Is this a thing now? wedding related

LaurelBee

fredalina said:

I am me a tardy to the party on this and my comment isn't really that spectacular, but... When I was in high school, there were graduation invitations, and graduation announcements. And it was a big deal to send them, and kids were one-upping each other over how many they were ordering, etc. My mom felt like if you were close enough to actually come to a high school graduation then you didn't even need an invite (just a heads up when/where; it's not like they checked for invites at the door), and if you weren't that close than an invite was just a ploy to get someone to send a gift. And announcements were the worst kind of gift grab ploy because they didn't even get the pretense of an invitation. This totally reminds me of that, and of her and some of her more interesting ideas on etiquette. Most of which I agree with now actually. Except I had a friend who graduated college at 28 when I was a HS senior (started out my 26 year old brother's college buddy) and it was a BFD. He was northern Florida poor, got a scholarship, was in an accident and broke his back, took time off for rehab, worked to save more to go since being off, started back part time while working, and finally finished. That guy gets to tell EVERYONE he graduated! Maybe your friends had to cross a river on the backs of hungry crocodiles and fight their way out of the stomach of a hippopotamus to be able to get married? Otherwise they are douches.

Funny you should say that. We just got a HS graduation announcement from Dh's, like 4th cousin (or 1st cousin 4th removed??) anyway, it's pretty fucking obvious why we got an announcement for someone who lives in CO. I'm trying to decide to send a card, a card with a small GC, or ignore it. Eta- I actually know the kid, although we haven't seen the family since he was a little boy. I mean, I was barely old enough to drink legally last time we saw them and I'm 32

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I have seen this come up on TK.  Honestly, the problems stems from the fact that Brides and Grooms think that being invited to their wedding is an honor and that they need to let people know that they aren't getting an invite.  Which is all so ridiculous.

Also, it's micromanaging because they want to make sure that no one shows up at their super speshul day.

missyishere

slappalicious said:

missyishere said:

I didn't do any save the dates (I'm typing that out because sexually transmitted diseases).  That shit was too expensive. 

I just ordered advertising-style postcards via one of those print yourself sites like VistaPrint.  They turned out pretty nice and they were actually not very costly.

laziness factor, too. I still had all those who would have attended my wedding attend my wedding sans Save the Date.