One and done now

lellymine

I know we had a thread about this early in our pregnancies but now that we're almost done (thank god) has anyone decided that they're not going through it again?

lellymine

This has been a rough pregnancy but I was on the fence. Last dr appt she brought up her concern about me having another so now DH and I are almost 99% sure we'll be done after this one. At least with me getting pregnant to have another.

babygabe614

Not us. We will definitely be having one more in the next 2 years or so (assuming we don't have any unforeseen issues, of course). I'd like 3 but DH is digging in his heels at 2, which I am still very happy with. 

Kinipela7

We're not done.  We will have another one fairly soon after this one and then I think we will be done.  DH does not want more than 2 and I'm okay with that, I think. 

jshrop

Yep. I've been one and done from the beginning and I'm sticking to it! If we want more I will be very happy to adopt a child.

CJnKR2014

I'll be trying again in the future. I want to try for my little girl, especially since she'd have her 2 older brothers to protect her!

Edit to say: this is if DH will get on board with it. DH has a boy already, and he is dead set on getting snipped with the twins. Which of course doesn't make me very happy lol

jenn72178

I'm definitely done.. have 4 step children already - this will make 5 total. We have no more room in the vehicle :-)

flerlgirl

This is number 2; jury is still out on any more. It will be a few years if we do decide to have any more. 

jshrop

@nutmegs8‌ I'm the same way. When people ask if we are having more I think two things: 1. Let's let this one get here before we start planning for more, and 2. Hell NO! I so want to throat punch people who love to tell me I'll change my mind or who laugh condescendingly like I have no clue what I want. First off, we had no plan to have this kid. Second, I HATE being pregnant!! I would much rather give a living home to a child who needs it without the horrendous pregnancy crap to go along with it. I'm also bitchy today, but even when I'm not bitchy this pisses me off.

curlylocks3

Well considering I asked my OB for a tubal I'd say we are "two and through" kids wise. People tell me a singleton pregnancy would be different and I'm sure they are right but I just can't imagine going through all of this again...while having te twins to take care of too. I've worked too hard to have them and I'd feel like I was then failing to take care of them. That being said, my OB did dissuade me from the tubal and said she didn't feel comfortable based on my age. Depending on how things go we might transfer our remaining embryo.....in like 5 or 6 years.

MrsCase1

Hard to say. I have always wanted a 3rd and my husband has agreed (I originally wanted 4) but this pregnancy has been rough. You never know what type of pregnancy you'll have. With Lincoln it was a glorious time in my life. I felt the best I've ever felt, pregnant or not. This time, I suck. LOL.

LovetoLive614

Nah, I've always wanted more than one and lucky this pregnancy hasn't been bad enough to change my mind.

lellymine

jshrop said:

Yep. I've been one and done from the beginning and I'm sticking to it! If we want more I will be very happy to adopt a child.

Same. I think we'll look at the adoption route after this one as well.

ElTrain5

Playing it by ear.  I'm feeling like I'm ok being done after this, but we may go for a second.  Definitely no more than two.  We don't have  a big enough house for three and I don't plan on moving.

ashanne88

We plan on having one more after this...definitely want to wait a couple years though to adjust to the first one and try to figure this parenting thing out!

kbellizio3

we're in the "two and done" camp.  DH has drawn the line at two.  Which is fine, we have the perfect sized house for two children (it would get a little cramped with more than two).  We'd like to try for the 2nd in about 2 years or so.  But who knows what will happen. 

rastrau

babygabe614 said:

Not us. We will definitely be having one more in the next 2 years or so (assuming we don't have any unforeseen issues, of course). I'd like 3 but DH is digging in his heels at 2, which I am still very happy with. 

Same here. I'd prefer 3, but DH's argument against it is that we'll be moving from man-to-man defense to zone defense, and something always slips through the zone. We'll see.

kbellizio3

rastrau said:

babygabe614 said:

Not us. We will definitely be having one more in the next 2 years or so (assuming we don't have any unforeseen issues, of course). I'd like 3 but DH is digging in his heels at 2, which I am still very happy with. 

Same here. I'd prefer 3, but DH's argument against it is that we'll be moving from man-to-man defense to zone defense, and something always slips through the zone. We'll see.

This is totally DH's argument for not having more than 2! It really makes me laugh when he says it. 

tbmadeamistake

I'm very happy being done with Charlie (our second).  I thought DH was on the same page, but the other day when I mentioned retiring a pair of maternity pants that were getting too tight, he asked if I planned on getting rid of all my maternity stuff because "what if we have a third?".  I told him I'd keep my favorites, give away the rest, but that he should know that until he grows a uterus so he can carry #3, the chances are slim that will happen.  He's just happy I didn't out and out dismiss it, so we'll revisit that thought in a few years.  Mind you, he's already asking me about going back to work, so he's definitely torn as well!

steprozz

we are definitely planning for #3 in about 3 years or so (the timing may change but not the fact we will have 3) DH and I will play it by ear after that but we have agreed we will max out at 4 depending on how we feel. but definitely at least 3

cMichelle0423

This is our second LO but even though this pregnancy has been a lot harder than the first, we still plan on having 2 more after this one! We'll probably wait til these boys are both in school (in about 4 or 5 years) to try for our 3rd, but this pregnancy definitely didn't discourage us from wanting 2 more.

MollySm

We plan on probably trying for a 3rd in a couple of years. If we want more after that we'll adopt.

jacksoha

This is my first and I know only time will tell but I still really want four. DH is on board as well, he actually was surprised when I brought up BC because he thought we would be trying again immediately lol. But as this is my first I know that a lot of things could change! So we will take it one at a time.

TheMrs820

I really don't know. I feel so blessed to have this one, it was a long road to get here. I think we will probably have one more if my body decides to cooperate, or maybe we will adopt.

RaeJ004

I've wanted four from the beginning and DH wanted zero.  So we will be having four  

b48kate

There is a 50/50 chance this baby is one and done. Sometimes I think I'm just too damned old to repeat this pregnancy shenanigans...it has taken quite a bit out of me at 36. Won't be even considering trying again until 38, time is not my friend.

julie921

Definitely one and done here!  It has been a tough pregnancy, but we had already decided we just wanted one well before trying to conceieve.  My husband is turning 40 in 6 months and he has always said he wanted to be done having children by the time he was 40, so we are sticking to that. 

CJ12211

Can say offically yet, but DH and I will probably have more.  Right now we're just focusing on this pregnancy since it's our first.

Mztwilson

This is number 4 and he will be our last. We have been blessed with 2 boys and 2 girls ( granted the oldest dd and ds are not biologically my dh's) I'm planning to either have my tubes tied or done sort of long term birth control.

deedee830

I'd originally wanted three, but I never imagined it would take so long for #2 to happen. I'll be 35 when #2 is born and I'm pretty sure I'm done.

People have said I should just "pop" another one out right away. This makes me cringe. I originally wanted to be done by 35, this pregnancy has been a lot harder than my first and I'm sure the fact that I'm 6 years older has something to do with it, and I don't want to have two pregnancies so close because of what it will do to my career. I've received comments that I'm selfish and I've also received the "Just wait and see, you'll change your mind" comments. Depending on my mood, I either nod politey or roll my eyes and walk away.

rainbowdashh

I always thought I wanted 3... I think I'm good with 2 now. We'll see. I think H wants a third to try for a boy, which of course means we would have a third girl

katekat8721

Infertility here also plays into our decision... but we definitely would like more! Have all zee babies!!

coffee89

We are planning on more but haven't discussed it much. I maintain the stance of "let me get through this one first" After we get settled into our life with this LO and have a house instead of renting, Im sure we will be looking into trying to number two..so in about 2 years.

We don't have a set number and while DH isn't the type to throw it all to the winds, forget finances and put it in God's hands...he does want a bigger family.

tdf2010

This is our second and I would like to have a third, but after all the testing from trying this last time, I don't know if we will be so lucky.  We decided we would not do any fertility treatments after this one, so we will see what's in store for us.  I would prefer to wait an extra year between #2 & #3.

Susanrush13

Pretty sure this is it for me. Pregnancy hasn't been ideal so if I have more, they won't be coming out of my vagina.

FutureMrsW9

We're planning on anywhere from 3 to 5 depending on how life changes once we have more than this first one and if the fertility gods will be on our side.  I can honestly say that I've loved every minute of being pregnant, so that plays no part in this decision whatsoever.

Mizoo

I've always pictured myself with 3, but SO is firm at only wanting 2.  We plan on trying for a second when this girl is around 15 months old.  If we get a boy next time we will be done, but if we get another girl I will attempt to convince him to try again for a son. ;-)

BMaidPlanner

I turn 34 about a month after my due date. From my limited understanding, 35 is high risk. I certainly won't be ready to try right away, and like others have said, do not prefer being pregnant to not being pregnant.

Also, I really have such limited experience with children that I can't possibly know how I will even feel with a child, so this question feels impossible to answer. I do know I would not want more than two, for some reason. Have always felt that.

CrysW08

We're waiting to see what life with one kid is like before deciding. We do have two frozen embryos that we're paying a hefty fee to store plus DH's swimmers that were harvested from surgery so we'll be making a decision as soon as we can to avoid throwing away that money for no reason.

I'm very envious of you ladies who get to just have sex to get pregnant. I hope you know how fortunate you are!

Cherylwang

This is my third and I am done! Just debating now if I will get a IUD or what we will do. I do think that 2 is easier than one in the sense that they play with each other and keep each other busy. Even though mine are 4 and a half years apart they still play and run around together. I am scared that 3 will be much harder!

elsa1688

Eh, it hasn't been a walk in the park but I still plan on 3-4 more. maybe fostering, maybe adopting but definitely more babies.