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TTC after 35
Jmaddiso
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Newbie after a loss
Jmaddiso
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in TTC after 35
Hi there,
I hope I'm doing this right! I don't want to offend anyone or get a message that I'm doing this all wrong.
A little about myself and S.O. I'll be 35 in less than a month, I've been a type 1 diabetic for...a very long while. Over 20 years, and i have a thyroid condition on top of it. My S.O, will be 35 in June (I'm a cougar!. I have a 15 year old son from my first marriage, but my SO and i would like to have children together....and we aren't getting any younger.
We actually got pg in January, but by the first appointment at the end of February, we had miscarried. That was the second mc for me, as i had the first 8 years ago, however that was with my ex. So my doc wanted to do a sonohysterogram just to be safe and see what was going on in my uterus. At the 2 week re-check she found a fibroid and had said depending on where it is, we may have to do surgery to remove it, even though it's very small. Thankfully, at the sonohysterogram, everything came out fine!! The fibroid is in the wall, and my uterus is, to quote my doc, "very pretty". Haha!! So we got the green light to start trying again...which we are in my window, and we're giving it a good solid try!
You could say I'm a bit paranoid about pregnancy. Well maybe a repeat of what we just endured, not the pregnancy itself. The diabetes is really the big cause of that! My docs all say I'm fine and I've been cleared to get pregnant. But i know the older i get, the harder it's going to be. Even if i didn't have diabetes, it'd still be harder than when i was in my 20's, but add that complication, and my odds are even less! Then add the thyroid to it and now you can see why I'm a little concerned. My doc however says i get to be neurotic with the added complications and 2 losses. She says I'm allowed. Lol! She did say that clearly I'm fertile, it's just that for whatever reason, that pregnancy wasn't meant to be. So i try to take some comfort in that.
Anyway...so all that to say, I'm trying EVERYTHING i can to get and STAY pg this time around!! I'm more fertile now, after the loss than i was, according to my doc (she's a specialist in high risk and infertility btw), and I've stayed off things like alcohol and caffeine. It's just easier. I've been trying to eat for pregnancy, and skip the processed as much as i can. I've been on a prenatal since November/December, and I've gotten the SO to adopt some of those healthier practices as well. Hopefully, we'll know for certain and can celebrate the new little life we're growing. Fingers crossed!!
I hope I'm doing this right! I don't want to offend anyone or get a message that I'm doing this all wrong.
A little about myself and S.O. I'll be 35 in less than a month, I've been a type 1 diabetic for...a very long while. Over 20 years, and i have a thyroid condition on top of it. My S.O, will be 35 in June (I'm a cougar!
. I have a 15 year old son from my first marriage, but my SO and i would like to have children together....and we aren't getting any younger. We actually got pg in January, but by the first appointment at the end of February, we had miscarried. That was the second mc for me, as i had the first 8 years ago, however that was with my ex. So my doc wanted to do a sonohysterogram just to be safe and see what was going on in my uterus. At the 2 week re-check she found a fibroid and had said depending on where it is, we may have to do surgery to remove it, even though it's very small. Thankfully, at the sonohysterogram, everything came out fine!! The fibroid is in the wall, and my uterus is, to quote my doc, "very pretty". Haha!! So we got the green light to start trying again...which we are in my window, and we're giving it a good solid try!
You could say I'm a bit paranoid about pregnancy. Well maybe a repeat of what we just endured, not the pregnancy itself. The diabetes is really the big cause of that! My docs all say I'm fine and I've been cleared to get pregnant. But i know the older i get, the harder it's going to be. Even if i didn't have diabetes, it'd still be harder than when i was in my 20's, but add that complication, and my odds are even less! Then add the thyroid to it and now you can see why I'm a little concerned. My doc however says i get to be neurotic with the added complications and 2 losses. She says I'm allowed. Lol! She did say that clearly I'm fertile, it's just that for whatever reason, that pregnancy wasn't meant to be. So i try to take some comfort in that.
Anyway...so all that to say, I'm trying EVERYTHING i can to get and STAY pg this time around!! I'm more fertile now, after the loss than i was, according to my doc (she's a specialist in high risk and infertility btw), and I've stayed off things like alcohol and caffeine. It's just easier. I've been trying to eat for pregnancy, and skip the processed as much as i can. I've been on a prenatal since November/December, and I've gotten the SO to adopt some of those healthier practices as well. Hopefully, we'll know for certain and can celebrate the new little life we're growing. Fingers crossed!!
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Re: Newbie after a loss
**** siggy warning - bfp & loss **** ---- All Welcome ---
Me: 44 - Hashimoto's (under control), DH: 38 - (minor issues)
IUIs: 2 in 2012 ... Both BFN
IVF #1: 10/16/13 ... BFP, however it was not viable and ended in an early loss at 7weeks.
IVF #2: Feb '14 ... Cancelled. Positive beta at baseline appt, became very early loss.
IVF #2: Apr '14 ... Retrieval Only. 2 embryos made it to day 3 freeze & will be batched with IVF #3 for PGD testing.
IVF #3: June '14 ... Retrieval Only. 4 embryos growing, all arrested before day 5. Two from April thawed, but also arrested.
Currently benched while determining how to proceed.
"Keep going until you can't fail"
Welcome to the board.
The ladies here are full of knowledge so don't hesitate to ask questions.
It seems like you are on the right track. So work with your doctor and I hope you are successful soon.
Me:39, DH:40
DD born 8/96, DS born 8/04
TTC#3
NTNP since 2006, active trying 1/13
Natural M/C 3/13 at 7 weeks
CP 2/14
All welcome
Me: 40 DH: 38
TTC since November 2012
Elias (Eli) born 9/2/17 at 7:07pm weight 8lbs 10oz and 20.5 inches long!!
Me 36 DH 39
BFP 11/28/14 ~ MMC 12/29/14
TTCAL Siggy Challenge
ME:46 MH:44 DE IVF 2014
Met with RE 4/11. 2 IUI's BFN. DE best option. Switched clinics to do "shared" program. Had to retake all tests and a mamm that put me behind and then on a DE waiting list for 12 months. Picked a donor!! (10/13/13) Got matched. Estimated transfer in December. After 2.5 years of patiently waiting I will finally cycle....can hardly believe it. DE cycle got cancelled. One of her tests came back positive. Waiting for another donor. Donor picked!! (1/18/14)
DE IVF #1 (4/26) BFN DE FET #1 (6/4) BFP! Beta 1=339 Beta 2=852 Beta 3=9957 EDD 2/22/15!!
Me: 41, DH: 45
DD, 6/15/2013
TTC #2 beginning January 2014
AMH 1.05; FSH range 7-11
July 2014: IUI #1. Follistim + Pregnyl. 2 follicles--BFN
September 2014: IUI #2. Follistim + Pregnyl + Ganirelix + Crinone. 4(?) follicles--BFN
October 2014: IUI #3. More Follistim + More Ganirelix + Pregnyl + Crinone. 4 follicles--BFP! Beta #1=10 Beta #2=33 Beta #3=97 Beta #4=158. M/C 11/1/14
December 2014: IVF #1. Microdose Lupron protocol. 9R, 9M, 9F. 3 5-day blasts transferred 12/15. BFFN.
August 2015: IVF #3. 14R, 13M, 11F. Froze 5 blasts for CCS testing. 3 normals. FET planned for 10/2015.
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