It's early, but I need to TP (tired vent)

AmberLiz99

My 2 1/2 year old has been getting up at 5am for the last few weeks. I get up with him every day. I told dh that if I made it to my due date I wanted to sleep in just one morning. He told me he would get up with him today since he doesn't work today and he can't tomorrow.

Knowing this I stayed up a little later last night, and sure enough at 5 am ds was up. But dh will not get out of bed. Even when I reminded him and tried to get him up he mumbled about "maybe tomorrow" and pulled the covers over his head. I let ds go in our room, but dh just told him to leave and go find mommy.

So TP to dh. now I'm more tired than I would have been if dh hadn't offered to get up with ds, and I have to leave for my doctors appointment in two hours so there's not even much point to trying to get dh up anymore.

I was unreasonably excited about sleeping in today, and therefor unreasonably disappointed and ticked off about it.

hordol

Aww I'm sorry, I would be so pissed!!. Hopefully he does something super nice later to show his repentance!

pleasantsarg

I'm really sorry, I hope you get some sleep soon.

fourthnlast

Not only does this vent deserve a TP, it also deserves a crotch punch as well!!! So sorry, I hope you are able to squeeze in a nap later today.

allisshiney

I'm pissed for you.

Asljoc

I would've dumped water on his head! Well deserved TP!

MrsMeatball41

I would wake his Ass up today and the tomorrow for saying maybe tomorrow. Ice, cold washcloth. Idc how but his ass would be up lol I get mean lol

Ashleypixie

I'd punch him in the ball sack.

emh81

Make him pay... I think that's worthy of a prenatal massage and flowers and he gets his ass out of bed tomorrow. 

KendraL86

Omg. I am so sorry you have to deal with this! It is selfish and completely unfair of your husband. Don't feel bad about being upset.

My husband would never do something like this. But, if he tried, I would be getting his butt outta bed one way or another! If it takes a bucket of ice water and wet blankets, so be it!

AmberLiz99

And apparently my husband thinks that waking me at 6:15am counts as letting me sleep in. I know he is stressed with work and likes to relax on the weekend, but this is the first time in months I have asked to be able to sleep in a little. He never used to pull this kind if thing (at least not often) and I'm ticked.

The only reason I got up today is because ds was crying for his dad to come play with him and I had to go tell him he wasn't coming (because dh was ignoring him at this point)

Rogue237

LalaMama81 said:

ebie79 said:

LalaMama81 said:

ebie79 said:

I think most men (to varying degrees) expect women to do it all (be primary caregiver for kids, work outside the home/stay at home, cook, clean, have lots of sex - basically be Super Woman) even if they say otherwise. Some are better than others about suppressing this, but it seems like it's always there below the surface or at the surface in other cases ready to rear it's ugly head. They know the mom is not going to let her kid not be taken care of and that's why they pull crap.

No, I can promise you they don't and I wouldn't marry someone who thought this or acted like this at all. It's just an excuse.

I didn't say all and it's not like I've conducted a scientific study, but I'd be willing to bet there's more than people think. Plus, it was qualified with "to varying degrees." Not all would be at the same point on the scale.


No, but to me this attitude both excuses the behavior and perpetuates it. A grown man, who is a father no less, doesn't get to act like this, he sounds like a petulant 14 year old boy. I just don't understand why anyone would willingly deal w/ this. 

Thank you - this. DH has never/would never pull moves like this to ANY varying degree and most of the men I know would not. It's not okay just because he has a dick.

AmberLiz99

LalaMama81 said:

ColleenSwerb said:

Um yea. No. That would not fly in this house.

Seriously. Amberliz, it's time for a come to Jesus meeting - before this baby arrives. This isn't fair to you or your children.

Oh believe me, we will be having yet another talk today. It's just frustrating after having talked about it yesterday to have to do it again today! Thanks for letting me vent ladies

Sunshinelou

When I was pregnant and dh didn't want to help with with something I would say something like "okay, I will do it but you need to hold the baby for a few minutes and by the way he is going to give you heartburn, backache and kick you in the crotch."