One of my fellow OAD'ers from work is headed off for vacation with her 6 year old for two weeks and she was commenting on how easy it is to travel with him now. I mentioned that I look forward to that one day too.
She then told me a little story. About a year ago they were headed of to Mexico for their second time in nine months and a friend of hers made the comment, "You couldn't do that with more than one kid. You have it soooo easy." Not in a compliment way, but that sort of b!tch speak way. She responded by saying, "Yep. That was by design."
Her friend was a tad offended. I tell you all this because it's funny and also because I desperately need a vacation.
So, would you have the balls when to answer the same? If someone did that eye-roll-shrug thing with a "You have it so easy....."? I'm worried in the moment I would end up apologizing or something instead of just owning it.
Re: "You have it sooooo easy...."
I'd probably answer it in a similar manner.
As @2013mommy mentioned one of the reasons we're OaD because we do want to go on vacations once in a while an dtraveling with 1 kid is much easier not to mention cheaper than traveling with multiple children.
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I do dance, workout regularly and eat healthy, that combined with genetics put me back in shape pretty quickly after the baby. I get alot of backhanded compliments even a claim of astonishment that my son was born healthy (old lady at a restaurant.)
When I was younger, I explained andapologized for my weight because I heard many times about how hard it was for other people and that I should be lucky/grateful. To this day when I'm reading my feminist blogs and the topic of weight/thin privilege comes up, it still seems wrong to answer any questions or comments on my weight in anyway but sheepish or meek.
So while in most aspects of my life I'm pretty quick witted when it comes to bullshit, I kind of have this hang-up in a few areas. The two aren't really connected and I don't know why my brain is going there, but it is and I need to snap the fudge out of it.
I went all meta. Sorry.
IME, "friends" like that need to be avoided.
(and yes, traveling with older kids is SO MUCH easier).