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laurstarx

Hey everyone. First a foremost I want to give major kudos to you all for being a single parent. As I recently found out it is major work.. But of course worth it!!

My name is Lauren and I am 25 years old. DD was born on march 24th.. Amelia Claire. I never knew how much love one is capable of until I held her in my arms.

Onto my situation. Me and SD (I say SD for sperm donor because he doesn't deserve the title as father) were only dating for 3 months when I got pregnant. He came off as a wonderful person at first and he seemed genuinely interested in raising this child together. Well shortly after getting pregnant.. I found out I was all sorts of wrong. He was dating 3 other women and using is kids that I found out he didn't see as excuses when he couldn't be around. I hadn't met them yet because like I said we weren't dating long and I wasn't rushing it at that point. Well not only was he dying these women but he knocked up the 37 year old married woman at the same time as me. He lied about where he worked..lived.. Said he had a car and made up elaborate stories when he doesn't even have a license.. Lied about his kids.. And god knows what else. Ok so he is obviously a bad person but I still wouldn't keep him from his child if he really wanted to be in her life like he kept stressing.

Fast forward to march 24. I texted called him numerous times to tell him I was in labor and the baby was coming. He didn't get back to me for hours and all he said was "omg". Then later said he did answer all my texts and I wasn't answering him which is obviously total bullshit. Then his next excuse was he didn't want to come because my mom was there. Well how about you grow a pair and suck it up to be there for the birth of your daughter? Well anyway he didn't come during labor. He kept saying he was coming to see her in the hospital.. And I would give him opportunities when I was alone so he didn't have to be there when my family was there.. But he had more excuses.. Like he didn't get my messages.. He had to work.. He overslept. Ok whatever you're an ass. Well the same excuses have been shoved at me for the last almost 4 weeks. So I call him out on in and he always finds a way to try to turn it around and make it my fault that his dead beat ass won't come see her.

Today he told me he wishes I would have died giving birth.. After I called him out yet again for his broken promise.

I'm so fed up with him and his lies. I genuinely believe she is better off without him because even if he decided to come see her I'm sure he would be a half ass parent. I don't even want to take him to court for child support because I give him the opportunity to get some kind if custody arrangement and I don't trust him one bit.

I hate that one day in the future that Amelia is probably going to come to me and ask why her dad didn't want her. How do I explain that?

Sorry for the horribly long story.. And for any spelling errors.. I am mobile. I needed to get that all out because I really haven't said all of that out loud to anyone.

Happy Easter!!!

Monkeybird84

Welcome to the board,and I'm sorry you are going through that. It's hard enough being a new mom, and ten times worse when you have to deal with drama or bullshit from SD/BD. I was fortunate enough to realize fairly early in my pregnancy that BD was going to be useless, and I moved out at about 18 weeks. I had to move in with my parents a couple of weeks before my DS was born because the friend I was staying with didn't think she could handle a screaming baby in the middle of the night. DS is now 16 months old and I haven't heard from BD since about 12 hours after I gave birth. I know it's hard, but you got this. Just focus on that beautiful, innocent baby girl, and take it one day at a time. And don't be afraid to vent here! 

MinnesotaMomma91

Welcome to the board. Sorry your going through it.

My name is also lauren so you know i think your cool already. And im sorry to hear about your situation woth your bd

laurstarx

@Monkeybird84‌ thank you. I'm sorry you went through it too. Their loss for not knowing our beautiful babies

@MinnesotaMomma91‌ thank you. Lauren is such an awesome name so obviously you're awesome

20thirteen

Custody and CS are two separate things, but filing for CS may provoked a filing for a custody arrangement. Depends on the situation.

Welcome to the board. Your BD wouldn't happen to be named Steve, would it? LOL (totally kidding.) My BD was a cheater and a liar but he wasn't spreading "his seed" that freely. I don't think.

laurstarx

@Roxalot‌ that's what I'm afraid of provoking him to file for some sort if custody out of spite or something of the sort

Thanks for the welcome.. And no not Steve lol.. But yes he apparently loves spreading his seed. 3 almost 4 (married chick got an abortion) children from all different women by the age of 26. Sometimes I feel like I need to be on jerry springer or Maury.

MinnesotaMomma91

@roxalot and @laurstarx perhaps his name was ben. My bd is a man whore of epic proportions who has no problem spreading the babies.

Bentley is the second youngest of five. That i know of. He has two older brothers, an older sister and a younger sister four months younger then him. I dont even worry if bd will go for custody no judge will grant it to him since we live in different states

tig594

Welcome and sorry you're here. It doesn't sound like he's very interested in being a parent to any of his kids. I'd sock him with c/s if I were you but that's just me. Maybe if all his kid's mom's do he'll think twice before knocking up 5 more chicks. Being a single mom is hard but the rewards are amazing. Just you wait until that LO one of yours can really snuggle. I wouldn't trade my morning snuggles with DD for anything in the world. The best part? No sharing! They are all for me!

freeatlast2014

Hello and welcome.
I didn't meet my dad until I was 26 and whenever I asked my mom prior she would tell me that he wasn't a good person. And that was enough for me for a long time. She was such an awesome mom I never wanted her to feel bad so I didn't ask much. When I finally met him for the first time he also agreed that he would not have been a good dad. We have a great relationship now and I embrace my extended family (he has 3 young kids too). I forgive my mom for sure. I'm still working on my dad. But I am who I am today because of my mom, 100% of me is from her.

inthelost

Welcome to the board and I'm so sorry you've had to deal with all this and you do not deserve it. You are so much better than this loser guy ever will hope to be. I deal with a SD like this too. When I contacted him to tell him his daughter was being born and the only contact we've had since her being born is to mentally and emotionally abuse me, so I understand. You should have NEVER had to hear that from. He sounds like a piece of shit to me. Your daughter IS better off without him. I'm not sure what to tell my daughter either when she's old enough to ask, I think it'll be something along the lines of him not being a good person or about him making decisions that weren't complimentray to raising a child. I know it's hard, I'm living it everyday too. If you need to talk, we're here for you. Feel free to rant away.

SimpleComplexity

Sounds like my child's father. Is his name Andre?

Welcome. I'm sorry you're going through this.

laurstarx

Thank you everyone for the warm welcomes! I'm sorry you are all going through this, too

jellybean529

So sorry for what you're going through, but welcome to the board

MinnesotaMomma91

Were a pretty fun board to hang around with

MinnesotaMomma91

Also i forgot to gif you in welcome.

20thirteen

I LOVE STITCH!

MinnesotaMomma91

@Roxalot when i was younger i usedtobe able to talk like stitch. It was a dead ringer so when one of my sisters went to disney/universal she got me a stitch stuffed animal. Imso excited to pass stitch onto bentley. But im more excited for him to experience harry potter for the first time

laurstarx

Hahaha I love me some stitch!!

MinnesotaMomma91

If you like any kind of gifs well get a long. I have a gif for every occasion

And some just because gifs... also i am a potterhead

laurstarx

@MinnesotaMomma91‌ So your name is Lauren and you're a potter head. Are you sure you aren't me?

MinnesotaMomma91

Hmm its possible. Did you hear about the new triology of harry potter movies comming out? Im fan girling over here

laurstarx

@MinnesotaMomma91‌ hell yeah. PRt of me keeps thinking it's too good to be true

I went to universal Orlando to Harry potter world last summer and just missed it expanding to included diagon alley and a rideable hogwarts express. So mad

MinnesotaMomma91

Im so jealous youve been there! Im currently trying to talk my bf into us going. Hes not going for it. My new goal is to get his son c and mine into.harry potter also so that it can be a family trip ;-)

laurstarx

I plan to make my daughter into a huge potterhead so we can go together! Hahaha and I want to go to London to do the studio tours. How cool would that be!