WHEN do I have hope of this getting better? Opening/closing doors/drawers, turning on lights..... Saying "light on" or "light off" about every other object/scene he sees (even a picture in a book where there is no light pictured -- well, that would be "light off"). DS1's behavior is worse in places outside our home. I don't want to take him anywhere, even to my parents' house. He is obsessed with the kitchen right now. Ovens and microwaves. Today at my parents' house all he would do is stand in the kitchen, open and close doors, reach for the microwave open door button (thankfully can't reach it yet but it won't be long). We cannot get him interested in anything else. And even trying... it is too hard. Can I just let him stim for awhile? I'm not supposed to, I know, and I feel like by letting him do it for an hour or two I am failing, not doing my job. But if someone who deals with this stuff tells that it's OK sometimes, maybe I won't be so miserable.
He is in 32.5 hours ABA per week (yes, lucky insurance -- though I have been fighting since we started to get them actually to PAY), and the other 13 hours or so per week are day care. He gets 2 hour per week of OT as well, which was already showing progress before he started ABA.
I hate the stimming. It's depressing. I just don't have it in me to try and get him to do something else very much of the time. It's impossible.