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13 DPO and BFN :( Anyone still ended up BFP after?

*Sigh*, so this is about our 4 month TTC for our first baby.  I'm confident I implanted at 6 DPO this month (temp dip, pain, soreness).  

I have a regular 28 day cycle and AF is due tomorrow.  Usually my temp drops a few days before or a day before, so when I woke up this morning and saw that it didn't, I was really hopeful, only to be smacked in the face with a BFN at 13 DPO.  Anyways, anyone tested at 13 DPO to get a BFN only to end up really being preggers?  

I will find out tomorrow I guess...it's going to be a looooong day.  
Me: 35, DH: 33
TTC for first baby since 11/13
Charting BBT

Re: 13 DPO and BFN :( Anyone still ended up BFP after?

  • Well gonna start out by saying have you introduced on this board? If not we have a set of guidelines for new members. Please read it. If you have welcome. Yes the best time to test is the day of your missed period. Anytime before that can be negative. I also want to add if you get a + in a couple days and post. Please place a warning in the subject line. Some women on this board are having fertility issues and losses. Thank you and good luck on your ttc journey!
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  • Thanks! I just posted a short intro :) and have noted the guidelines.  
    Me: 35, DH: 33
    TTC for first baby since 11/13
    Charting BBT
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  • Sounds too early to me!  But hopeful. I always try to wait to test until the day after my period is due. Doesn't always work like that but I have been getting my period on that day, so figure, just wait and if it doesn't come then it is VERY good news.  Also, do you take your temp?  That always shows me the temperature drop which confirms AF is coming. Then you don't have to waste $$$ on tests.
    TTC#1 since Aug 2013, I'm 37, DH 41.  
    Maya Arvigo Abdominal massage (daily self care), plus TTC meditations.
    I'm very sensitive to diet (gluten, avoid processed foods) and environment. Have a history of inflammation and tendinitis before going off gluten in 2009.  
    July 2014 - RE Visit #1: Eggs look good, Endometrioma on R ovary, HSG showed blocked R tube close to ovary. DH SA normal 
    DX: Endometriosis probably the IF cause and gunking up tubes.  Since egg reserve is high, RE says I can wait a couple months and then get laproscopic surgery to remove endo & clear tube.  If that doesn't help then move to IVF. 
    Dec 2014 - Saw new RE - does not recommend surgery on tube as it isn't likely to help.  Doubts I have endometriosis.  My endometrioma shrunk to neglible size (yay!) 
    Seriously considering IVF in March/April
    12/17/14 - Natural BFP! 
  • edited May 2014
    Hello!

    Just a quick introduction 

    Me: 35, DH 33 TTC since 11/13
    First time TTC.
    Was just going to "let it happen", then 3 months went by and I said, well, lets try the "scientific" way. So I've been charting since February.  Learning a lot about my body (some a little gross).  Now I know what that pain is (ovulation) ... seriously thought something was wrong with me as I've never had it before (started only 2 years ago) - weird.

    My midwife said to come back after 6 months of TTC, so...crossing fingers for this month.

    Good luck everyone!
    Me: 35, DH: 33
    TTC for first baby since 11/13
    Charting BBT
  • Hi! You should post this on a new thread to make it "official" b/c not everyone reads the comments here.  Yay and welcome!
    TTC#1 since Aug 2013, I'm 37, DH 41.  
    Maya Arvigo Abdominal massage (daily self care), plus TTC meditations.
    I'm very sensitive to diet (gluten, avoid processed foods) and environment. Have a history of inflammation and tendinitis before going off gluten in 2009.  
    July 2014 - RE Visit #1: Eggs look good, Endometrioma on R ovary, HSG showed blocked R tube close to ovary. DH SA normal 
    DX: Endometriosis probably the IF cause and gunking up tubes.  Since egg reserve is high, RE says I can wait a couple months and then get laproscopic surgery to remove endo & clear tube.  If that doesn't help then move to IVF. 
    Dec 2014 - Saw new RE - does not recommend surgery on tube as it isn't likely to help.  Doubts I have endometriosis.  My endometrioma shrunk to neglible size (yay!) 
    Seriously considering IVF in March/April
    12/17/14 - Natural BFP! 
  • I do chart my temp...and it didn't drop, so I was hopeful when I tested, but BFN.  I guess I'm still in the obsessive testing phase...I tested at 10 DPO too (I read that after implantation it takes about 3-4 days for your HCG to show up).

    Of course, I could just be imagining implantation too.

    I'm new, so I'm sorry if I am writing silly things :/ 
    Me: 35, DH: 33
    TTC for first baby since 11/13
    Charting BBT
  • Hi Ciara, and welcome! I hope that you receive your BFP soon. 

    You are not out if you didn't receive a BFP at 10DPO. Here is the HPT accuracy depending on DPO:

    HPT accuracy DPO
    10 dpo : 35%
    11 dpo : 51%
    12 dpo : 62%
    13 dpo : 68%
    14 dpo : 74%
    15 dpo : 80%
    16 dpo : 88%
    17 dpo : 92%
    18 dpo : 99%

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  • Thanks for the welcome everyone!

    That's very interesting Sunshine!  I read somewhere (Countdown to Pregnancy) that the accuracy was 87% (from real results), so now based yours, 13 DPO is 68%...makes me feel a little better!



    Me: 35, DH: 33
    TTC for first baby since 11/13
    Charting BBT
  • Very interesting.  @URMySunshine77 and @ciara_test, does it specify anywhere what kind of test (how sensitive) these numbers are based on?  Or is it some kind of overall average?
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  • I've been temping/charting for around a year and a half, and probably the biggest thing I've learned is that temping/charting is not meant for predicting pregnancy - it's really only meant to confirm ovulation so as to have the best timing possible.  When I first started charting I was obsessive about every temp, every dip, recorded every twinge, gas bubble, cramp, and feeling I could in the hopes of seeing something in all of that to tell me what I wanted to hear.  I've had the most beautiful charts end up with BFNs, and the one BFP I did have (that ended in a loss over a year ago) was a pretty ugly chart really - there's no consistency there.  Most cycles I have a supposed 'implantation dip' at about the 'right' time, but I'm still not pregnant.  My temp usually goes down a day or two before my period arrives, but I've also had cycles where the temp drop happened either two days after AF arrived or three or four days before.  Again, no consistency there.

    I guess what I'm trying to tell you is to relax and try not to read too much into your chart, at least in terms of trying to read a pregnancy into it.  I've been there, done that for too many cycles only to be devastated when what I thought were sure signs of a BFP turned out not to be.  It's too hard on my poor heart to keep staring at my chart and getting my hopes up, so I now restrict myself to being happy when my chart confirms ovulation and I don't expect anything more from it after that. 


         

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  • gscoville) said... after temping for 6 months, I am all over the place and yes, it's good only for determining ovulation and if I get pregnant (God willing, this month! ;)  then it will confirm it by not going down.  But yea, I get 'implantation dips' too.  I have noticed that my temp dips on the day that my OPK says I'm about to ovulate.  (That is today! weeeee, almost in the 2WW!)
    TTC#1 since Aug 2013, I'm 37, DH 41.  
    Maya Arvigo Abdominal massage (daily self care), plus TTC meditations.
    I'm very sensitive to diet (gluten, avoid processed foods) and environment. Have a history of inflammation and tendinitis before going off gluten in 2009.  
    July 2014 - RE Visit #1: Eggs look good, Endometrioma on R ovary, HSG showed blocked R tube close to ovary. DH SA normal 
    DX: Endometriosis probably the IF cause and gunking up tubes.  Since egg reserve is high, RE says I can wait a couple months and then get laproscopic surgery to remove endo & clear tube.  If that doesn't help then move to IVF. 
    Dec 2014 - Saw new RE - does not recommend surgery on tube as it isn't likely to help.  Doubts I have endometriosis.  My endometrioma shrunk to neglible size (yay!) 
    Seriously considering IVF in March/April
    12/17/14 - Natural BFP! 
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  • edited May 2014
    @Davie813


    Yes, I've been so obsessed with this chart, sometimes I wish I hadn't discovered it!  I might just stop charting after O from now on.  Thanks for telling me about your charting experience, I don't have enough data to know whether it's normal to have the temp drop a day before AF or several days before because I've seen both on my chart.  I will *try* to relax.   I have friends who are younger than I am who have taken over a year to conceive and here I am worried about 6 months.


    Good luck!!!
    Me: 35, DH: 33
    TTC for first baby since 11/13
    Charting BBT
  • gscoville said:

    I guess what I'm trying to tell you is to relax and try not to read too much into your chart, at least in terms of trying to read a pregnancy into it.  I've been there, done that for too many cycles only to be devastated when what I thought were sure signs of a BFP turned out not to be.  It's too hard on my poor heart to keep staring at my chart and getting my hopes up, so I now restrict myself to being happy when my chart confirms ovulation and I don't expect anything more from it after that. 
    This is just what I needed to hear today. Thanks, @gscoville. You are wise, as always.

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  • The thing about charting is really every month is different, so you get to know what is more or less normal for you, but things can change that will throw everything you knew into a tizzy.

    For me I know I rarely ovulate before about cycle day 20...and have been as late as cycle day 30, when I do O. Some women are fortunate that they O fairly consistant, but having been on this board for so long, I have heard many women say but its always been a certain way and not its not....things change. Don't go crazy reading everything.

    Some one said they might only test until they confirm O, its also important to track your luteal phase.

    Good Luck

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    1 cycle Tamoxifen with Ob,
    Diagnosed PCOS 11/5/12
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    1st clomid IUI 1/4/13 BFN.
    2nd clomid IUI 2/13 cancelled didn't respond to clomid.
    3/15/13 scheduled laparoscopy & on bcp.

    May 10 IUI from injectibles - BFN 

    May 22 done with interventions it will either happen or it won't. 

    February 2014 No longer actively trying, but not preventing. 

    SURPISE BFP 4/2/2015!!!!!!!!!!

    Miscarriage 4/23/15

     

  • edited May 2014
    Boooo, AF came this morning :(

    So this will be my check in for the week:  The OBGYN said to come back after 6 months...and it's been 6 months, so looks like it is time to schedule a visit.

    *sigh*

    LOL, last night I saw my husband looking at those online sperm tests.  
    Me: 35, DH: 33
    TTC for first baby since 11/13
    Charting BBT
  • I'm sorry you got AF.  We're all here for you and many of us have been down the testing, etc. road so feel free to ask any questions you may have.

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  • Sorry AF showed up! You're doing all the right things! Hope next month is "thee" month!
    Cute that your DH was looking at the sperm tests. ;)

    Me: 38 ~  DH: 38 ~   DD: 8
    TTC #2 since March/April 2014.
     
     
  • Argh sorry to hear that AF arrived!  Try to see it as another month that you now have to be super healthy for the baby.... they say the 100 days pre-conception are the most important... or at least are very important.
    TTC#1 since Aug 2013, I'm 37, DH 41.  
    Maya Arvigo Abdominal massage (daily self care), plus TTC meditations.
    I'm very sensitive to diet (gluten, avoid processed foods) and environment. Have a history of inflammation and tendinitis before going off gluten in 2009.  
    July 2014 - RE Visit #1: Eggs look good, Endometrioma on R ovary, HSG showed blocked R tube close to ovary. DH SA normal 
    DX: Endometriosis probably the IF cause and gunking up tubes.  Since egg reserve is high, RE says I can wait a couple months and then get laproscopic surgery to remove endo & clear tube.  If that doesn't help then move to IVF. 
    Dec 2014 - Saw new RE - does not recommend surgery on tube as it isn't likely to help.  Doubts I have endometriosis.  My endometrioma shrunk to neglible size (yay!) 
    Seriously considering IVF in March/April
    12/17/14 - Natural BFP! 
  • Thanks guys!  Now I can take that darn wisdom tooth out without being worried.  Maybe everything happens for a reason.  At least I'd like to think so!

    I will let you know what the doc comes back with !
    Me: 35, DH: 33
    TTC for first baby since 11/13
    Charting BBT
    Radiantly
  • Yea.  My excuse last month was that we could finish our home renovations.  Now it's done, we are READY!  (ps will be a baby in a 1BR.  this is NYC after all.)
    TTC#1 since Aug 2013, I'm 37, DH 41.  
    Maya Arvigo Abdominal massage (daily self care), plus TTC meditations.
    I'm very sensitive to diet (gluten, avoid processed foods) and environment. Have a history of inflammation and tendinitis before going off gluten in 2009.  
    July 2014 - RE Visit #1: Eggs look good, Endometrioma on R ovary, HSG showed blocked R tube close to ovary. DH SA normal 
    DX: Endometriosis probably the IF cause and gunking up tubes.  Since egg reserve is high, RE says I can wait a couple months and then get laproscopic surgery to remove endo & clear tube.  If that doesn't help then move to IVF. 
    Dec 2014 - Saw new RE - does not recommend surgery on tube as it isn't likely to help.  Doubts I have endometriosis.  My endometrioma shrunk to neglible size (yay!) 
    Seriously considering IVF in March/April
    12/17/14 - Natural BFP! 
  • Radiantly said:
    Argh sorry to hear that AF arrived!  Try to see it as another month that you now have to be super healthy for the baby.... they say the 100 days pre-conception are the most important... or at least are very important.
    @Radiantly. I just want to say that you are amazing. 

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  • URMySunshine77 omg thanks! :)
    TTC#1 since Aug 2013, I'm 37, DH 41.  
    Maya Arvigo Abdominal massage (daily self care), plus TTC meditations.
    I'm very sensitive to diet (gluten, avoid processed foods) and environment. Have a history of inflammation and tendinitis before going off gluten in 2009.  
    July 2014 - RE Visit #1: Eggs look good, Endometrioma on R ovary, HSG showed blocked R tube close to ovary. DH SA normal 
    DX: Endometriosis probably the IF cause and gunking up tubes.  Since egg reserve is high, RE says I can wait a couple months and then get laproscopic surgery to remove endo & clear tube.  If that doesn't help then move to IVF. 
    Dec 2014 - Saw new RE - does not recommend surgery on tube as it isn't likely to help.  Doubts I have endometriosis.  My endometrioma shrunk to neglible size (yay!) 
    Seriously considering IVF in March/April
    12/17/14 - Natural BFP! 
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