My big baby is getting picked on :(

bubblesmtu

VCGolfNYC said:

bubblesmtu said:

VCGolfNYC said:

 

I think in this context we are applying comments and qualifiers to babies in the same way that they are applied to adults and that is neither right nor analogous. 

Just curious - why do you think it's ok to say those things about a baby? Just because they don't understand, their parents do, and at what age would you stop calling them 'big' or 'small'?

Well, considering the title of this post has uses the word "big", perhaps I can ask you the same question?  

Yes, the baby doesn't understand while the parent does understand; and the parent should be wise enough to know when their baby is healthy and that a factual observation is not always an insult or that the baby is being "picked on".  A parent should also be able to draw a distinction between when some stranger is verbalizing said observation rather than being deliberately obtuse.  

I do know she's big for her age, that's just a fact, and I know in my head that what you're saying is true but my heart still hurts when certain comments are made about her size.

Rindecella

I have a big baby too, she's not exactly chunky but she is very tall, 98%, and so many people say "well you knew she wouldn't be cute and tiny forever,you and DH are both giants!" (I'm 5'10 and he is 6'3) It hurts when they say she isn't "cute" and tiny. So I understand, when people use the term "cute" to mean "small."

lifesaverz

I understand, that would get old to hear. And unlike PPs said, I doubt everyone that comments means it as a compliment. Context is everything. They may just be expressing their shock, which I agree is kinda rude. Just tell them she is healthy & happy & you love every bit of her!

synergy_gd

Oh hell my guys been OFF the chart for weeks, he's 4.5mths and the size of an average 10mth old. I don't care if people say he's big, a chunky monkey or whatever. Like DH said it's not like we're feeding him kit kats. I'd rather the chubba bubba comments that people saying he was skinny or slim. Chubby baby is a healthy baby and I'm sure that's all people mean by it

notkateanymore

lrachelle80 said:

My grandma always comments on how "solid" Em is. She's big - 80 something percentile for weight, about 16.5 lbs. I call her "chubs" and I freaking LOVE her rolls and giant cheeks. I also think skinny babies with their little wrinkly knees are adorable, BTW. 

That said, I have to laugh, because our pedi warned us about people calling her fat/solid/chubby/chunky at both our 2 and 4 month appointment, basically saying, "When you have a big baby like this, you are going to hear comments, and don't take them to heart. Don't worry about them. We like big babies. And it means absolutely nothing in regard to what her size will be as an adult." Apparently he has had parents freaking out and trying to put their 8 week old on a diet because people commented on how fat the baby was. Sigh. 

I get he's a big baby every day and I literally couldn't care less...it seems really vain to worry/get upset or insulted about something like this honestly.