day care or nanny?

sweetmama101226

Hi Ladies,

I need a little bit of advice here. I am  FTM and I am feeling soooo overwhelmed about leaving my 2 month old in a day care or with a nanny. I have a feeling of guilt i don't know why. Any one here related to that and how did you started feeling better?  am I making a bad choice? I feel terrible.

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djm31012

everyone has working mom guilt at some point or another. once you find a childcare option you are comfortable with you will feel much better. at 9 months i interviewed 4 nannies and for some reason cried after every single one of them left my house! i went to see 2 daycare centers...felt very comfortable at 1 of them and thats where we are at to this day. just need to go with your gut and do what is best for you/your family.

sweetmama101226

Thank you so much ladies! I feel a little bit more at ease! I hope I can feel better fast. But thank you girls

aglenn

I had major freakouts about this when DD was an infant, too, and again to a lesser degree with DS.  It was just hard, even though I was totally comfortable with our day care situation and knew they would be just fine...I still had a really hard time.  I was totally surprised by it all because I am generally a very down to earth person and never expected to feel that way.

But yes, it does get better.  For me it helped a lot when they got to be older toddlers and started to interact with the other kids and have all kinds of experiences that I wouldn't be able to duplicate if they weren't in day care. 

Also, a book that helped me a lot the first time around was The Working Mom's Guide to Life.  Good luck and hang in there!

emberlee3

I was a nervous wreck about putting DS in daycare at 6 weeks. But he was fine. The only negative was that he got sick so much. That is why I used a nanny when DD was an infant. My mom was very anti-daycare, but now that she has seen DD and DS thrive in daycare, she is a convert.

sweetmama101226

Thanks everyone for their supportive answer and encouragement! we decided to go with a day care that has amazing reviews and cheap. Let's see how everything goes for now, so I hope everything goes well and my guilt goes away

aglenn

One more word of advice - one of the things that helped me through the transition was to set a deadline 3 months out from going back to work where I would reassess the situation and decide if changes needed to be made.  Just having a horizon out there that wasn't infinite helped me cope, and by the time the 3 months were up things were moving along smoothly.

sweetmama101226

Thank you!

sweetmama101226

Thank you! and I wish I could do that but I am the assistant manager and the other girl is the administrative assistant, so believe me, they need me. I am feeling a little bit better because I just have in my mind that We are doing this for the better. anyways, there's only 3 babies in the daycare and my baby would be the 4th one, so they can actually pay more attention to the babies. Thanks everyone for your advice and support.