12 dpo bfn depressed : (

pearbearboo

I really thought this month was it! I used ovulation kit, did it on the right days and some more! Still, I am sitting here with a bfn. Words of wisdom????

jnnfrrose6

Are you temping?  OPKs only tell you your body is gearing up to ovulate, not that you did ovulate.  You can get multiple +OPKs in the same cycle.  Temping is the only way to confirm ovulation (after a sustained temp rise of 3 days), therefore knowing if you had sex during your fertility window, and exactly how many DPO you are.

If you aren't temping, you can't be be sure you're 12 DPO.  Test once a week until AF comes or you get a +HPT.

pearbearboo

Ah! Ok, I will go and buy a thermometer today! Thank you : )

Twinkie0612

Sorry about the BFN. Even with well timed sex, you only have about a 20% chance of conceiving each month. Humans are not very efficient at reproduction.

pearbearboo

I know... But so frustrated! It's raining babies all around me.

annibes

Been there for a lot of cycles, it sucks. It's scary to be so helpless- I think that's why the 2WW is so hard. Once O is over, it's really out of our hands! Good luck!

Jags8

@jnnfrrose6‌ and @Twinkie0612‌ both said everything I would have. Also, a completely healthy couple doing everything "right" could still take up to a year to get pregnant. Not much more you can do than chart and have sex!

jnnfrrose6

pearbearboo said:

Ah! Ok, I will go and buy a thermometer today! Thank you : )

Do it.  And look into Fertility Friend.  It's has extremely useful information about how our cycles work (the different phases), how temping can help you get a handle on what your body is doing, and makes it easy to track your temps.  Pretty sure I'd go crazy if I didn't learn about that resource from this site.

pearbearboo

Got it!

pearbearboo

Thanks everyone! I did not tell any friends or family that I'm trying. I just did not want to hear them asking all the time. At least I found great support here! : D

jswanson1987

pearbearboo said:

Thanks everyone! I did not tell any friends or family that I'm trying. I just did not want to hear them asking all the time. At least I found great support here! : D

we made the mistake of sharing that we were trying and yes, everyone asks us now if we are pregnant. it's driving me even more crazy now!!!

ImJessesGirl

Make sure you get a basal thermometer. Not a regular one. The basal thermometers can be found near the family planning section - pregnancy tests, OPKs etc.