We got out BFP on 3/17 and were so excited for our baby, due 11/26. Everything was great early on. We saw the heart beat at 6 weeks 6 days. I was measuring a couple of days behind, so they wanted me to come back in a week. I went back the following week. We heard the heartbeat this time and it was a strong 152. Then the tech told us the baby only grew a tiny bit. I was terrified and devastated at this point, but the doctor said he wasn't worried. So we waited another agonizing week to go back to check on our precious baby's growth.
We went in on Wednesday morning for an ultrasound. I had such a bad feeling from the start. The tech didn't say much and we waited for a doctor to arrive for about 45 minutes. I sobbed uncontrollably for the entire time. When the doctor arrived, I panicked because I didn't want to hear him say what I already knew. He told us there was no heartbeat and it was over. That was the worst I have ever felt in my life.
We went home and waited to hear from my regular OB. Around 11 am I began spotting and light cramping. By 5:00, it was the worst cramping, pain, and bleeding I've ever had. The on call doctor had me come into the ER at 8:30 for a d&c. The hospital experience broke my heart even more. We were supposed to rush to the ER months from now when it was time to have our baby. Not under these circumstances.
I'm just so beyond devastated. My husband has been so amazing to me and I know he's hurting too. I can't get over the feeling of emptiness. I'm sad for the loss of the baby we had loved so much already, I'm sad thinking of everything we planned and hoped for, I'm scared, and I don't like the idea of returning to this new normal. We planted a beautiful flower yesterday as a memorial and that makes me feel like the baby is still in our lives.
Sorry for the long post. I haven't had an outlet for my full story and thought this could be a start.
Married 10/10/2009 MC 4/23/2014 BFP 8/1/2014, expecting our rainbow on 4/12/2015
I am so sorry for your loss and welcome to a great community. We found out 4/3 of our blighted ovum and I thought I was going to take the medication to help it along, but opted to let my body take care of it itself. It's almost been four weeks and I've passed nothing. I'm likely having a D&C this week.
My recommendation would be to talk about it. Talk about it with everyone you feel comfortable talking with. I told a friend and she confided in me she also had a miscarriage. With 1/4 women having miscarriages you'll be overwhelmed by the support you'll receive. I also got a therapist which helped talk about some things that I didn't feel comfortable talking with my husband about.
I am so sorry for your loss and welcome to a great community. We found out 4/3 of our blighted ovum and I thought I was going to take the medication to help it along, but opted to let my body take care of it itself. It's almost been four weeks and I've passed nothing. I'm likely having a D&C this week.
My recommendation would be to talk about it. Talk about it with everyone you feel comfortable talking with. I told a friend and she confided in me she also had a miscarriage. With 1/4 women having miscarriages you'll be overwhelmed by the support you'll receive. I also got a therapist which helped talk about some things that I didn't feel comfortable talking with my husband about.
Hugs and peace.
Agreed - I have found so much comfort in talking about it. I find that it's easiest for me to tell someone the initial news of my loss over email or the like, and then it's so much easier to talk about it in person the next time I see them.
So very sorry for your loss. I'm glad you found this board, it has been very comforting to me. I had a recent m/c as well and am still bleeding and waiting for my body to return to "normal". I'm still very much struggling and am so thankful to have found this board. Especially for nights like tonight when I can't sleep (its 0535 here) and having been crying most of the night.
Hugs to you!
" May your hands always be busy May your feet always be swift May you have a strong foundation When the winds of changes shift
May your heart always be joyful May your song always be sung And may you stay forever young "
Me 35, DH 37
DX with PCOS in early 20's. IF d/t PCOS, anovulation, endometriosis, Dermoid cyst in/on Left ovary
TTC for 3 years. (2/2011), Last 16 months (2/2013) with chemical ART; Lap HSG with D&C 11/2012, Repeat HSG 2/2013
Thanks for all your replies and thoughts. It's been helpful hearing from people who understand. I don't have anyone whose been through this IRL to talk to.
Married 10/10/2009 MC 4/23/2014 BFP 8/1/2014, expecting our rainbow on 4/12/2015
And getting the" don't worry, you'll be pregnant again soon" bugs me. I know they mean well, but I lost THIS baby, I need to mourn THIS baby, I'm not pregnant anymore with THIS baby. I think I've entered the anger stage of grieving...
Me:40 DH:42
Married 8/2/14
TTC since 12/2013
BFP #1: 3/22/2014 EDD 11/27/14; MMC/D&C 4/28/14
BFP #2 : 11/27/2014 EDD 8/7/2015, MMC diagnosis 1/5/15, NMC 1/7/15...loss due to Trisomy 3
And getting the" don't worry, you'll be pregnant again soon" bugs me. I know they mean well, but I lost THIS baby, I need to mourn THIS baby, I'm not pregnant anymore with THIS baby. I think I've entered the anger stage of grieving...
Yes. This.
Married 10/10/2009 MC 4/23/2014 BFP 8/1/2014, expecting our rainbow on 4/12/2015
Re: New here and having a very hard time
BFP #1 3/19/14 • EDD 11/26/14 • MC 4/26/14 at 9w3d • BFP #2 10/10/14 • EDD 6/20/15
My Ovulation Chart
So very sorry for your loss. I'm glad you found this board, it has been very comforting to me. I had a recent m/c as well and am still bleeding and waiting for my body to return to "normal". I'm still very much struggling and am so thankful to have found this board. Especially for nights like tonight when I can't sleep (its 0535 here) and having been crying most of the night.
Hugs to you!
" May your hands always be busy
May your feet always be swift
May you have a strong foundation
When the winds of changes shift
May your heart always be joyful
May your song always be sung
And may you stay forever young "
Me 35, DH 37
DX with PCOS in early 20's. IF d/t PCOS, anovulation, endometriosis, Dermoid cyst in/on Left ovary
TTC for 3 years. (2/2011), Last 16 months (2/2013) with chemical ART; Lap HSG with D&C 11/2012, Repeat HSG 2/2013
Clomid, Follisim, HCG Triggers, Progesterone, Metformin
IUI x2 = BFN
3/16/14 IUI #3 BFP!
3/28/14 BFP!!!!!!!, EDD 12/6/14, Nonviable pregnancy 4/9/14, 5w4d; CP natural mc at 7w6d
4/25/14 Bye bye little one
DH: 45
BFP #1 3/19/14 EDD 11/29/14 MMC D&C 4/24/14
BFP #2 12/4/14 Beta #1 218 at 12dpo Beta #2 1055 at 16dpo
Saw heartbeat 12/29. Please be a rainbow.
All welcome
MC 4/23/2014
BFP 8/1/2014, expecting our rainbow on 4/12/2015
MC 4/23/2014
BFP 8/1/2014, expecting our rainbow on 4/12/2015