Anyone NOT out on Facebook

eortman

 If you are a Facebook user, have you all already posted a pregnancy announcement? I haven't put anything on there yet, because I am still job searching and don't want potential employees to know that I am pregnant before I even get an interview. But lately, I've been really itching to put it on there. Anyone else still in the Facebook closet?

ghostof5letters

Nope. Didn't do it with my last child either. Heck, I'm pretty sure half my family doesn't know still. If I haven't seen them in person, then I haven't told the

chevronseven

I'm way too impatient, I told people before I even had my first doctor appointment and put it on Facebook around 8 weeks. Next time I don't think we will tell anyone until 2nd Tri though. But Facebook is my primary form of staying in touch with a lot of people I moved far away from, so I post quite a lot on there.

EllaSmella

I haven't posted anything about it on FB. I am just not a heavy user of FB, so it seemed sort of AW-ish to make my only post in like 6 months be that I'm pregnant. I will probably post a birth announcement, however.

It's funny because so many of my friends "in real life" cannot believe that I haven't posted anything on FB about it...they are just shocked! Like what did people do before FB?!

cookieinva

I just finally did last week. I think if you keep the post low-key at this point and don't set it up as a huge reveal you are fine. I just posted DS in a Big brother shirt saying he is excited now but might change his mind when little brother is actually here this summer.

Sclarke2482

I'm the same as ghostof5letters, not put a thing on FB, and have only been telling people when I see them. For me it's too personal for the world of FB, and much more exciting to see people and tell them face to face.

ZeusLBA

Nope, haven't done it and won't. People who I want to know know so that's fine with me. However, they'll find out after the baby is born since people will post messages I'm sure.

marsalisails

i don't really feel the need to "announce", and most of my posts are about work (advertising the destinations i go) or just random stupid stuff.  i rarely put pictures anymore that aren't landscapes that i go to - the only place i've put a bump picture is on here, or my three besties will ask for texts of pictures so they can see privately. 

the people that are close to me know already, and the rest will find out after she's born...probably from someone else posting, as PPs have said!

Huahine

I'm not out either on FB. Last time we posted a picture around 38 weeks and enjoyed the responses. I had some miscarriage scares last time around and didn't want to have to untell a whole universe of people, so we waited until well past viability to announce.  This time things are going well and I may put something out there sooner.  

Shelleybell

i didnt post for this pregnancy or my last one.  Just none of anyone's business. First time people knew was when my daughter was born and someone posted a congratulations. 

dobbyisfree

I havent posted anything specific... some of my family has commented on a status or two with pregnancy things so I guess people could have found out that way, but I havent personally made a statement, and I like it that way.

SaraRL07

I haven't posted yet...I wanted to tell people in person...but now that everyone knows I'm thinking of doing something but don't know yet. But I don't like to post ton of personal stuff

eortman

Thanks! It's interesting to hear all of your perspectives on this. We didn't post at first, because we wanted to make sure everything was ok with baby. We didn't even announce to out of town family and friends until 20 weeks. But I do use Facebook to keep in touch with people that I live far away from now and think that once the job situation settles down a little I'll do a simple expecting baby #3 type of post.

 

Rachel2158

I respect people's decision to share however they are most comfortable. My hubby and I made sure that we personally told our close friends and family. I am not a big sharer on Facebook but I finally posted last week at 26 weeks that we are expecting our little boy July 14-ish. My hubby and I went on a baby moon so I just posted a picture of us on the beach. I knew with summer almost here pictures would leak eventually anyway from events. A few friends almost "slipped" and said something. I wanted to post in my terms than people having to ask or assume. :x

alyssa719

I didn't do a facebook announcement and am not planning on it.  I "vaguebooked" a couple doctors appointments, and DH outed me on his feed when he was drunk one night, but a majority of people who I'm not in touch with very much still don't know.

FWIW, I had a friend compliment me yesterday about the whole thing since she said she gets sick of seeing the weekly updates everyone posts on their feeds... and I have a friend who posts almost daily about "this pregnant momma" and it drives me batty even... they range from sickness in the house, to food, to cars, to whatever, but they always highlight how she's pregnant.

amwenz

I did not post on FB because it hurt so much when we were dealing with infertility issues. Seeing people's posts would ruin my day. I would never want to cause that pain in someone else's life. Plus, family and friends communicate enough in person and texts that I'm sharing the pregnancy enough:)

Rstar1

i havent announced on fb and im 24 weeks today. Its a cultural thing for me to avoid the 'evil eye' not that I'm superstitious, but its a respect for protecting the unborn child especially since you never know what stage of pregnancy can lead to uncertainty of medical attention. Once the baby is born, I will a pic or two. If someone wants to know about my pregancy our child, our us as a family, they can call me.

abchittam

I didn't take the time to read all of the pp, so sorry if this is repeat. Can't you just make the pregnancy post to where only your friends can see it? That would keep potential employers from seeing that you are pregnant.

hupp0013

I haven't posted an announcement on Facebook either. I guess I just wanted it to be our secret I guess. My MIL has commented on some of my pictures about DD being a good helper and that she is going to be good with helping me with the baby. But nothing official.

Pinksundrops

Sclarke2482 said:

I'm the same as ghostof5letters, not put a thing on FB, and have only been telling people when I see them. For me it's too personal for the world of FB, and much more exciting to see people and tell them face to face.

This, exactly. I love seeing people's reactions face to face even at 26 weeks along. DH did post my first maternity shoot that barely showed anything back in February on his photography Facebook but I don't think anyone saw it. He posted my last maternity shoot on his photographer Facebook as well and I think a few more people saw it, but since it's not his personal page I really don't think it was that many. Anybody who commented or liked the album we'd already told. He tagged me but I don't allow anything on my wall anymore - no wall posts, no tagging, nothing by others, so nobody on my Facebook saw the tags.

zellatrix

I am surprised how many people aren't announcing until after the baby is born. Several of my friends have done that recently. One posted a bump pic at 35 weeks, one posted maternity pics really late, and then another just got tagged in a post from a friend after she had her twins. Every time my reaction is, "YOU'RE PREGNANT???" 

I personally would rather tell people on Facebook than have the same conversation every time I see someone in person. 

Cristy1020

The day LO is born is when I'll post her picture saying "hello world". A lot of my friends do creative things like sibling t- shits, pics with their pets. I'm in between packing so I'm like" ain't nobody got time for dat"

AutumnBonfire

I haven't posted anything. I don't post anything on Facebook anymore and I think its strange to all of a sudden post this. I plan to put a few pics of DS from this weekend because my parents want to see them and I am in a few. So we'll see if people figure it out.

unaveragejane

My mom asked me not to post anything b/c of a sticky situation in the family. Now that part of the family knows anyway, it seems weird to post an official announcement this late in the game.

FWIW my parents didn't tell my dad's parents they were expecting. My grandmother traveled up to visit them after I was born, and she was quite surprised to walk in on my mom nursing what she thought was someone else's baby.

cookieinva

zarkarella said:

I am surprised how many people aren't announcing until after the baby is born. Several of my friends have done that recently. One posted a bump pic at 35 weeks, one posted maternity pics really late, and then another just got tagged in a post from a friend after she had her twins. Every time my reaction is, "YOU'RE PREGNANT???" 

I personally would rather tell people on Facebook than have the same conversation every time I see someone in person. 

I have had a few FB friends not post until baby was born or shortly before and every one of them came off seeming like a way, way bigger AW than someone who just shared the news more naturally. It almost seemed like they just really wanted that big, big reaction and that is why they waited. Just my opinion, and clearly influenced by the posts I have seen and how they were worded.

stellabella1122

I just posted about it on Facebook last week (we were going on our babymoon, and at 26/27 weeks it seemed like good timing - not too early, not too late).  I've tried as hard as possible to tell people in person (or by phone), but have a whole lot of friends in far-away places, so Facebook works well in our circles for spreading the word.

ghostof5letters

I won't have a birth announcement post either. I'll just add pictures to my standard 2014 album or, more than likely, be tagged in SILs photo of the new baby

marsalisails

cookieinva said:

zarkarella said:

I am surprised how many people aren't announcing until after the baby is born. Several of my friends have done that recently. One posted a bump pic at 35 weeks, one posted maternity pics really late, and then another just got tagged in a post from a friend after she had her twins. Every time my reaction is, "YOU'RE PREGNANT???" 

I personally would rather tell people on Facebook than have the same conversation every time I see someone in person. 

I have had a few FB friends not post until baby was born or shortly before and every one of them came off seeming like a way, way bigger AW than someone who just shared the news more naturally. It almost seemed like they just really wanted that big, big reaction and that is why they waited. Just my opinion, and clearly influenced by the posts I have seen and how they were worded.

i can see your point, and it will get a big reaction, but having had a loss late last year, i'm not about to post about being pregnant and then have to post again if something happens.  that's mainly why i post here to get it all out!

i'm facebook friends with a lot of acquaintences that i would NOT confide in if i had a loss.  Those that are actual friends that i talk to often IRL already know.  the "big reaction" will be from people who don't really care about my day-to-day anyway.  they will be happy for my family for sure, and want to share their well-wishes, but to have to share a loss with those people would be too heartbreaking for me. 

at only 24+ weeks, i am still too paranoid.  i count every kick and every movement, and i lived and breathed by my doppler until just about a month ago when i could feel her consistently.  believe me, for some, it has nothing to do with being an AW.

rheard3582

I didn't post anything on my Facebook the first time our this time. Although DH the 20 weeks ultrasound pic on his.

noragerman86

I announced after my 12 week appt