How to get a girl?

smileybabyboy

Hello.  DH and I have 1 boy who is 20 months old.  We are talking about trying for another child.  I really want 1 of each.  I know it's mainly luck, but anyone have any tips or tricks on how to conceive a girl? I'm so jealous of those with a boy and a girl.  I want to grab those people and say "how did you do it?? tell me your secrets!"  lol.  

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24karat

smileybabyboy said:

Hello.  DH and I have 1 boy who is 20 months old.  We are talking about trying for another child.  I really want 1 of each.  I know it's mainly luck, but anyone have any tips or tricks on how to conceive a girl? I'm so jealous of those with a boy and a girl.  I want to grab those people and say "how did you do it?? tell me your secrets!"  lol.  

#1 Tip: have sex

Seriously though, nothing you do will really change the odds or increase your chances of having a girl vs boy.

theholmanherd

Two things:

1. There are no tricks, like PP said.

2. These posts never go over well.

Everyusernameistaken

Please don't try to have a kid unless you will be happy either way.

Wine&Cupcakes

You get what you get and you don't get upset.

Jags8

:-q

Twinkie0612

NariaDreaming said:

Only guaranteed way- IVF with PGD.

Seriously though- be happy with whatever sex you get. 

Not really guarnateed since you could end up with only male embryos and even with a normal healthy embryo you only have about a 70% chance of success.

I get what you were saying and I get that it wasn't a serious comment, but it's always a bit irritating to me when people throw out IVF as a means of sex selection.  It is still a hot button topic among fertility clinics.  The clinic I went to allowed you to find out the sex of your embryos with one of their PGS options (the other option does not tell you the sex of the embryo), but some clinics won't tell you the sex until after you are pregnant.  I don't know, it just feels like people minimize the process of IVF when they suggest this.  IVF is a physically, financially, and emotionally draining process.

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Mysterious_wife

Why does this get asked weekly?

WestCoastGirl05

 

Mysterious_wife said:

Why does this get asked weekly?

now THIS is a question that actually deserves an answer.

Twinkie0612

NariaDreaming said:

Twinkie0612 said:

NariaDreaming said:

Only guaranteed way- IVF with PGD.

Seriously though- be happy with whatever sex you get. 

Not really guarnateed since you could end up with only male embryos and even with a normal healthy embryo you only have about a 70% chance of success.

I get what you were saying and I get that it wasn't a serious comment, but it's always a bit irritating to me when people throw out IVF as a means of sex selection.  It is still a hot button topic among fertility clinics.  The clinic I went to allowed you to find out the sex of your embryos with one of their PGS options (the other option does not tell you the sex of the embryo), but some clinics won't tell you the sex until after you are pregnant.  I don't know, it just feels like people minimize the process of IVF when they suggest this.  IVF is a physically, financially, and emotionally draining process.

::steps off soapbox::

 

You know I was being TIC. But it is the only honest answer to the question. It's the only way to guarantee you'll have a girl (or no pregnancy at all). 

Then again if someone is obsessed with the genitals of their future offspring to the point that they'd subject themselves to the financial, physical, and emotional hell of IVF with no other medical indication, an RE is not the specialist they need to be seeing. 

Totally know your post was in sarcastic font. I just feel like if you put the option out there someone will take it seriously. BTW, I saw that you were heading down the IVF path. I wanted to say good luck.

ashiscute

I have one of each.  I conceived my DD on a Caribbean cruise so you could try that.

But honestly, I do understand having a preference.  I already had DD so I wanted a boy next.  Unfortunately, I just got lucky.  I didn't do anything special.  

mylittlesunshine

Well I have two girls....we had lots of sex.

But, that could have also easily resulted in a boy. 50/50 shot

smileybabyboy

I truly believe every child is a gift.  I will love either gender my husband and I create.  I won't do the IVF route.  The genders of my future children are not that important to me that I need to do that.  I love my son with all my heart and would love another son just as much.  I just heard of certain methods such as the Shettles Method that was mentioned and was curious if anything like that actually worked.  

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LimaD

Seriously? Having kids isn't like picking out cute little puppies at a pet store. You don't get to pick and choose what you're going to have because they're cute and fun.  Have a second child because you want a second child. Not because you want the other half of a "set". I hate when people say they want "one of each" like they're choosing accessories or something

Helenahhandbasket

smileybabyboy said:

I truly believe every child is a gift.  I will love either gender my husband and I create.  I won't do the IVF route.  The genders of my future children are not that important to me that I need to do that.  I love my son with all my heart and would love another son just as much.  I just heard of certain methods such as the Shettles Method that was mentioned and was curious if anything like that actually worked.  

From my understanding, IVF for gender selection is only done to avoid sex linked specific congenital anonomalies.  Not for funsies.

OP, FTR I understand wanting one of each sex, but lurk a little to get a feel of the culture of this site before you ask a question like this.

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aggiebug

::sarcasm font:: You could adopt.

End sarcasm

While this is true in some typed of adoption think about the joy of having a child and stop focusing on the sex.

MNgirl326

TwinMomma0412 said:

Lol! Oh this post! I love all of the negativity/judgement everyone throws out. 

I have heard many things, I have heard diet, when you conceive and how you have sex. Who knows what is the most accurate and what isn't. There HAVE been scientific facts that may lean one way or the other, BUT none are 100%. So I say research and try whatever works. 

BUT be happy with what you get. I really want a girl because I have two boys already. If I don't have a girl, I will be thrilled no matter what. But it is fun to try and see if we can control it a bit haha! Ignore the negative posts in here. I find that things can get brutal when you ask opinions. Certain topics like gender choosing and abortions should completely be avoided in these rooms. I know there are people who cannot have children and who are desperately trying, so seeing this is hard for them. 

Honestly, I suggest using the site babycenter.com or .ca. I find I am able to ask questions without judgement and ridicule. I come here from time to time to see other references but RARELY post. Although some may say other sites "sugar coat" certain topics, I just feel they are more open minded. 

No need for bullying ladies. We are all Mommies or in the process of becoming mommies. If you don't have something nice to say, probably shouldn't say it at all..

Good luck on your attempts!