My 4-year-old with ASD has been spending a lot of time at parks and playgrounds now that the weather is warming up, and I'm finding his social awkwardness more upsetting now that he's older. It breaks my heart when kids are mean to him or call him weird (both of which have happened in the past week). He doesn't learn how to act from me telling him things - I could say the same thing 100 times and it wouldn't sink in - but he loves emulating things he's seen in/on his favorite books, TV shows and YouTube videos (I'm sure many of you other ASD parents have experienced this).
My question is: Can any of you recommend social behavior-type videos or books, or some way to show DS that it's not okay to walk up to a strange kid sitting on a swing and start pushing for him (I actually had an older child's mother get very angry about this last weekend before I was able to rush over and remind DS once again that we don't touch people we don't know)? Or that if someone asks you to stop following them, you have to comply instead of just giggling and continuing to follow?
Another incident, for example's sake: recently we were in a play-place and two kids near DS's age who were obviously brother and sister were play-wrestling and laughing on the floor. My son, who loves roughousing, tried to join in by adding himself to the pile, laughing uproariously himself. Of course the two siblings were horrified and annoyed, and told him to get off. My son seems to lack the ability to understand that these two kids know each other, so it's okay for them to wrestle, but you don't know them, so you can't join in even if they're doing it right in front of you. What do I do about things like this? Just telling him isn't working. Also, he attends an inclusion preschool and things are better with his school friends because they know him and know he's "just the way he is" but that doesn't help with strangers.