Conception Question.

kbabytobe

Yes I'm new here. But I know how these forums work. And I know I'll get a lot of shit for this.
Before you go bashing-I understand that I was stupid and made a huge mistake that I will never make again.

I had sex with my boyfriend all throughout October, without any protection and he was finishing in me every time.
I had a one night fling thing with an ex-but stopped the sex before he came because I knew what I was doing was wrong. This was October 21st, 2013.

Based off of a dating ultrasound on November 19th 2013, I was 6 weeks and 3 days pregnant. Putting my due date at July 12 2014, and insinuating that I conceived October 19th 2013.

Chances of this being my exs child?

TexasGirl81

Maury??? :-/

mamakiss

It's more likely to belong to your boyfriend than your ex, but there is absolutely no way of anyone knowing without tests being run.

mrscurlygurl

marsalisails

mrscurlygurl said:

Of course I'm serious, and don't call me Shirley!

No but seriously, no one will know the answer to this question unless the baby looks undeniably like one of the people you had unprotected sex with, or you get DNA testing.

Big+Lil

Sheesh.

marsalisails

Or if you were charting and knew exactly when you ovulated...which I'm guessing you were not...

MstoMrstoMom851214

Unfortunately, I would say there is a 50/50 shot.  

I know that I either conceived on November 1st or 3rd because those were the only days that my husband and I had sex during out ovulation window.  My due date based on the first day of my last period and my ultrasounds is July 25th.  If by chance, your body were to ovulate at a similar interval to mine (and my ovulation schedule is pretty by the book), that would put your conception date at October 19th or 21st. 

Do you know for sure if you had sex with your boyfriend between October 18-22?  If you had sex with both of them in that small time frame, there is really no way to know without a DNA test.  I would highly urge you to get one as soon as the baby is born, and go from there. 

kbabytobe

Yes. I know 100% That I had lots of sex with my boyfriend especially July 19th and 20th. My boyfriend is black and my ex is white. So hopefully I'll be able to tell as soon as my son is born. If not, I'll have to get a test.
Baby was measuring 3 days ahead at my anatomy scan. And I swear during the scan that he looks like my boyfriend, lol

AMcLaws

Oh good grief....

MstoMrstoMom851214

Not to be nosey, but since you are putting it all out there...does your boyfriend know about the cheating and the possibility that the baby isn't his??

kbabytobe

Yes I told him as soon as I found out.

ashesandpearls

Anatomy scan measurements can give you a good idea of how old the baby is/when you got pregnant. But not an exact, certain date. So, considering that you had sex with both your boyfriend and your ex near the time you probably conceived, either one could be the father. I would urge you to have a DNA test sooner rather than later and not to just wait and see if the baby looks like he has a black or white father. Your baby, his father and you all deserve to know, without any doubt, who his biological father is - only a blood test can tell you this. Good Luck.

MstoMrstoMom851214

kbabytobe said:

Yes I told him as soon as I found out.

Good for you for being honest and owning up to your mistake.  I would still get a DNA test regardless of the color of the baby's skin.  You don't want there to be any doubt in anyone involved's mind for the baby's sake.  Good luck to you, I hope it all works out for the best.

mrscurlygurl

But thanks for the gif-ortunity.

AutumnBonfire

I can't take this seriously at all. In my anatomy scan, the baby kind of looks like an alien, so maybe I was abducted?

VTKatie

Based on those dates, my guess is neither . It was an immaculate conception. Congratulations, you are pregnant with the second coming.

zellatrix

I had sex one time in my conception month. One.freaking.time after trying to get pregnant for years. It really could go either way. I think they can do a DNA test in utero if you have to know now.

cakebatter27

If you weren't charting you don't know exactly and we certainly don't. I'd say a paternity test is in your future unless baby is clearly your boyfriend's or ex's.

I took evolutionary psych in college and the one thing I remember clearly is my professor explaining a one night stand is more likely to conceive than steady, regular sex. Unless your ex was having sex or jacking off, he had a lot of swimmers ready to be ejaculated while your boyfriend was just topping off the tank nightly. Make sense?

cuntasaurusrex

I don't know, but the chances of you being a dirty slut are 100%.

abchittam

I've never heard that before @cakebatter27‌ , but it makes sense!

BoraBoraBaby

I had to come back to see what @aliletz had to say. She did not disappoint.

bewilderingstar

ummmm... let us know how the paternity test works out for ya.

Skeemer

kbabytobe said:

Yes I'm new here. But I know how these forums work. And I know I'll get a lot of shit for this. Before you go bashing-I understand that I was stupid and made a huge mistake that I will never make again. I had sex with my boyfriend all throughout October, without any protection and he was finishing in me every time. I had a one night fling thing with an ex-but stopped the sex before he came because I knew what I was doing was wrong. This was October 21st, 2013. Based off of a dating ultrasound on November 19th 2013, I was 6 weeks and 3 days pregnant. Putting my due date at July 12 2014, and insinuating that I conceived October 19th 2013. Chances of this being my exs child?

Just doing that quoting thingy...

mrscurlygurl

jnnfrrose6

@mrscurlygurl  I was just going to look for that gif!

marsalisails

aliletz said:

I don't know, but the chances of you being a dirty slut are 100%.

I was seriously dancing around this with my comments. Bravo.

I read this thread right before I went to sleep, and as a consequence I dreamt that I had crazy unprotected sex with two guys at the account I'm visiting and freaked out about cheating on my husband and getting pregnant right before I woke up.

I don't know whether to be mad that she made me cry in my sleep, or to thank OP for inducing my first orgasm in weeks.

coybig

This is so good it deserves more than just a recycled popcorn gif. You get my own personal bowl of popcorn.

Skeemer

 

TurtleMonsters

I'd want a paternity test either way considering you'd want to know the child's family's medical history.

Does your SO care who the father is?

email2ash

YIKES!

Everyone is different but I conceived with DH on Oct 13th (my friends wedding) and my due date is July 9th...

You won't know for sure until you get tested.

Is your BF sticking with you?

katnipeverclean

Is this for real? Seeing as how I'm not a geneticist with lab equipment available to me I have no clue who your baby's biological father is. I sure hope you get your stuff together before you become a mom though.

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Is this the new Trollin' Tuesday thread?

Huahine

This made my morning.  

So you've told SO.  Have you told the ex?  If it is his kid, it would be nice for him to be able to be there for the birth, seeing how you all are on such good terms.  

What I wouldn't give to be a fly on the wall of that L&D room.

kbabytobe

Yes, luckily my boyfriend is sticking by me. He knows the odds are in his favor and I'm very lucky that he's been so understanding throughout this situation that I've put us in.
I've read a lot about pre ejaculation and it seems that the major risk with the 'pull out method' is that guys tend to pull out too late-not the actual pre ejaculate itself. Wether this is true or not, I don't know.
Also, to those judging me and calling me a slut I understand how it seems. Although I've only been with these two guys and one other person in my life.
I'm very young, 19. And while I'm NOT a slut, yes I did a very slutty thing. I understand this obviously, but you have to make mistakes to learn from them and trust me I HAVE. I encourage all of my friends to use condoms and make sure they're safe.

On another note, I had just had my implanon removed (due to awful bleeding) and I haven't gotten a period yet, SO I THOUGHT I COULDNT GET PREGNANT. very stupid assumption, I know.

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Skeemer

kbabytobe said:

Yes, luckily my boyfriend is sticking by me. He knows the odds are in his favor and I'm very lucky that he's been so understanding throughout this situation that I've put us in. I've read a lot about pre ejaculation and it seems that the major risk with the 'pull out method' is that guys tend to pull out too late-not the actual pre ejaculate itself. Wether this is true or not, I don't know. Also, to those judging me and calling me a slut I understand how it seems. Although I've only been with these two guys and one other person in my life. I'm very young, 19. And while I'm NOT a slut, yes I did a very slutty thing. I understand this obviously, but you have to make mistakes to learn from them and trust me I HAVE. I encourage all of my friends to use condoms and make sure they're safe. On another note, I had just had my implanon removed (due to awful bleeding) and I haven't gotten a period yet, SO I THOUGHT I COULDNT GET PREGNANT. very stupid assumption, I know.

I think if this were real you'd be calling us bullies & feeling sorry for our children by now instead of "understanding how it seems" to us.

I'm calling bullcrap.

 

 

kbabytobe

I've already been tested for STDs. That's the first thing I did when I got a positive pregnancy test.

You're calling me a troll because I'm NOT here to cause drama? That's a new one. I'm not going to talk about your children because I'm being judged? I may not have been mature enough to use my head the day I had sex with my ex, but I'm mature enough to NOT argue with other expectant mothers over a pregnancy forum.

Skeemer

kbabytobe said:

I've already been tested for STDs. That's the first thing I did when I got a positive pregnancy test. You're calling me a troll because I'm NOT here to cause drama? That's a new one. I'm not going to talk about your children because I'm being judged? I may not have been mature enough to use my head the day I had sex with my ex, but I'm mature enough to NOT argue with other expectant mothers over a pregnancy forum.

Big+Lil

Just get a paternity test, report back. Thanks.

katnipeverclean

kbabytobe said:

Yes, luckily my boyfriend is sticking by me. He knows the odds are in his favor and I'm very lucky that he's been so understanding throughout this situation that I've put us in. I've read a lot about pre ejaculation and it seems that the major risk with the 'pull out method' is that guys tend to pull out too late-not the actual pre ejaculate itself. Wether this is true or not, I don't know. Also, to those judging me and calling me a slut I understand how it seems. Although I've only been with these two guys and one other person in my life. I'm very young, 19. And while I'm NOT a slut, yes I did a very slutty thing. I understand this obviously, but you have to make mistakes to learn from them and trust me I HAVE. I encourage all of my friends to use condoms and make sure they're safe. On another note, I had just had my implanon removed (due to awful bleeding) and I haven't gotten a period yet, SO I THOUGHT I COULDNT GET PREGNANT. very stupid assumption, I know.

Seriously, your age has nothing to do with it. If you don't know how babies are made by the time you are 19 then you must be lacking in common sense. It's basic biology. I'm pretty sure they teach it in every highschool out there. That's so lame.

 ETA: This attitude infuriates me and I hope to God my daughter never tries the young and stupid card with me.