Weekly Check In

ksgsmu

This check in is for anyone on the board. There is a new check in for ladies over 40 but you are welcome to post both places if you want. Please intro on the main board before checking in so we can "meet" you!

1. Your Name or Screen Name ( not full names) and State you are from...

2. How long have you been TTC? TTC#1 or TTC#2, 3 etc...?

3. What are you doing this cycle? Are you seeking help with a fertility specialist ( RE)? If so where are you at? Testing? Medicated cycles? IUI? IVF? Charting/temping?

4. Where are you in your cycle? ( Waiting to O, 2WW etc) If in the 2ww when will you test? Experiencing any weird "phantom" symptoms ladies in your 2ww?

5. How do you feel about this cycle? (Are you hopeful, anxious... etc)

QOTW:
Who is your #1 support system while TTC? Are you open about trying?

bumpuser10258960

Liz from Jacksonville, FL
Technically TTC for 6 days. LOL. Just came off BC
This cycle I'm just getting to know my "cycle" more, so I'm playing observer. 
Right now, I'm in the middle of AF visit, so I am CD4
This cycle will be more "wait and see" for me. I'm gearing up for may which will be "full on" BD time!

QOTW: 
I have a group of GF who I chat with on FB and they are my biggest cheerleaders. I can pretty much talk to them about anything. I'm open with those closest to me about our plans, parents, best friends. But I haven't discussed it with my bosses yet. That will have to wait until after I'm PG. 

Mommalawyer

Today was test day for IUI#1, BFN. Waiting for the dot to arrive. QOTW- My best friend from elementary school. She's actually an RN at a fertility clinic, so she can talk me down off any ledge, plus she been down this road & did IVF twice....

Edit: The dot arrived. I am CD1. Ultrasound and monitoring on Monday to start medicated cycle #2 with IUI.

latershrader

1. Leanna from Virginia

2. 18 months...gosh a year and a half. Time flies!

3. I am currently trying to drop weight so I can do my first IUI in June. I feel like we are taking an unofficial break because I'm really not obessing anymore. I'm not charting, temping, OPKing or anything. It's actually kinda nice!

4. I O'd earlier this week. I actually felt it happening this time, never had that happen before. It's funny how in tune you get w/ your body when TTC.

5. Since we haven't BD'd in a while, I'm not very hopeful.

QOTW: 
My DH is my #1 supporter; he hugs me when I start a new cycle and is ready to BD when I say it's time. Ohterwise, I have told a few people. My best friend, who is a big supporter. Another girlfriend who is going through this same process, just a few steps ahead of me. And my mom. I don't tell her EVERYTHING, just that we are having trouble and seeking help. They are all great support and I lean on them when I need to. And of course, you all and this board. Knowing there are other people out there dealing with this stuff is a comfort. I wouldn't wish this on anyone, but at least we can help each other through it.

On that note, I want to give a shout to @ksgsmu & @BeckyP005. I think you are both waiting on your DEs this month. Good luck and we'll be here rooting for you!!!

Davie813

@mommalawyer, I'm sorry.

1. Davie813, Chicago

2. Cycle #4, TTC #2

3. Preseed, lots of supplements and vitamins, etc, got 7 dpo progesterone test this cycle.  Will get RE referral if next two cycles are unsuccessful.

4. 9 dpo.  Yeah, lots of phantom symptoms this time around--cramping, skin break out, fatigue, nausea...I think it's a combination of wishful thinking and the fact that I'm actually sick. :-<

5. Not hopeful.  Had negative hpt this morning (I know, I know...should have waited.)

6. My husband!  He's been amazing.  Other than him, I've told a few close friends/family that we would like a second child and/or are trying, but no details.  As the process goes on, I will probably talk about it more with my best friend, but other than that, I think I'll keep it to myself.  Who knows, though?

BeckyP005

@MamaBear904‌ have fun BDing soon!! @mommalawyer big huge hugs @soontobeshrader thank you!! Your IUI is just around the corner! @ksgsmu I'm excited for you!!!! @Davie813‌ you never know.

1. Becky from Pittsburgh
2. TTC #1 Started with RE 4/11. Too much damn waiting lol
3. DE IVF#1. First cycle got cancelled.
4. Had my lining check this morning and everything looks good. Will call Sunday to find out when donor's ER is next week and what day my transfer is
5. Cautiously Optimistic lol

QOTW: My good friend and of course the boards!! MH's brother n sister and their spouses know. SIL told his parents...big mouth. My parents don't know. Few close friends know.

Boss also knows since I work in their home.

LaireAndLia

1. Lia from Scotland
2. TTC#1 
3. Reciprocal IVF (Laire's eggs, I'm carrying) with donor sperm. Also giving half of Laire's eggs to her sister and her FI for their IVF.
4. We have picked a sperm donor, and Laire, @Astrabacus, her FI and I have all been given the good to go, so we are now waiting on Laire getting to CD 3 so she can go on birth control and we can all get synced up.
5. Impatient for it to start!

QOTW: Laire and @Astrabacus. We are all going through this together, and it's great that we can all lean on each other a bit. But all of our family and close friends know we are TTC. Laire wanted to be very open about it so that our mothers would stop asking when we were going to get married. It didn't work.

URMySunshine77

1. Your Name or Screen Name ( not full names) and State you are from... 

URMySunshine77 from California

2. How long have you been TTC? TTC#1 or TTC#2, 3 etc...? 

TTC#2 for two months, NTNP for three months before that

3. What are you doing this cycle? 

Temping, PNV, drinking decaf green tea, starting OPKs for the first time on CD10.

4. Where are you in your cycle? ( Waiting to O, 2WW etc) If in the 2ww when will you test? Experiencing any weird "phantom" symptoms ladies in your 2ww? 

Today is CD10. DH knows that we need to HIO this weekend, Monday, and Tuesday. I hope that he supports this. After talking so much with all of you, I really feel like he cracks under the pressure, and I respect that. I've backed off and I'm trying to preach less.

5. How do you feel about this cycle? (Are you hopeful, anxious... etc) 

I am feeling really relaxed, but of course that might change in the 2WW. Ugh, that span of time is always so stressful.

QOTW: 
Who is your #1 support system while TTC? Are you open about trying? 

My middle sister is TTC#1. She is 33 and an RN. She has always been less emotional and more rationale than me. She answers my health questions and helps quell my obsessing.

@mommalawyer: I'm so sorry. :-( I am rooting for you.

@MamaBear904: good luck with your observation this cycle. I kind of feel the same way. My O date may or may not be when I expect it. Or I might not O. I'm just trying to be realistic.

@soontobeshrader: That is so cool that you identified the O day. I love when that happens. It's also wonderful that your SO is so supportive. He is a gem.

@Davie813: Don't feel bad. I took a HPT at 8DPO last month, silly me. I'm also glad to hear that you can talk to your DH about TTC.

@BeckyP005: I'm glad that everything looks good and that your transfer day is approaching. Much love!

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BeckyP005

@LaireAndLia‌ its so hard to be patient!! I really wished I had a hobby to take my mind off of things @URMySunshine77‌ fx things work out on your days. So frustrating. Its hard not to get upset with them. I've yelled and yes that wasn't the smartest thing to do at the time. Lesson learned. GL sweetie

LaireAndLia

@BeckyP005 I've taken to baking as a hobby, as it also reduces my stress levels, but then I keep on eating all this cake! 

kindershlitz

Good luck to everyone! It looks like a busy month for quite a few

@mommalawyer I'm sorry to read that

1. Kindershlitz, MI

2. TTC #2 9th cycle

3. PNVs, OPKs, H2O, and some additional exercise-that's it this month

4. Oing any day now so taking the EOD approach since it worked for DH's schedule

5. I am trying to stay positive and not obsess

6. A handful of people know we are TTC, one friend is having a hard time and we chat on occasion, my parents because my dad is a retired physician and I have bounced some questions off him, I also like to keep tabs on this board, but my biggest supporter is DH

lcwed

1. LCWED, TX
2. TTC#2 4th Cycle
3.  Starting OPK Sunday
4.  This is CD 7 for me, so waitng to O
5.  Okay either way.  DH next conference may be in New Orleans or Las Vegas and those places would probably be more fun if I wasn't pregnant.  Also, no pressure to hit a certain month for delivery anymore.  After this OPK is done it will go back to NTNP.

QOTW- My 2 closest friends.  After we go back to NTNP, hopefully I won't feel the need to be talking about it so much with anyone other than DH and this board.

ETA: QOTW

KirstenAlecia

Kirsten from CA

TTC #2 for me….first for H

No help yet though I think it may be in our future - we ae NPNT rt now

Im supposedly in my fertile week CD15

I do not REALLY want to be PG this month….but I'm not avoiding BD in my fertile week. If its meant to be it is. Im just in the process of trying to drop 30 pounds. I want to try latest in August. Im going to restart temping and charting next cycle. 

QOTW

My support system is not really in place rt now while NPNT. It was my best friend and Im sure it will be again when I officially start trying again. 

Sherby613

1. Sherby from CT 
2. About six months 
3. Just made appt with RE for May
4. Waiting for AF (bfn today)
5. Ready to move on and try again 

QOTW: 
DH is my support system in this journey. None of our friends or family knows that we are trying. 

northernkhaleesi

(previous pregnancies mentioned)

1. NorthernKhaleesi from Canada

2. TTC #3 for me, #1 for DH. Month/cycle 2

3. Nothing yet, maybe after the summer

4. CD2 - shocker, as it's early by half a week 

5. I was shocked and disappointed yesterday when what I thought was implantation turned into a bog ole AF... (I had bleeds with both other pregnancies)

GTKY:

I've only told one person really. DH and I are quite open with each other about it, but I've been keeping my cards close to my chest. I think that I'm hesitant because I know that my mother (especially) will be "why would you want to start all over again, your kids are half raised." I feel like she will judge our choice. When she was my age, she almost died after a botched operation and spent the next ten years suffering. I lost my childhood then because I had to take care of her and my younger sister. She remembers herself at this age and doesn't see that I'm young, active and healthy. Age is more than a number to her; I have to really think about it when someone asks how old I am...

northernkhaleesi

soontobeshrader - glad to hear that you're enjoying this more! Not obsessing is awesome - tough, but awesome!

URMySunshine77 - I was relaxed until my 2WW hit. Then, not so much... But I enjoyed the first part of this cycle, that's for sure!

LaireAndLia - being patient sucks sometimes!

Lesliem0901

Margaret from Michigan
TTC#1 for 18 months
Waiting for AF
Have to take a month off before going back to RE for 5th IUI
My support system is a co-worker / friend that also went through a similar path TTC. I talk openly about my situation and all of the important people in my life know and support me.

Tsuga76

@mommalawyer: Sorry it didn't work out this cycle - fx for the next!

@BeckyP005: Good luck with your DE cycle!

1. Rachel from PA

2. TTC #1 for 11 months

3. Charting/temping, OPKs.  Trying CoQ10 and raspberry leaf tea - at least makes me feel like I'm doing something

4. I'm definitely in the 2WW but not certain where.  Probably 2 or 3 dpo.  Maybe 5 or 6.

5. Meh.  I suspect O was delayed, since I didn't see a temp shift until 5 days after my pos OPK X(  My guess is it was due to an increase in running mileage last week.

QOTW:
DH is my #1 supporter, and my absolute partner in all this. He's been so patient and encouraging when I get anxious, and has listened carefully when I've explained the ol' how-things-actually-work.  I've told my closest peeps - a few close friends, sister, mom. They're all supportive, though I don't talk with them about it that much.

Lady2010

1. Lady2010 in Boston

2. TTC#1 since Mar 2012

3. Seeing a RE.  We are doing a Natural FET this cycle.

4. CD4, had my baseline today and everything looks good.  Next ultrasound is next Weds - then I go in for regular monitoring up to Ovulation

5. Hopeful but trying not to be too hopeful in case it doesn't work.

QOTW: DH of course - without him I would be a mess.  He is my rock.  But also my 2 closest girl friends get a lot of the details and have been crucial to me as well.  They both have kids but the 3 of us are so close and they have been wonderful.  Another very close friend who just had her DD today also has been a big support (she also suffered IF and went through IVF).  A lot of our good friends do know we have been trying and a handful know we are going down the IF/IVF/FET road - but they don't get the day to day or updates - and they have been very nice, supportive and respectful of our not wanting to talk about it or give updates.  Turns out several of them have gone through it so that helps knowing so many success stories.  Both our families know we are doing IVF but none of the details. (we bought our house in 2012 - a 3 BR - so it wasn't rocket science that we wanted a family at some point.

FX to everyone!!!

Mommalawyer

Thanks ladies! Your kind words and your journeys inspire me to keep pushing through! Good luck to you all too!

Lm92599

@Mommalawyer Sorry girl, I know how hard it is.. sending you creepy internet ((hugs))

@BeckyPoo5 good luck next week!

@Lady2010 Good luck with your FET.


Lm92599 So Cal

DH #1 TTC since March 2012

IUI#1 W/ clomid

In the 2WW ~11dpiui  I think progesterone is the devil in the 2WW. It is playing mind tricks on me. Yesterday I had hot flashes, Ive been starving and started getting mild nausea.  I tested out my trigger.. and its been a blank slate since. This morning BFN took all my hope. Oh well. onward and upward. Looking forward to next cycle.

This cycle I believe is a BFN. So I am going to resume my normal activities working out, which always makes me feel better. Looking forward to moving on to IUI#2.

QOTW: When we did our IVF and FET I told my good friends ( I am friends with 2 girls from high school still) They are my rock. and My DH. This IUI I told no one. So my DH is alone in my madness. I feel bad for him.

BeckyP005

@Lm92599‌ I'm sorry. {{HUGS}} Do you know when #2 will be or will you take a breather?

mindaa

1. mindaa in Phoenix

2. TTC#1 since Jan 2012

3. charting, temping, acupuncture

4. TWW

5. Never got a positive OPK, so not hopeful. Whatever, didn't really want a Dec/Jan baby. (totally j/k... although when we started I had the schedule all planned out and knew exactly when I wanted baby to come... so funny to think I used to care so much way back when, now I'll take anything!) 

QOTW: I'm super private, at least when it comes to talking about BD and AF. Chalk that up to my Baptist upbringing So DH shoulders most of my support... and he's great. Oddly, he talks to his guy friends about it more than I talk to anyone... probably because he's more comfortable talking about BD!

Well, I have God too, I'd be a mess without my faith. A couple close friends know we are TTC and are supportive, but are themselves CFNBC, so I don't really feel comfortable venting to them about our troubles.

Lm92599

@Becky005 I think we will start it with CD1. Thanks

ksgsmu

Hey ladies - what a week!

 Our donor had her egg retrieval this morning and we got 25 eggs!   We are so happy with that number!!  Now we wait for the fertilization report, hope that we have a good number make it to blast and then of to pgd.  We are very happy but of course very anxious and nervous as anything can happen and it is out of our control completely!

QOTW:
My husband of course is my #1 support. He is my rock and this journey as tough it has been has brought us even closer together.  I know God gave me this amazing partner to go through this with.  I am so blessed. 

Our families and closest friends know we have been trying, and of course our miscarriage.  They know we are working with an RE and doing fertility treatments but they do not know any details.  sometimes they ask but we don't give them answers and sometimes even fib. A close friend asked me yesterday if we are considering IVF... I said " we are considering all our options" ... little does she know we are doing DEIVF and our egg retrieval was this morning!!

TAT2MAMI

1. Your Name or Screen Name ( not full names) and State you are from...

Rosie - Northern California

2. How long have you been TTC? TTC#1 or TTC#2, 3 etc...?

TTC #2 - 2nd Month/Cycle

3. What are you doing this cycle? Are you seeking help with a fertility specialist ( RE)? If so where are you at? Testing? Medicated cycles? IUI? IVF? Charting/temping?

More aware of when to BD this time around. DH wanted to do it EVERY DAY last month. Now I know that's not the best idea.

4. Where are you in your cycle? ( Waiting to O, 2WW etc) If in the 2ww when will you test? Experiencing any weird "phantom" symptoms ladies in your 2ww?

AF came on 4/16/14. I had total 'phantom' symptoms before AF (frequent urination, soreness in my chest, cramping)

5. How do you feel about this cycle? (Are you hopeful, anxious... etc)

I'm trying to feel positive about this cycle. Of course I'm hopeful. Last month was our 1st month of trying and I felt really nervous, but since it didn't happen, it has just made me appreciate it all that much more when/if it does happen.
DH and I conceived in the 1st month of trying with our daughter. Well, she'll be 8 next month, so it's been awhile and our bodies have changed. He was definitely under the impression that it was going to happen right away.

QOTW:
Who is your #1 support system while TTC? Are you open about trying?

DH is definitely my #1 supporter. I have also recently shared with my mom and a co-worker. They are the only ones that know that we are 'actively' trying.

zantster

1. Your Name or Screen Name ( not full names) and State you are from...

Tene' (sounds like Renee) from Michigan

2. How long have you been TTC? TTC#1 or TTC#2, 3 etc...?

4 months TTC #1 with FF and Ovia

3. What are you doing this cycle? Are you seeking help with a fertility specialist ( RE)? If so where are you at? Testing? Medicated cycles? IUI? IVF? Charting/temping?

First month using BBT, OPK and CM.  DH got an SA and is A-OK

4. Where are you in your cycle? ( Waiting to O, 2WW etc) If in the 2ww when will you test? Experiencing any weird "phantom" symptoms ladies in your 2ww?

I am at 6 DPO.  I will probably test next weekend if AF doesn't show.  I haven't had any phantom symptoms.  But my chart makes me hopeful at this point.  Feel free to take a look and give me your opinion.

5. How do you feel about this cycle? (Are you hopeful, anxious... etc)

I am cautiously hopeful but laid back.  This board and all you ladies have helped me to calm the eff down and realize that there are numerous women who, despite all the best timing, temping, OPKing, CMing, etc., there are no guarantees for a BFP.  So now I've just decided to sit back, relax and enjoy my marriage and learning all I can along the way about my body during this journey.

QOTW:
Who is your #1 support system while TTC? Are you open about trying?

DH is definitely my number one support.  I am pretty open.  I think most people are just living their own lives and could care less whether I got KU'd or not.  So when they ask sometimes while making small talk I don't get defensive I just say we'll see how things go but we'd like to have children.

Thanks for encouraging me to check in here @kindershlitz !