Vanishing twin

KR250222

We had a traumatic 8 week ultrasound appointment on Friday. Baby A had no heartbeat anymore. The 6 week scan showed everything with A on track and now it's gone.

Baby B grew from 3mm to 12 mm in 11 days and had a heartbeat of 131 from 103 which I was told is in the normal range of 120-180. Originally I was told this twin was small and behind schedule size wise. I'm worried bc the heart rate increased only 2.5 per day instead of 3. Not sure if this matters.

They want me to come in for another ultrasound at 9 weeks which is Thursday. They asked me to postpone my OBGYN appt but when I called the nurse said no, you have a 8 week viable pregnancy and to come in Tuesday. I had a little cramping last night and a small amount of spotting. I honestly don't know how much more of this I can take. I'm sick to death with worry that I will lose B too. After all I've gone through to get here, why is this happening?

Does anyone here have experience with the loss of a twin? I'm so worried about losing my other baby. Any words of encouragement are greatly appreciated. I'm really a wreck. Additionally my only pregnancy symptoms have been disrupted sleep and vivid dreams. I wake up at least 4 times per night and go to the bathroom only once.

Ylvelill

*hugs* focus on your baby, it needs your strength. I am sorry that baby didn't make it, but try not to let your mind dwell on it. It seems to be a quite common occurrence and the strong twin sticks around!

brooklynesque

I'm so sorry.  I've read that vanishing twin happens in around 30% of all twin pregnancies, so it's not unusual, and it doesn't mean the entire pregnancy is going south.  Fx Baby B continues to grow and thrive.

indianaalum

I am sorry for your loss. I lost a twin, but I never saw a heartbeat on Baby B which I think it made it  a little easier on me. We had seen two gestational sacs, the following week, one baby had a heartbeat, but the other one had only a yolk sac so the doctor prepared me then, as well. Baby B just never developed.

I think I had prepared myself from day one as I knew that stats that Vanishing twin occurs in 20-30 percent of twin pregnancies and our ultrasound tech warned us of that from day one, as well. I think in MOST cases, the other twin is born healthy, so I don't think it actually increases your miscarriage rate of baby a at all, if that makes you feel better. 

+SouthernMomma+

I don't have any experience with a twin loss, but wanted to send hugs your way! I'll be keeping you in my T&P'S for baby B. hang in there sweetie!

marnief

I'm so sorry for your loss. And sending strong healthy vibes for Baby B to stick and grow!

O2girl

Hugs!! I'm sorry for your loss. I also have a vanishing twin. The HB stopped on the twin at 7w1d and only the sac remained on Friday 8w0d.

The HB on my remaining baby was only 136 and was measuring behind schedule. Which I guess I shouldn't be surprised about because like yours this baby was the slower to develope.

It's a highly stressful situation and I feel your pain. I wish I had some advice to give but seeing as we are very close in transfers (I'm 8w2d today), I'm experiencing the same stress and emotions about this remaining baby. I just want to let you know that you aren't alone!

Xo

bayareagirl2011

So sorry to hear this. I know it's hard to feel happy for baby b, knowing that they both looked great earlier but know that there's nothing that you could have done differently. It was likely caused by chromosomal abnormalities. Fingers crossed for baby b! Sounds like he/she is developing on track. 

Mrs.McIrish

I'm so sorry:-( Sending T&Ps for baby B. Please don't worry about lack of symptoms. I don't have much either.

lincoln79

I am sorry for your loss.

(((Hugs)))

ajlmom

So sorry for your loss ((hugs)), hope the other baby will continue to hang on strong!  Grow baby grow!

Deardra77

Hey,

So sorry you are going through this! I'm pregnant right now with a singleton but my first pregnancy started out as a twin pregnancy. Lost one of them, was really sad. It didn't have any effect on the outcome for the 2nd twin & we went on to have our son. It's very bitter sweet cause you are happy one is ok but sad for the other. It's hugely emotionally difficult. If you have the opportunity it would be good to talk to a professional about working through all the conflicting emotions. Its a very difficult time. Hang in there!

Praying4Miracle17

My story was a lot like yours - saw both HB's at 6w, they were 103 and 106 I believe.  At my 7w3d scan, only one baby had a HB (133), the other baby stopped growing around 6w6d (no HB).  I think it is positive that your HB is going up, so try to focus on that.  I know it's so hard to be happy for the baby that has a HB and also grieve for the one that does not anymore.  I'm so sorry you are going through this, but I've head so many positive stories that other twin will be OK, so that is what I'm trying to focus on myself.   

freakyfast

I don't have any experience, but I wanted to send you lots of T&P's.  Hang in there. 

jwalker2004

I'm so sorry for your loss.  I too had a twin pregnancy in the beginning.  Both A and B were fine at week 8 and we were released from our RE to my OB.  By the time I had my next ultrasound at 12 weeks, Baby A had no heartbeat and had stopped growing at 8 weeks.  So sometime after I was released from my RE Baby A passed away.  But now we are 21 weeks and Baby B is growing and moving. 
Don't be discouraged about loosing one, though I know it's hard.  I can't tell from your siggy but if you transferred 2 and both implanted, then loosing one this way is better than loosing one if they were in the same sac according to my OB.  Keep your head up and focus on that little life you have growing inside of you and remember there is one in heaven watching over you and it's little brother or sister. 

BunnyBerry

(lurker from 3T)

My little bro was the surviving twin - he is now 24yrs old, 6ft+, handsome and a straight A student!