Biting

tig594

Soooo....how does your daycare handle biters?

20thirteen

I believe after the first bite, the parent gets an incident report, after the second the parent gets a stern talking to. After the 3rd, I know something happens that sounded extreme but I don't recall. I know that there was a girl that was a biter and after her third strike she hasn't been around.

eg214

Oof. It's been a long time since I taught but I'm pretty sure one school it was just incident reports, parent conferences if it got out of hand, and that's pretty much it. I don't think they kicked kids out for biting bc all parents know it's inevitable. On the other hand, I will flip shits when it happens to Emmalynn. LOL

tig594

I really want to freak about it but i know stuff like this is going to happen.  At least the biter didn't break Aria's skin.  The thing that pisses me off is their way of handling it.  They don't talk to the parent at all because they prefer to focus on the positive and mentioned something about licensing.  So, their kid bites my kid and I have to hear a negative when I pick my kid up and they hear nothing about it?  Ridiculous.  Actually, the biter bit two kids today.  The other kid's mom works in the wobbler room where DD is and she wasn't that happy about it either.  How can the parents correct the problem if they don't know it's happening?  And they need a warning.  I don't expect them to be booted right out but if they can't correct the behavior maybe a suspension or something.  I don't know.  I know if it were my kid biting I'd be pissed if she couldn't go to day care.  Such a catch 22. 

eg214

Yeah I think it mattered if skin was broken or not. I wanna say if skin wasn't broken then parents weren't really told. IDK. I taught 2's and 4's so I didn't have a problem in my classroom. Just heard about our policy and heard about other classrooms. 

I don't get the negative and the mention of licensing. That sounds ridiculous. Whatever you do, I wouldn't hold it against the teacher. It's probably the Director who sucks and the teacher is just following the sucky policy. I think all parties should be notified either verbally or with a note in the kids backpack, that it happened and it's being corrected in the classroom and should be corrected at home/that the parents of the child were spoken to on how to correct the behavior.

I totally forgot this is one of the things I have to look forward to.

Regardless, the teacher needs to keep a closer eye on said child and perhaps semi isolate him from other kids. I mean, not totally but like sit next to him when he's with other kids so she can stop the behavior right before it begins. I know easier said than done but...something has to be done.

20thirteen

I don't think they kicked her out, I just don't see her in the infant room anymore. Good thing for me, not just because she was a biter, but her dad was a prick!

MinnesotaMomma91

Mine i a bited to. So far hes only bit me. But it hurts. Unfortunatley bentley has decided biting me is his way of telling me he wants to go to bed.

freeatlast2014

Oh I wish I hadn't read this.

Timmy is biting. A lot. He's 19 months. He bit 4 children at school, and 1 teacher. I had no idea until the 3rd incident because my STBXH picks them up 2 out of 3 days and never told me this happened. I have spoken to our pedi, the director, and I try to keep consistent at home with when he bites (he has bit me 3 times in just 1 week and broke skin once, bit my son, my brother, my sister). It's really really bad. I don't know what else to do. We tell him "NO BITE" and then I ignore him for a few minutes. I know that at school he is put in a thinking chair, that he knows it is wrong. It happens so so quickly. You might think he is going to give a hug, and BAM he got you (this is what happened on Monday). They write me emails and a letter in his lunch bag now. The director also emails their dad. The other child gets an incident report.

I am so afraid he will get kicked out but I don't know what else I can do. He's 19 months after all. I know he's probably acting out in addition to this being a stage because of all that is happening at home. I hate to think the other moms are thinking like you guys but I can see why they would.

jellybean529

When DD was little (age 1-2)  she had a ruthless biter in her class. I'm not the kind of parent to freak out about that kind of thing so it didn't bug me too much, especially since every time it happened I would get an "accident report" so I knew there was adequate supervision. They never give the name of the kid who did the biting, just that the biting happened, so there's no animosity between parents. (Though in this case, the daycare teacher was also the biter's mom so she told me...haha.) Our discipline policy stated that they would use redirection and positive reinforcement to discourage the behavior.

Babies are gonna bite, it's a fact of life. unfortunately. 

freeatlast2014

We went to the park today and I felt the need to tell any parent of kids my kid was near that he is a biter. Maybe I should make him a shirt. I have 2 running in opposite directions so realistically I can't be there to prevent it if my eyes are on the older one. 

"Beware, I bite." Navy shirt with lime green writing. Should work.

tig594

I realize it's gonna happen but that doesn't mean I have to like it.  

I also don't think it's fair to the biter.  Her parents aren't being made aware she's doing it at day care although I'd think they'd know cause she's probably doing it at home, too. The teachers are also putting the biter in a crib or bouncer when they have to change diapers, make food, etc so she can't bite anyone.  As busy as they are it's not fair if one kid is stuck in a bouncy all day.  The biter also just went through a scratching phase and we had 3-4 incident reports for that.  

Someone told me you should (gently) bite them back so they know it hurts.  I couldn't imagine biting DD.  I guess if it got really bad, though....

freeatlast2014

tig594 said:

I realize it's gonna happen but that doesn't mean I have to like it.  

I also don't think it's fair to the biter.  Her parents aren't being made aware she's doing it at day care although I'd think they'd know cause she's probably doing it at home, too. The teachers are also putting the biter in a crib or bouncer when they have to change diapers, make food, etc so she can't bite anyone.  As busy as they are it's not fair if one kid is stuck in a bouncy all day.  The biter also just went through a scratching phase and we had 3-4 incident reports for that.  

Someone told me you should (gently) bite them back so they know it hurts.  I couldn't imagine biting DD.  I guess if it got really bad, though....

People keep telling me to bite my kid, I'm not going to do it.

MinnesotaMomma91

Excited30 said:

MrsLynnyD said:

I realize it's gonna happen but that doesn't mean I have to like it.  

I also don't think it's fair to the biter.  Her parents aren't being made aware she's doing it at day care although I'd think they'd know cause she's probably doing it at home, too. The teachers are also putting the biter in a crib or bouncer when they have to change diapers, make food, etc so she can't bite anyone.  As busy as they are it's not fair if one kid is stuck in a bouncy all day.  The biter also just went through a scratching phase and we had 3-4 incident reports for that.  

Someone told me you should (gently) bite them back so they know it hurts.  I couldn't imagine biting DD.  I guess if it got really bad, though....

People keep telling me to bite my kid, I'm not going to do it.

Same here, and nope, not doing it either.  I just don't feel good about it and even if it's a quicker route to her learning, I'm not willing to take it

Bentley and my 2 year old nephew both bite when they are tired. Not sure what to tell you about getting them to stop but maybe there is a reason for the biting