, underwent fertility sparing surgery which left low ovarian reserve, no tubes, partial ovary | DH: perfectly normal 
    BFP: 5/30/2014 via donor eggs | EDD: 2/6/2015
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  • melkel559melkel559 member
    **********SIGGY WARNING*****************


    Hi there and I am sorry that you find yourself here...I haven't been active on the board for several months--life has been a little hectic! But, I saw this and wanted to say welcome from a fellow DS bumpie. I have an almost 5-month old from DS IUI. It was a tough decision to make at the time for sure...as everyone else on this board can relate to. But, our son is ours regardless of genetics. Feel free to PM me anytime with any questions you may have! I am not on here all the time but do try to check from time to time. GL to you!!!
    TTC since June 2011
    DX: DH (30) severe MFI, severely low count & low motility
    Me (32): all clear
    Appt with Urologist 5/21/12: exam, ultrasound, bloodwork all normal.
    Testicular Biopsy with TESE on 6/8/12. good sperm found! (left side only) froze sperm, failed thaw test :(
    Orientation for IVF/ICSI on 6/13/12. Waiting for the green light following biopsy results...results show adequate sperm production both sides.
    2nd SA 6/18/12: sample is "adequate for ICSI"
    Plan: IVF/ICSI July 2012!
    ER: 7/26/12. 15 eggs retrieved, all mature.
    TESE/TESA/aspiration from epididymis, no motile sperm found :(
    froze all eggs, the saga of praying for good sperm continues.
    8/3/12: 2nd opinion from MFI uro on biopsy slides. Suspects "partial late maturation arrest."
    Plan: more SAs, third biopsy/TESE with frozen back-up either from DH or DS.
    SA 8/17/12: Zero sperm
    SA 8/23/12: Zero sperm
    9/26/12: SPERM FOUND! 15 eggs thawed, 12 survived and were ICSI'd, only 3 fertilized normally. Refrozen as embies and will thaw in Nov. Please survive and grow!
    All 3 survived the thaw on 11/15/12!
    FET 11/17/12: transferred 2, one 4B, one 4C. Beta 11/30:BFFN
    moving on to DS
    DIUI#1 2/18/13,50mg Clomid cd 3-7, Ovidrel trigger, Beta 3/4/13: BFN.
    DIUI#2 3/19/13, 50 mg Clomid cd 3-7, Ovidrel trigger, Beta #1 (14dpiui) 4/2/13: BFP!!!! 150. Beta #2 4/4/13: 420 Beta #3 4/8/13: 2691. Beta #4 4/15/13: 15,086
    1st u/s 4/8/13 shows one gestational sac
    2nd u/s 4/15/13 shows yolk sac, fetal pole and early heartbeat
    3rd u/s 4/25/13: measuring right on track. Heart rate 148 bpm
    A/S 7/22/13: IT'S A BOY!!
    PAIF/SAIF Always Welcome
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  • liz4pawsliz4paws member
    Welcome to the board!

    ************ Signature/Ticker Warning ************
     Me (32) DH (36) - Finding our way to baby #1
     Me: POF/DOR - AMH <0.16, heterozygous c677t MTHFR, insulin resistant and gluten intolerant
     DH: Severe MFI

     12/2/11 - IUI #1- BFN 
    8/1/12 - IVF #1 - Zero response from max stims (600iu intramuscularly)
    My ovaries are just for decoration

     12/6/12 - Adopted five embryos that had been frozen for over ten years!
     2/11/13 - DEmbryo FET #1 Thawed four, sadly two didn't survive. Transferred two beautiful blasts. 
     2/16/13 - First BFP of my life @ 6dp5dt! EDD 10/30/13
     3/27/13 - After beta and u/s hell, no heartbeat ever detected. D&C at 9w1d.

    6/5/13 - Adopted four new embryos that had been frozen for seven years!      
    9/12/13 - DEmbryo FET #2. Thawed and transferred two beautiful blasts
    9/17/13 - BFP @ 5dp6dt! EDD 05/31/14
     9/29/13 - m/c @ 5w1d. :(

    11/19/13 - DEmbryo FET #3. Thawed and transferred one blast from each batch. Wow!
     11/23/13 - BFP @ 4dp6dt! EDD 8/7/13
    Beta #1 @ 13dp6dt - 522  Beta #2 @ 16dp6dt - 1373 
    6w5d ultrasound showed one perfect baby with a beautiful heartbeat of 134bpm!

    Snowflake baby is a girl! 
    Our beautiful Snowflake girl arrived on July 22, 2014!   
     My embryo adoption blog: Wishing on a Snowflake
      
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  • J&D2007J&D2007 member
    Welcome! I'm sorry about your news, but I hope it gets easier to deal with as time moves on and you get excited about your IUI:-)
    Me: 37, DH: 38: ttc 7 years, dx: unknown
    10/11: after 2 years, saw a RE, FSH 5.4
    11/11: BFP! (surprise after thyroid & normal hsg),
    12/11: missed m/c after 7 week u/s, 1/12: D&C
    6/12 IUI#1-IUI #3: clomid = BFP!, C/P
    IVF #1(10/12) FSH 5.4, AFC: 16 long Lupron, 5R/5M/4F, all 4 made it to 5dt, 1 blast/1-8 cell transferred=BFN
    IVF #2(12/12)AFC 21, MD lupron, 4R/4M/3F, 5dt of 1 blast and 2-8cell. BFN.
    IVF#3(4/13) Natural start antagon protocol, 12R,11F. one PGS normal at day 6 transfer. BFN.
    IVF#4 (11/13) C.CRM (ODW.U normal 8/13 Still no Diagnosis) EPP/antagonist. ER 13R/7M/6F. Only 1 made it to freeze. Abnormal. Looking into options of DE, Fresh vs frozen.
    10/14 new local RE to look into what's next. CD3 FSH 4.7, AMH 0.9. Met with DE agencies and exploring options for feb/march 2015.
    Surprise natural bfp (4 days before donor is signed). Beta #1 at 9dpo: 51.8, 2nd beta: 195 (25 hours doubling) @11dpo. 3rd beta (12/15): 516 (35 hrs doubling) 4th beta(12/17): 895 (58 hours doubling) 5th beta(12/19): 2120. U/S at 5w0d(12/22): one gestational sac with yolk sac. U/S #2 (6w0d)12/29. One little bean measuring 6w0d with HR 124. 3rd u/s(1/4)7w0d: baby measuring 7w2d. HR 134. 3/30: A/S at MFM went great except for low lying placenta. Verifi results are normal! Team Blue! Please send any positive thoughts our way! EDD:8/24/2015
    Baby Will born 8/18. He's perfect.
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  • daydreamer34254daydreamer34254 member
    Hi & welcome! We are considering donor eggs, and it's still a new idea... it's been very challenging for me to work through it, but I'm coming around. It is slow and painful for sure, but being around here on this board gives me hope. It's nice to see that there are people out there who are truly excited about the unique path they have taken to parenthood. I hope that we get there soon :) But for now, the grief is very real and cannot be ignored. Take the time you need and remember that you're not alone!
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    TTC since March 2012
    Dx: Unexplained IF, Arcuate Uterus, Minimal Endometriosis, Poor Embryo Quality
    Tx History: 1 Injects+TI, 5 IUIs, 3 IVFs, 1 FET = all BFN and full of heartbreak
    Plan: Waiting to see if our potential donor is a match for DE IVF #1


    Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.
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  • jdionnejdionne member
    Welcome. My husband and I did IUI with DS. We found out that genetically my husband doesn't have the reproductive gene. Using DS was our only option. Friends and family have been so supportive. We are currently 8 weeks pregnant. Good luck to you in your journey.
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  • pmv81pmv81 member
    Hello & welcome! My husband and I are currently waiting for our first IUI cycle in June using DS. We knew that with my husbands medical history, there was a strong possibility we would have to look to 3rd party reproduction if we wanted to have a family. It still hit me hard when the doctor gave the news, maybe the finality of it. But that quickly changed to excitement that with that knowledge, we were one step closer to starting our family. Now we are all set and anxiously awaiting June's cycle so we can start this process! Good luck to you!
     
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