One of the threads below got me thinking - how good is your LO with independent play? DS (21 months) is terrible at it - as in, he'd play for at most, 90 seconds, by himself. He goes to DC 2 days a week and does fine there, but when he is with home with me, he always wants me to play with him. Even if I'm not actively playing with him, he wants me to sit near by and watch him play. Since I work FT and only see him on evenings and weekends and do enjoy playing with him, I always comply. But now I'm wondering if I should try to reinforce independent play more?
Re: Independent play
If you want to try and get your DS to play more on his own - I'd start with just being in the room w/ him. Read a book while he's playing. But just BE there w/ him.
I'm sure a part of it is that he misses you too and wants you to be w/ him. I'd just try to find some balance.
DD2 (13 months) is awesome. She is constantly off by herself (within our vision, of course) playing, unloading and loading containers of toys, climbing on stuff, etc. She loves to play with DD1, but she also just does her own thing a lot.
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Personally, I believe it is part of my job to help my kids learn to play independently. I make sure that I carve out specific time that I do play with them and I make sure that during that time they have my full attention with no distractions. But recently I've actually had to force myself to step back and let my kids play by themselves without me interrupting. Your kid is still young, but I try to make sure that I am not playing for myself, but for them.
There is a great book, I think it is Playful Parenting. He gets into a lot of aspects of play and the importance, including how adults take over play when they join. This can be good and bad. So like everything, I try and go for a balance.
I think some kids are just better at independent play than others. I was content to play by myself in my room all day and my brother always had to be interacting with someone else. We're the same way as adults, I have no problem just sitting by myself and doing whatever I want (not that that ever happens anymore) while he always has to have someone around - nothing wrong with that - he has lots of friends.
However, in the last two weeks, that's changed a bit. A few times now, she's played on her own for up to 10 minutes. Hallelujah!
To clarify - I don't actively play with DS all the time as I want him to explore toys and his environment on his own. For example, we have a giant train table, and he plays that by himself for 10 - 15 minutes at a time. BUT, I have to sit right next to it. If I try to walk away or try to read a book or something, DS freaks out.