Biting

dlbello23

Dd has started the biting phase. Yesterday she bit me so bad on my leg, she ripped a piece of skin off! There is no warning either she was laying on my lap and just decided to bite me. Of course I yelled because it hurt and grabbed her face and said " no bite" I just don't think she gets it. She has bitten a couple of times before, we tell her the same thing, no bite, do nice. Today she has tried to bite me several times, and pinch and she's also big into pulling my hair. She doesnt do it to other people, just me. Someone suggested putting her in her crib, I think I'm just going to pull a super nanny and put her in time out a million times until she gets it. She will eventually get it! Anyone else have a child that likes to beat them up or is my dd just special lol

kescalera

Killian has started hitting (just me or DH) when he gets mad now. He will actually run across the room to try to wack me in the leg and then start crying & want to be picked up. We will hold both his hands and tell him no hitting, we understand he's frustrated/angry/upset/etc. but we don't hit other people because it hurts Mommy/Daddy. He threw a tupperware container at me yesterday but had such a silly look on his face I had to make DH do the "discipline" part because I couldn't keep a straight face.

I've heard its just a phase & as long as you're consistant with whatever discipline methods works for you then it'll pass.

perfectlove09

I say it every time and I always will. Positive disapline and avoid saying "no!" And defiantly never be physical. They learn SO much faster this way and for the right reason. They learn something's wrong because you tell them and explain it. Not because of fear

We tell DD "Alivia, we don't hit/throw stuff/fill in the blank" and shake our head no. Then we redirect her. She gets it after just a few times.

Timeout doesn't teach them why they can't do something. It teaches them that they are going to be stuck in a corner and asked to sit still which is virtually impossible for them at this age so it just makes you and LO mad.

This really really really has worked very well for us.

ExcitedAunt2b

Morgan bit me once, but it was an accident.  She hasn't bitten anyone but she hits, and pulls my hair.  She doesn't do it to DH only me, and I tell her "hitting hurts" and put her down and walk away if I'm holding her.  If she runs at me hitting then I redirect her and walk away. 

As for the pulilng of hair, I think it's because she's curious (or mad that I pull her hair when it gets pulled up).

JessAnnJ

When DD is a little older we will start with time out. For now when she hits I grab her arm to stop the hitting and tell her not to hit and that it is not nice. This happens most often when I pick her up and take her away from something she wants to do. It has gotten significantly better and she is no longer hitting me in the face.

With biting this hasn't happened that many times but like you it was out of nowhere and I yelled once as well because it really hurt and it surprised me. I was standing and she bit the inside of my leg the time that I yelled. Other times what I do is tell her no biting, it's not nice. I'm also working on teaching her to apologize. Today she threw a book at me and DH and I told her it was not nice and she said "sorry mommy" and gave me a hug and a kiss. I was pretty shocked that she said that without prompting. I have no doubt that she knows she is not supposed to hit or bite, but right now she can't control her emotions when she gets mad.

Oh, and we do say no to DD. Quite a lot in fact because she knows what it means, but we do explain why after we say no.

SingleMom31

Isa doesn't generally bite out of anger, but she's been chewing on everything and has tried us. I don't blame her since I'm sure her teeth hurt. We just re-direct her to something else.

She does hit though. We've been holding her hands and telling her not to hit. Generally, it's because we took something away and she's mad and can't find any other way to express it.

perfectlove09

The pp has a good point. Sometimes/usually really, they don't know how to express themselves

I wanted to add after noticing what else we do...when she does something good that's the opposite of what we told her not to do we'll say "thank you for --------" and that really helps drive home the point that we thank her for doing the right thing and we don't when she does something wrong. It's pretty funny actually how she responds to us telling her not to do something. Yesterday on our back deck she wanted to open the outlet cover. I said "Alivia, we don't open that, but you can play with this" and I handed her her watering can. So she looks at my mother in law and I and points to the outlet over and shakes her head no, then picks up her watering can and shakes her head yes and did that like 3 times. Then she walked around the deck pointing at things and looking at us to see if it was a yes or a no. This is all the time with anything we're teaching her. They pick it up pretty quick