Things I Wish I knew Before TTC

jennypolkadots

I guess for us we were shocked how quickly it happened. We planned to start ttc in May, thinking that it usually takes a few months and we weren't going to time things. I ovulated May 16th and got that BFP test on May 26th. We are still sort of shocked because everyone kept saying it could take up to a year. 

The most annoying thing about being pregnant so far is knowing I am not showing and random family being like "oooooh I see a little bump!" when there is really nothing there. They all have bigger bumps than me and need to shut up already. Eventually it will be obvious.

Oh and getting grief if your pregnancy is not exactly like theirs. Haven't gained any weight yet? Oh you need to eat more. This is hurtful and not true. I log my food and get excellent nutrition, my body will gain as it needs to but I likely won't end up with 50+ lbs to lose. 

happynluv411

TTC is not always easy for everyone. It took me 5 years, with 2 year with a reproductive specialist. You don't realize what you'll do when you want something so badly. Example: I'm afraid of needles but had to give myself shots to help ensure my hormone levels would allow for pregnancy to happen. The whole process can be very emotionally taxing!

rumbuba

I wish I knew that as well as it taking longer to conceive it can also be much faster so be prepared either way. I expected it would take DH and I a few years as I have severe PCOS, but after our third "try" in our first week of trying, we conceived! 

DH was over the moon, I was in complete and utter shock. Happy but absolutely terrified it all happened so quickly and we were just not expecting it.

I think I've calmed down a bit now though, I am halfway.

Catyra2

I an having my second one and my bladder is not what it was before. Now any little sneeze makes me pee on myself :-)

TNBBell

I became pregnant shortly after I stopped taking BC pills. We were excited in march to be pregnant and in April we were told there was no heartbeat and the baby had not grown. We had to have a miscarriage.

A month later I was pregnant again but I've had unexplainable bleeding. Can't do too much activity cause I get cramps. I'm constantly nauseous. I've been told all this is 'normal' yet people are surprised I'm not jumping for joy at being pregnant. I'm scared. I feel sick. And I do wish that I could be happier and share with the world. I'm scared to jinx it. I'm exhausted. I go to sleep around 10pm and am wide awake between 2am-5am. I go back to sleep just in time for my alarm to go off to go to work.

I don't want to sound ungrateful. I feel fortunate that everything is looking good and healthy but it does seem like torture at times. I love planning the nursery. Imagining my baby boy in all the cute baby clothes. I can't wait! I'm 16.5 weeks but I just have to be patient.

MRSshoup14

I wish I had known that sometimes it doesn't take long to conceive. I had my BC removed and had a positive pregnancy test within 3 weeks! You can be sick, very sick.. all day, every day. And men will have NO idea what you're going through (and sometimes no sympathy). And finally, the hormones are no joke. You can laugh one minute, and then cry the next. Find someone (preferably a woman who has gone through it) that you can confide in and complain and cry to. It will help.. a lot! 14 weeks, still sick and hormonal, but trucking through! 

Jenilee1290

I got pregnant the first try after we pulled the goalie too! Sooo not expected. We just decided we weren't gonna worry about a "schedule" or what positions were "conducive for conception"... we just wanted to do our thing and see what happened. And it happened immediately!! We were happy of course but thrown off a little

smmarco85

I wish I would have known a few things...

1. How insane the hormones really are! I was a total and complete nut job, all over the place for weeks before I found out I was pregnant... both times. The second time that's what tipped me off to take a test knowing how crazy I was the last time... SURPRISE preggo again!

2. I agree with Snephals, I wish I knew that it was totally normal to question whether getting pregnant was a good thing. I was in complete panic mode for a while after I got pregnant. I felt so guilty that I felt that way and didn't really talk to anyone about it. When I did finally talk to someone about it, turned out that I wasn't the only person to ever feel that way. It was very relieving and suddenly I didn't feel like such a crappy person anymore.

3. There really (at least for me) wasn't a pregnancy glow. There was sweat and flushed cheeks because I was HOT HOT HOT all the time. There was heartburn, peeing your pants, gas like you can't even wrap your head around, literally its so awful it could be bottled and sold as a weapon of mass destruction. The pooping... oh man talk about all over the place. One second you are going every two minutes, then suddenly you aren't going for days and when you do you are sitting there saying to yourself, dear lord, this MUST be what giving birth feels like. All the little fun side effects of hormone changes that I didn't have the slightest clue about.

4.Lastly that you can be so insanely exhausted after giving birth that there are simply no tears to be shed. I actually said "I should be crying right now because I am so happy but I just can't, I am way to tired". I felt bad about that for a few days that I didn't cry, but honestly, there was just no energy left in me to be able to cry, and that's ok. It does NOT make you a bad or ungrateful person.

 

Those are just a few of the things that I wish I would have known BEFORE getting pregnant

daisymaypauline81

The first trimester kind of sucks.  I had planned on taking a super heavy course load to finish my degree but I had to cut it back and take a smaller course load.  Also it can happen quite fast.  It took us like two months of trying and we are not the youngest in the world.  I am 33 and my husband is 40.

Aqua2150

Or that it can take a lot longer than you expect...........

lexyraejay

@ScubaMomma‌, unless there's more to the story, your doctor couldn't know that those conditions caused the miscarriage of your baby. Most miscarriages happen because there is a pre-existing issue with the baby, not because of anything the mother did. I'm so sorry that you went through that and I pray that even as you morn the loss of that child, your heart will heal in a healthy way. I pray also that you have a safe and healthy pregnancy this time around. O:-)

rissamonster87

I wish that someone had told me to relax while trying to conceive, because it doesn't always happen on our timeline.

I also wish that someone had given me a head's up about the worry that would set in the second I found out that I was pregnant.