Need a little reassurance.... UPDATE!

heathera1979

There is nothing wrong that I know of.  I have no symptoms to tell me anything is wrong, but I am terrified that when we go to the Dr on Wed for an ultrasound, something will be wrong.  I heard the heartbeat less than 3 weeks ago at work, I'm leaking a little colostrum and I think I feel her moving at times, but for a few days before every appt I get so nervous.  Will I ever be comfortable and know everything is going to be ok?  Sorry, just crazy paranoia, I guess.

UPDATE: just as everyone (including me) suspected. All my fears were unfounded. She's perfect!

lrobi13

Girl, I hear you!  I have my appointment today and I am going crazy.  I don't even feel movement yet so it is really nerve-racking.  All we can do is hope for the best and just breathe.  There is nothing we can do to make anything change.

I am assuming this is the start to a lifetime of worrying!  But fx crossed that you have a great appointment on Wednesday.

Emerald27

I'm on pregnancy number 2 and I still freak out a few days before every appointment thinking; "Am I still pregnant?"

I think it's completely normal to feel nervous, but I keep hoping I'll get over it someday.

anniec85

I agree with the PP, I get a little nervous the week before each appointment. I had really bad anxiety about something happening early on and the ladies here were so helpful in reassuring me. Really, if something was wrong, there's nothing you can do, so just try to enjoy each day and not stress about it. Somehow that just really helped me and allowed me to embrace each day and add some excitement into the whole pregnancy vs. being stressed about everything all the time.

IrishHoney123

The anxiety is normal, and doesn't seem to ever stop with parenthood. Deep breaths! 

DaniW1984

I hear you too. Next appointment is 10 days away.....

Just think positive and know your babes okay.

cmcookaln

I am the same way.  I get so nervous for the two or three days leading up to my appointment because I am so afraid that I will get bad news (been there, done that before). I convinced myself after my last appointment that I was finally over the fear and that there is nothing to worry about because everything looked great.  I still haven't felt him/her move yet and my systems have all but disappeared except for a little breast tenderness.  I just want to feel him/her move so that I can finally relax. The doctor said that once I get to that point, I won't have to worry because the baby's movement will be a constant reminder that everything is okay. 

ariel06

I'm always nervous until I've had the anatomy scan and I feel movement regularly.  

narabug

I get nervous before my appointments too. My ob asked me today if I'm nervous when I get there because my BP is a little higher than she thought it would be based on the rest of my health, but not high enough to worry about.

Try not to worry too much.

heathera1979

Thanks everyone! It does help to know it's not just me. I'm hoping when I feel her all the time I might feel more comfortable.

mcclan03

I'm right there with you. I'm always worried between appointments. My sis is sending me her doppler, which helped her a lot when she was preggie until she could feel the baby's movements regularly.

ohioloveyou

Totally understand. I never thought I would be so nervous as I am usually a cool cucumber when it comes to doctors appointments.

Maggie6424

After the loss we had, I get nervous. However, I have a doppler at home so I listen to peanut for a few seconds every other day so. It definitely helps. Hopefully everything is great at your appt!

Glas43

So glad to read this and know i'm not alone! I am just finishing up my strong regiment of antibiotics from the bladder infection i managed to get and im paranoid about having taken medication( doc said it was safe during pregnancy). Having not really knowing if ive felt the baby for sure or not with kicks my anxiety level for the anatomy scan that is on May 14 is rising. Im trying to just enjoy things and not het myself worked up. I really hope that all works out well for you on wesnesday! Keeping you in my prayers!

Raesofsunshine1

Nicb13 said:

Emerald27 said:

I'm on pregnancy number 2 and I still freak out a few days before every appointment thinking; "Am I still pregnant?"

I think it's completely normal to feel nervous, but I keep hoping I'll get over it someday.

Same here!

We have our anatomy scan Wednesday but I'm more concerned about baby being ok than learning the sex!

Totally normal OP.

Exactly what I was going to say. I have started to feel the baby now but I still get nervous. I dont think it ever goes away.

MrsSinner402

My fetal doppler has been a godsend. We listen to bebe every other day and it helps so much .

BreandMikewedding

I feel the same way! I was supposed to go 6 weeks between appts because of when my a/s needs to be. I told my dr I couldn't handle going that long between appts so I came back after 2 weeks and then another 4 weeks. It gets better for me once I can feel them move more regularly. I also figure out what makes them really kick and eat or drink that when I need some reassurance.

jusmale

I felt the same way early on in this pregnancy because I had a loss last year with my first pregnancy. Everything with this one has been great so far and since the 12 week ultrasound when I got to see the baby bouncing around and hear the heartbeat, I don't worry any more. I haven't yet felt the baby move at 18 weeks, but I know it will be any day and I don't let myself get nervous or stressed about it. I believe that as long as I feel good and I see my bump growing, I know the baby is fine. I strongly believe in the power of positive thinking - mind over matter!

golfingdarwinfish

I think you are in good company!  

I've had a multitude of issues in past pregnancies which I won't list here because I don't want to make anyone stress even more, but the info is in my sig for anyone interested.

My therapist and I spoke on Saturday about fear, paranoia, and specifically my fear of hope.  We discussed the fact that what is happening is 100% out of my control and that the most one can do during pregnancy is live each day in the present and not become bogged down by "what ifs" and things that are 1,000,000% out of our our hands.  I keep reminding myself of this moving into our early a/s next Monday.

megaddie

I have this going on as well--haven't felt my baby yet, but saw him last Monday, wiggling a bit, heart beating....I go in next Wed at 19 weeks for my u/s...not gonna lie, I'm a little scared!