Monday Bitchfest

HisChamaoleGirl

Over the weekend we went to a housewarming party and didn't want to come empty handed. I spent time making fancy pinterest inspired cupcakes in two different flavors. It was a challenge to find time to make them in the first place since LO was having teething troubles. Once we got there we were told it was a house warming AND a birthday party for the daughter. So not only did we not have a gift for the child but I showed up to a party with desserts that already had a ton of sweets. Only five of my fancy cupcakes were consumed. Now I wish I could go back in time and not have made them and saved money by not purchasing the supplies. This could count as a FWP too.

HisChamaoleGirl

jdoud77 said:

I wish this board was more active like it was before so I have something worthwhile to do while I'm working.

I really thought today would be more active because I know a few of our old regulars gave up social media for lent. With easter being yesterday I hoped today would be a huge "welcome back."

mrsmoxie

lindszachary said:

Yesterday my mom was being pretty fucking rude. I told her we would be at her house around 3 with stuff to make cheesy mashed potatoes (she decided to cook this year and didn't have the ingredients but wanted to make this) and she said okay. When we got there everybody was already halfway done with eating. My mom said she was too hungry to wait on us and asked me if I would just go ahead and make the potatoes. They would eat them later on with leftovers.

Then when LO woke up she took her into her bedroom with her SO and sat there playing with LO while H and I finished cooking the potatoes and ate together (alone in the dining room). She barely said a word to me or H, she just wanted to see LO.

When it was time to color easter eggs with my little brother (he is 10), H had to go get vinager because my mom forgot it and didn't "feel like" going to the store so her child could color eggs. She didn't come in the room at all while we colored, hid, or when my little brother went and found the eggs. She sat in her bedroom with LO and her SO. Now I realize why my little brother is jealous of LO when we are around my mom. My mom acts like he doesn't exist.

H also mowed her yard (the grass was literally two feet tall) for $30. She hasn't given us the money and acts pissed when I ask for it. It's been a damn week.

That's just horrible of your mom! I feel bad for your little brother.
My bitchfest would be my lack of memory. I thought I had a good bitch about something, but I forgot it. Same thing happens to my UOs and FFCs

mrsmoxie

Oh! I do have one. It's not juicy or anything. I have three dogs, and I love them dearly, I do. And I plan on having them for the rest of their lives. But when my lab barks at nothing, and wakes up my fussy, tired, teething baby after it took me forever to get her to sleep, I kinda wanna make that dog an outside dog or get her a shock collar. I of course am not going to do either, I think shock collars are border line animal abuse, but she really really is testing my patience when she does that crap. She's lucky she's so good with the baby (when the baby is awake that is!)

eyris

FutureMrs07282012 said:

Oh! I do have one. It's not juicy or anything. I have three dogs, and I love them dearly, I do. And I plan on having them for the rest of their lives. But when my lab barks at nothing, and wakes up my fussy, tired, teething baby after it took me forever to get her to sleep, I kinda wanna make that dog an outside dog or get her a shock collar. I of course am not going to do either, I think shock collars are border line animal abuse, but she really really is testing my patience when she does that crap. She's lucky she's so good with the baby (when the baby is awake that is!)

I have three cats and one of them keeps doing basically the same thing.  He hates that we don't let him in the baby's room and he will sit outside of the door and meow loudly.  

He's lucky they don't make "bark" collars for cats!!!  

blondii428

I don't know how many more of these up every two hour nights I can handle. I've made a phone appointment to talk with a specialist and already had to reschedule once due to a conflict at work. I just found out I have to reschedule AGAIN because of another work conflict. Ughhhhhhh!!!!

jmjewell19

I'm not sure if this is a UO, a bitch, or a WTF, but I'm leaving it here anyway. I'm so over this Go Fund Me nonsense I keep seeing on Facebook. Some of it I understand. I've seen it used for good things, like helping a family who lost everything in a fire and for a benefit thing for a friend with cancer. Fine. There's a time and a place to try to get money on the internet--I don't have a problem with that. I don't even really have a problem when I see it used to help raise funds for educational field trips--I've seen that a couple times--at least it's educational. But when I see that website used for other things, it irks me. For example, in the last few weeks, I've seen it used to solicit funds for the following :

"Help ____ & _____ get new living room furniture!" (With the description that they are tired of the furniture they have).

"Help send _____ to visit Nana and Papa!" ( this one came with the description that P--an 18 month old--needs to come and visit Nana and Papa because mom needs a break before her graduation. P flies free, but they need to buy a ticket for someone to accompany her on the flight.)

No. Just no.

mrsmoxie

jmjewell19 said:

I'm not sure if this is a UO, a bitch, or a WTF, but I'm leaving it here anyway. I'm so over this Go Fund Me nonsense I keep seeing on Facebook. Some of it I understand. I've seen it used for good things, like helping a family who lost everything in a fire and for a benefit thing for a friend with cancer. Fine. There's a time and a place to try to get money on the internet--I don't have a problem with that. I don't even really have a problem when I see it used to help raise funds for educational field trips--I've seen that a couple times--at least it's educational. But when I see that website used for other things, it irks me. For example, in the last few weeks, I've seen it used to solicit funds for the following :

"Help ____ & _____ get new living room furniture!" (With the description that they are tired of the furniture they have).

"Help send _____ to visit Nana and Papa!" ( this one came with the description that P--an 18 month old--needs to come and visit Nana and Papa because mom needs a break before her graduation. P flies free, but they need to buy a ticket for someone to accompany her on the flight.)

No. Just no.

I completely agree! I've also seen some to help pay for weddings! It just takes everything in me to not tell them how trashy that is!

Salemkitty13

jmjewell19 said:

I'm not sure if this is a UO, a bitch, or a WTF, but I'm leaving it here anyway. I'm so over this Go Fund Me nonsense I keep seeing on Facebook. Some of it I understand. I've seen it used for good things, like helping a family who lost everything in a fire and for a benefit thing for a friend with cancer. Fine. There's a time and a place to try to get money on the internet--I don't have a problem with that. I don't even really have a problem when I see it used to help raise funds for educational field trips--I've seen that a couple times--at least it's educational. But when I see that website used for other things, it irks me. For example, in the last few weeks, I've seen it used to solicit funds for the following : "Help ____ & _____ get new living room furniture!" (With the description that they are tired of the furniture they have). "Help send _____ to visit Nana and Papa!" ( this one came with the description that P--an 18 month old--needs to come and visit Nana and Papa because mom needs a break before her graduation. P flies free, but they need to buy a ticket for someone to accompany her on the flight.) No. Just no.

Wow! That's bad! What is wrong with people :-/

Salemkitty13

DS had a FU appointment at the pedi today. So we are in the well waiting room. This other mommy is there with her three kids. Her daughter is all over DS stroller. She didn't touch him but she touched his stroller and toy. (I had already moved him and she followed and i was sitting so she couldn't touch him and told her she probably shouldn't touch his toy bc he was chewing it.) i felt terrible because i love little kids but I felt like I need to protect DS. Well, I then hear the mom telling the office clerk that she has PINK EYE. What? Shouldn't you be in the SICK waiting room. Ugh.

Burrberrymum

I have to bitch about not having any good friends. I swear while pregnant they would all say how excited they were, how much fun it will be to do things with DD and I. Now 7 months after having my daughter it's like they've all disappeared. I try to make lunch plans, or shopping plans or just plain old asking them to come over for a BBQ, they always say they'll get ready and head on over but then after getting ready and waiting, I get an excuse.

BUT when it comes to all of them (my circle or "good friends") making plans to go out, or to the bar they never fail to actually show up for everyone else.

I can't help but feel sad and gloomy, I wanted so badly to have lunch with another adult on Saturday but Ofcourse no one wanted to so I went out alone. I need mommy friends... Can anyone else relate?

Salemkitty13

I'm sorry @Burrberrymum‌. It sounds like you are in a different place in your life than your friends. I'm sorry they aren't making time for you right now. I know that hurts. My only mommy friend lives in HI. When I was on maternity leave I went to the breastfeeding group at the hospital. That really helped me. Can your health nurse recommend anything? I hope you make mommy friends or your old friends come around soon. In the meantime you have us.

nbartlett47

I'm over the whole month of April.

First, I had mastitis, which sucked pretty bad. But since it was only effecting me, I was able to suck it up and deal with it. I have some sort of sinus/cold thing going on, too, but, again, whatever.

Now, after a trip to urgent care, the ER and finally the pediatrician (all in the last 6 days) DS has been diagnosed with an eye infection, an ear infection and bronchiolitis. Putting the nebulizer on him breaks my heart. I've never felt so helpless in my life.

Oh, and DH has come down with a man cold.

Suck it, April.

End bitch.

Burrberrymum

Salemkitty13 said:

I'm sorry @Burrberrymum‌. It sounds like you are in a different place in your life than your friends. I'm sorry they aren't making time for you right now. I know that hurts. My only mommy friend lives in HI. When I was on maternity leave I went to the breastfeeding group at the hospital. That really helped me. Can your health nurse recommend anything? I hope you make mommy friends or your old friends come around soon. In the meantime you have us.

My nurse keeps telling me to go to this free center where you can socialize with other parents and LO's can play but I kid you not every time I go there's no one there! Just my luck lol

I'm also very shy when meeting new people but I know once I get comfortable with some new friends I'll be fine, it's just that initial 'get to know each other' play date that makes me nervous. Thank goodness for you bump ladies though, keeps me sane to at least be somewhat social with other adults!

Burrberrymum

@jenny5o5‌ Thats just it, babies need to nap and it seems like non kid friends don't seem to understand that our schedules aren't so spontaneous anymore. Is it lame of me to suggest going on walks with my non kid friends? Seems like that's where they end up not responding back.. But hey the weathers been beautiful and why not get some exercise? Baby friendly and just plain old relaxing!

redfallon

To PPs about no mom friends, we moved to Austin from Dallas about two years ago. All my long-time friends live in Dallas or in Florida (where I lived many years ago). I've met up with a couple of S13'ers who live around here, but we aren't close enough to do it on a regular basis. I finally decided to join in a women's group for my city and someone there posted about mom groups on meetup.com. I joined a couple of groups there and am going to go to my first meetup the beginning of May.

It may be something to look into. I'm not big into going out a lot, but finally decided that I need to at least try.

HisChamaoleGirl

I've tried those mommy meet up groups but they always meet while I am at work. And a lot of them, in my area, are for "mothers who choose to stay at home and make their children their career." Quite frankly their description sounds judgy of working moms and I wouldn't want to be a part of the group anyway. I am hoping to find a way to meet other moms, working or otherwise, in my area bc I am sure my kidless coworkers are tired of hearing about my lo

Salemkitty13

HisChamaoleGirl said:

I've tried those mommy meet up groups but they always meet while I am at work. And a lot of them, in my area, are for "mothers who choose to stay at home and make their children their career." Quite frankly their description sounds judgy of working moms and I wouldn't want to be a part of the group anyway. I am hoping to find a way to meet other moms, working or otherwise, in my area bc I am sure my kidless coworkers are tired of hearing about my lo

This. I think SAH is a requirement for the mommy group near me. We are going to join a class or two soon. I'm trying to decide between kindermusik and gymboree.

Burrberrymum

I signed up for swimming maybe I'll make some mommy friends there. It's not a moms group but it is friendly of weekday working moms since it is ok Saturdays, could be an idea!

On another note I'm feeling quite bitchy so please please please let me bitch about this...I don't even need to use words I'll just post the photo it's self explanatory. I know were all probably tired of car seat safety bitches but I really can't handle seeing this girl going on a road trip like this!!

Salemkitty13

@Burrberrymum‌

 OMG! You are right!!! How could her mom give her a lollipop! 

 J/k

jmjewell19

FutureMrs07282012 said:

I completely agree! I've also seen some to help pay for weddings! It just takes everything in me to not tell them how trashy that is!

You know, now that you mention that, I did see one awhile back for a wedding. It's just odd to me that people think it's acceptable to ask people to fund things like that for them. Like I said, I get the some of these for emergencies or benefits after an unexpected, life changing event, but there are getting to be quite a few that just irk me. 

Legitsince86 said:

Funny you mention that. I just saw a friend post for helping an art teacher. I clicked the link and saw that the teacher is trying to raise funds for leather art portfolios for third graders. Really? I put my art in construction folders at that age. I would think the money would be better off for art supplies.

I could see help for actual supplies--if the school didn't have the budget and the teacher couldn't pay OOP for them (which isn't exactly fair, either), but for something that is so clearly not a necessity just doesn't make sense. 

jmjewell19

For those of you missing out on your old friends/needing to find new friends--I can completely commiserate. I'm a quiet person and have many people that I know, but only a few people that I consider calling and hanging out with on a regular basis. One of my best friends lives an hour and a half north, the other an hour and a half south (when she returns from China). I need some more friends in this town who can relate to where I am. And as far as I know, not really any mom groups in the area--or at least not when I can get to them due to work. 

@allisonnn5‌, hang in there!

@Burberrymum, that picture is ridiculous. What are people thinking?