Opinion on name order please?

dinokitty

DH and I are torn on the order of names - we're sticking with the tradition of naming a boy (if it is a boy) after departed family members, so we're down to:

-Jacob Henry (flows better, love the nn Jack, but Jacob is soooo common even if it was my grandfather's name)

-Henry Jacob (classic, slightly less common, but no easy nn we love)

Our last name starts with a vowel, so that has made this pretty hard!

LuluRM

My DS is Jacob Arlo (both family names), we call him Jake. I like both of your names a lot, but because of your vowely surname I'm leaning towards Henry Jacob.

KellyAnn911

I prefer Henry Jacob. 

pippacricket

I think they're both great options but for some reason I think Henry Jacob flows better. With regard to the lack of nn for Henry, I knew a Henry that used to go by the nn Hank.

dinokitty

trista9284 said:

I think they're both great options but for some reason I think Henry Jacob flows better. With regard to the lack of nn for Henry, I knew a Henry that used to go by the nn Hank.

Exactly - Hank (or Hal) are problematic nns for us.  DH and I both dislike them!

It's funny - the concensus here is the opposite of all the grandparents-to-be.

dinokitty

Thanks.  

We're trying to decide early to avoid delivery room arguments (stupid family lore)... I thought I'd float them here since I KNOW you'll all be honest.

FakeFinn

I prefer Henry Jacob. Henry no nn works fine. Harry is another nn option, but for all you know you'll be calling him pumpkin or monster most of the time

sweetpea2003

I prefer Jacob Henry.

I didn't realize that Jack was a nickname for Jacob? Jake would be intuitive, Jack is a stretch. If you want Jack, I would do John Henry (I actually love that).

LadyRoarsome

I like them both, I don't think you could go wrong either way. Maybe I'm wrong, but I don't really see how you get Jack as a nn for Jacob. Jake, yes, Jack, no. What's wrong with calling your son Henry if that's what you name him? Why do you have to have a nn? H and I picked a name we loved for E. There is no obvious nickname for his name, so we call him by his name.

dinokitty

My grandfather's name was Jacob, but he was called Jack- prob should have explained.  I think it's more old fashioned, but according to my research it's a standard nn for Jacob.  DH wanted to make sure we weren't doing anything "weird" with a nn.  (John is SO out of the question for personal/religious reasons.)

As for nns for Henry, I'm just concerned that it's instinct for people to give nns or call people by diminuitives.  I doubt we'd have control if we didn't use a nn in everyday life (MIL tried with DH and it didn't work), and I just want to avoid Hal or Hank.

JMU_Bride09

Love Jacob Henry

queenbone

Henry Jacob. That isn't based on flow, it is based on my preference. I wouldn't worry about flow since you are honoring specific people. I don't think Henry needs a NN at all.

queenbone

dinokitty said:

As for nns for Henry, I'm just concerned that it's instinct for people to give nns or call people by diminuitives.  I doubt we'd have control if we didn't use a nn in everyday life (MIL tried with DH and it didn't work), and I just want to avoid Hal or Hank.

I think you can execute some control over this when he is young. When he is older it will ultimately be up to him. But Henry is only 2 syllables, it doesn't 'need' to be shorter. 

DS2 is Francis. Only 2 syllables and we don't really use a NN for him, so nobody else does either. We tried Frankie for awhile, but he adamantly insists that he is Francis, NOT Frankie.

queenbone

KellyAnn911 said:

I prefer Henry Jacob. 

OMG, your kid is cute!

CiderWench

Well, I'm a sucker for Henry, so that gets my vote.

KellyAnn911

Thank you @queenbone

sharksfan

Henry Jacob, no question.

dinokitty

queenbone said:

dinokitty said:

As for nns for Henry, I'm just concerned that it's instinct for people to give nns or call people by diminuitives.  I doubt we'd have control if we didn't use a nn in everyday life (MIL tried with DH and it didn't work), and I just want to avoid Hal or Hank.

I think you can execute some control over this when he is young. When he is older it will ultimately be up to him. But Henry is only 2 syllables, it doesn't 'need' to be shorter. 

DS2 is Francis. Only 2 syllables and we don't really use a NN for him, so nobody else does either. We tried Frankie for awhile, but he adamantly insists that he is Francis, NOT Frankie.

Don't I know it!  I hate my first name, so the second I could, I switched to my mn.  

poppins123

I like Henry Jacob. All Henry's I know go by Henry (no nn). Great name!

jburdet1

I prefer the flow of Henry Jacob but I'm a little over Henry. There is always a Henry at our park.

I like Jacob better, but I'm not a fan of the nn Jack for Jacob. I think it could cause confusion. When you wrote it I thought maybe Jack was a typo and you meant Jake.

So, I vote Henry Jacob with no nn.

MrsMac613

I love Henry Jacob