39 weeks and I want to hide under a rock....

LunaBug924

Anyone else feeling like they want to go into seclusion and just be left alone? My loving and well-intentioned family and ILs are driving me up the wall! Not a day goes by that I dont get texts or calls with everyone's predictions of when I will go into labor, how they think I'm going to have a smooth and fast labor because my mom did with me, and just the general inquiries on how I'm feeling. Ugh. Even DH texts me from work to see how I'm feeling.

I know everyone is excited, and trust me, no one wants this baby to come more than me! But there is only one being on this earth who will decide when and how she makes her appearance, and it's not me! I feel totally calm about everything and I'm just trying to take it one day at a time. I wish everyone would just let go and wait for the phone call.

Maybe I'm getting annoyed for no real reason. But the more people push their opinions on the whole event, the less I even want them involved. Blah, I just hate everyone right now. Leave me and my baby alone!!!

Anyone else want to vent their irrational annoyances?

Dplusbsquared

I just had a mental meltdown & DH made everyone (my mom, his parents & DH too) leave the house & find something else to do! I feel bad about it, but dammit they were all making me crazier.

PS: my RCS is in the morning!

yvanehtnioj

Well if it makes you feel any better, my mom doesn't text me at all, which is weird. But TBH i'd rather be left alone than deal with trying to be gracious about responding to a million messages and calls.

spacepotatoes

Yes! I was just telling DH yesterday that I want to hibernate until it's go time. I'm only 35w4d but getting more uncomfortable and awkward by the day. I don't feel like making the effort to go anywhere or be social anymore.

@Dplusbsquared good luck!

awc1986

I'm sick of people giving me their full itineraries for the week, like I can plan the birth of my baby around it. My dad has to give me a rundown of what he's doing on a daily basis and what number to call him on when. I can barely remember to put underwear on in the morning, yet I'm expected to be a human Filofax? People being all nervous is making ME nervous.

LunaBug924

@Dplusbsquared good luck tomorrow! 

Roufi

LunaBug924 said:

Anyone else feeling like they want to go into seclusion and just be left alone? My loving and well-intentioned family and ILs are driving me up the wall! Not a day goes by that I dont get texts or calls with everyone's predictions of when I will go into labor, how they think I'm going to have a smooth and fast labor because my mom did with me, and just the general inquiries on how I'm feeling. Ugh. Even DH texts me from work to see how I'm feeling.

I know everyone is excited, and trust me, no one wants this baby to come more than me! But there is only one being on this earth who will decide when and how she makes her appearance, and it's not me! I feel totally calm about everything and I'm just trying to take it one day at a time. I wish everyone would just let go and wait for the phone call.

Maybe I'm getting annoyed for no real reason. But the more people push their opinions on the whole event, the less I even want them involved. Blah, I just hate everyone right now. Leave me and my baby alone!!!

Anyone else want to vent their irrational annoyances?

You stole my feelings! I could have written this word for word, I don't want to have anything to do with anyone.

ns1

Yes!  And I'm only 35 weeks.  I've gotten really good at outwardly responding to the same million comments a day (work in a public place with lots of regulars).  Although I did have the first stranger touch my belly the other day and I'm pretty sure I just stared at her with my mouth hanging open until she stopped.  I really just want to punch everyone.  Oops.

LunaBug924

Glad I'm not alone!

Update: My MIL just texted me that she now predicts that I will go into labor at 2pm today. Her reasoning? Because she was supposed to have a job from 2-4 (she entertains at kids' parties) and they cancelled last minute. In her words "things happen for a reason!" And she's all prepared to come drive me to the hospital because DH is at work and it would take him an hour to get home. Over my dead body! I'll have this baby alone on my bathroom floor before I let that happen. 

I. JUST. CAN'T. 

ksyknelvr73

Oh yeah. Usually the whole last month I want to be totally left alone and any comments about when they baby is coming just make me irrationally angry.

SMM1986

Same thing happened here. Every time I made a phone call, the person on the other end would say something like "Is it baby time?!"
Um, hello to you too. Jeez.

AnnieA75

Yes, exactly. If only I could find a rock big enough to hide under!

Tnpeach

When I call family, they answer with, "are you in labor?"

LeeLee86

Yes and hell yes! I was in L&D earlier this week for issues and now no one will leave me alone. I'm 38+4 and everyone is acting crazy. I love being on mat leave so I can literally just hibernate and ignore ppl. I really feel fine just uncomfortable so it's even more annoying bc everyone acts like they wish I would complain about something so they can make predictions. Just chill ppl.

KBowen715

I will murder the next person who says 'It'll be here before you know it!'

YOURE NOT THE ONE WITH PAINFUL CONTRACTIONS 24/7, SWOLLEN MONSTER EXTREMITIES, AND HORRID VAGINAL PAINS! A WEEK MAY AS WELL BE AN EFFING YEAR.

Jillzy86

LunaBug924 said:

Glad I'm not alone!

Update: My MIL just texted me that she now predicts that I will go into labor at 2pm today. Her reasoning? Because she was supposed to have a job from 2-4 (she entertains at kids' parties) and they cancelled last minute. In her words "things happen for a reason!" And she's all prepared to come drive me to the hospital because DH is at work and it would take him an hour to get home. Over my dead body! I'll have this baby alone on my bathroom floor before I let that happen. 

I. JUST. CAN'T. 

You are taking the words right out of my mouth! I'm only 35 weeks and just finished with my baby showers and everyone is commenting on how they will take me to the hospital. Hell to the no! I can wait an hour or 5 in order for my DH to drive me himself. I do not think my first born will come within minutes or even a few hours of me starting contractions. I do not want any one but him ( and Dr) with me when I am in labor.
Good luck and I hope you can find some peace!

boymum2014

I could have wrote this too, with all good intentions it just drives me nuts & makes me feel under pressure to have the baby by a certain date. It's hard to relax!

whimsy515

Right there with ya! If I take 2 minutes to answer a text, I get another saying "ARE YOU OK???? WHERE ARE YOU?"

Roufi

People who I might normally be in touch with once or twice a month, now it's once or twice a week, but they act baffled if I try to have a conversation about anything not pregnancy related and quiz me on: contractions; yeah or nay? Weight gain? How do you feeeel? Tell me when my child will arrive. Apparently I have been reduced to walking incubator, no normal feelings, thoughts, activities for me I guess.

And no, I will not be hotlining all of you the second we head to the hospital. No, you won't need to take the day off work. No, I won't be needing anyone but my H to drive me to the hospital, he will be able to leave work in plenty of time.

Also, quit spamming my FB with obnoxious "cute", "funny" or "relevant" posts about pregnancy, childbirth or parenting. It's gross, irritating and embarassing. If I'm not an AW about being pregnant, I sure as heck don't need anyone else making me look like one.

Apologies for the RAGE.

ehowa499

My sister in law who had the same due date as me had her baby early this morning. I'm so excited to have my new nephew and am very happy for her... But I'm also jealous as all get out. 38+6 today. She's already called me twice to tell me all the details and to tell me that it's my turn and I should get this LO moving. I love having people around because the time passes faster, but I wish they would all just ignore that I'm pregnant.

cbrust

UGH, yes. My family that lives out of state text me everyday asking how I'm feeling/any contractions/am I dilated (what!?!), etc. SO ANNOYING. I will update you when I have news. I can only say, "nope, nothing's happening today!" so many times. 

JessAntonelli22

I perceive it as people trying to be supportive and "concerned" for me, or interested in my big event. It can be annoying, but when I look at it that way I don't feel mad. People don't always realize how they come off, but have good intentions. Sounds like you're just always on the minds of people who love you.

ho11yday

My parents spend the night one night every three weeks for my mom's chemo. I normally love seeing my parents but this last time this past Thursday, I just wanted to be left alone. I feel badly because my mom's chemo is not going well and her mental health is suffering so I feel selfish for being stand-offish. But I also just want to be left alone.

I also think it doesn't help that she's been critical of my parenting. For instance, she said my two year old needs to be potty trained. Yes, I agree but I will do it when I'm on leave instead of trying to do it when I'm 9 months pregnant. This is said in context of me being critical of my brother for not maintaining some of our family tradition and I feel as though my mom says these things as a way to point how I'm not perfect either.

EDIT also, anytime I stop suddenly or say anything, people give me this lol and I'm like, it is ok. DH is the worse. today I had some mucus plug fall out and I was just telling DH that I took a shower with DS because DS'S feet were dirty and I had stuff fall out of my vagina. He then asks if everything was ok. I just had to tell him that I'd let him know if something was up. Or my mom called the other day and asked if anything had happened because I hadn't called her in a couple days. She thought I'd surprise them with their grandchild's birth. Um no. I'd do that with being pregnant or DS walking. But not giving birth.

amroke

Direct everyone to this website:

https://haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com

By the way to OP, I would LOVE it if just once my husband would ask how I'm feeling! I stubbed my toe today and screamed in pain and even then he didn't ask.

tjkdlhb

MIL came to visit a few days ago.

Apparently she is planning on staying until the end of June.

I was under the impression that it was going to be a week-long visit, and that she would come back a few days after the baby was born - not a 2 MONTH LONG VISIT!

DH doesn't understand that I don't want somebody hanging around waiting for my water to break. (I don't want ANYBODY around except him when I am leaking all kinds of fluids from my nether-regions and contracting every few minutes) He thinks it's great because now I have company...

Tnpeach

Babybarlow2014 said:

tjkdlhb said:

MIL came to visit a few days ago.

Apparently she is planning on staying until the end of June.

I was under the impression that it was going to be a week-long visit, and that she would come back a few days after the baby was born - not a 2 MONTH LONG VISIT!

DH doesn't understand that I don't want somebody hanging around waiting for my water to break. (I don't want ANYBODY around except him when I am leaking all kinds of fluids from my nether-regions and contracting every few minutes) He thinks it's great because now I have company...

Shut that shit down! She needs to go home.

This.

LunaBug924

@tjkdlhb that sounds awful! I hope you can talk to DH and find a gentle way to exterminate your MIL. I'd go out of my mind. Suddenly a few text messages dont seem so bad. Lol.

danagmauro

Ya I'm due in 3 days and the only time my phone goes off is someone asking if I'm in labor....You'll know!!!!!!!!!! I want to run way!

Lunatygercat

I am sick of it as well. I am lots of contractions today and DD is definitely burrowing into my cervix. Everyone is texting and PMing me and I finally turned off all my alerts and put my phone on do not disturb. I am done. I want to concentrate on my contractions and relaxing and keeping calm. I am not in the mood to play 20 questions and listen to advice that I didn't ask for. Leave me alone! I will let my friends and family know when I am damn good and ready.

Lbarron915

I've started answering all incoming calls from my family with "Have you had that baby yet?". I think they're starting to get the idea...

bumpuser9353653

Yeah I'm 37+4 and so ready to just hibernate until LO comes. My family hasn't been bad but I'm just tired of the same people at the office asking me every day "how do you feel?" And saying "you look ready to pop!" Blah!

momo214

Ugh 36 weeks tomorrow and I'm sick of all the awkward uncomfortable comments coworkers make in passing in the hall.... "Anyday now", "you're still pregnant?", "wow, she's dropped", "look at you", "you look so cute", you look HUGE"........... I just hide in my office with the door closed all day.

jenb_99

This is one upside to having a scheduled RCS. Everybody knows I'm having this baby at 12:30 p.m. on May 22 and that I'm not allowed to risk going into labor because I'm having an ovarian mass removed at the same time. Even the folks at church know there's no need to make predictions, because I've been on the prayer list ever since we found out about the second surgery.

Brigie029

This! And, what's worse is that I'm working right up until I deliver but needed to cancel a meeting on Thursday due to heavy contractions/ doctor thinking I had 72 hours. Well, I skipped the gory stuff and told my boss there was a chance I couldn't go to our Monday am team outing/cancelations of meetings and now, days later, no baby and have to call and cancel meeting but with no baby. So, in addition to family and friends stalking me, I have some coworker action now. Sick of everyone!

Mamazon2014

I'm sick of everyone thinking they can plan out my labor for me! Mom keeps reminding me of how I can't have the baby until she comes out to visit, MIL wants a specific date and time so that she can plan the day off from work (because it would be way too difficult for her to leave work early and drive the 2.5 miles to the hospital if I went into labor unexpectedly). I have an annoying friend who texts me constantly about my weight gain (that she knows I am sensitive about) and about how she really wants to be there in the waiting room the entire time I am in labor (even though I have expressed MULTIPLE times now that only immediate family will be notified when I go into labor and everyone else will get called when I feel up to having visitors).

And then there are the "about to pop" comments when I am only 35 weeks along, the "are you sure you're going to be able to birth a big baby" comments, the "why would you want a natural birth when there are pain medications that make it easier" comments, and my absolute 'favorite', the "don't complain, it will all be worth it in the end" comments!

In the past nearly 9 months, I've really grown to hate people.

awc1986

Why do people act like you're not gonna tell them when the baby is born? It's like they get paranoid that you're gonna keep it a secret. It's ludicrous really.

jsaffer01

The other day my mom asked me like 3 times in the matter of 2 hrs if I would want her at the hospital when I go into labor, or would I want her stay home with my dogs until the baby comes. I told her I have no idea until I'm in that situation. I don't know how many times I can tell her I have no idea until the time comes.

Then on the other hand I have my MIL telling me she's going to start spending the night at my house in case I go into labor she'll be there. I would really like to know why she thinks it's a good idea to stay with me, she's going to be useless. And probably just piss me off while I'm contracting. She doesn't drive on the highway, so it's not like she'll be able to bring me to the hospital, and MH works 10mins from home. And I bet once labor starts I won't be having the baby within 5 mins, so there is no need for her. Just stay the f*ck home and I'll call you, when I decide to call you.