June 2014 Moms

"Me Time"

Saw THIS floating 'round the old FB today. I've never seen this blog before but I picked up on a slight religious slant. That aside, what do you think of what she is trying to say? I think I feel conflicted about it.

I sure do love my Me Time but not at the expense of anyone or anything else. And I DO agree with her that people can be unrealistic about their expectations and lean towards selfishness (myself included.) But yeah, Me Time is glorious, I can't lie.
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Re: "Me Time"

  • I think that if you aren't taking good care of yourself, you can't take good care of others. Me time is about personal wellness and very important. It could mean going to the spa or it could mean making sure you take a shower or bath every day even though you have a newborn.
    I always feel better prepared to parent and be a wife if I get a (brief) moment to breathe alone and miss them.
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  • I couldn't even take this blog seriously, sorry.
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  • I couldn't even take this blog seriously, sorry.
    LOL, don't be sorry. I had never even seen it before today. I will have to go back and look to see if it is a perpetual source of ridiculousness.
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  • I think i get what she's implying but I don't think most mommy's think about Me Time the way she's saying. Maybe that's something she is struggling with but it's a little excessive to think that having some time for yourself will make you resent your family and always think about yourself.

    I also take offense to her implying that the "I deserve to be happy" mentality is wrong. So you should stay in a marriage where you are miserable? Because that's more important than your happiness or sanity... just the impression that you are in a happy marriage.I think shes got some shit backwards in her head.
  • There is an important distinction between the realization and action that you need some time for yourself, and being selfish.  Even when it was just DH and I, we both needed time to ourselves without the other one around.  Not often, and not for long, but for our relationship we needed that time.  Having C, and now adding Charlie, we still need that time to ourselves.  We try to make sure that we both get that time.  Sometimes it's harder than others, but even running a five minute errand on your own is enough sometimes.  I don't think anyone involved resents that need.  Even C, at two, has moments where she just wants to play alone in her room. 

    By the same token, if I can't get that time, I certainly don't resent my family.  I may get more stressed, I may miss it, but resent is a harsh word.

    Married DH 7/30/11

    CSC arrived 5/7/12 

    CHC arrived 6/2/14

  • To each their own. If she doesn't feel the need for "me time" then good for her. For 6 months of the year my husband is gone quite a bit (2-3 weeks at a time, home for 2 days, then back out again). During that time I don't get "me time" because when DH gets home all we want to do is spend time together as a family and that's great. But when I want "me time" I don't resent my family for it and DH and I both agree that it is healthy for us.

    @Lilygrace48 both my kids need time to play alone as well.
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