I'm bloated not pregnant

Sami14vb

On Friday I was in the copy room making copies after work.  A co-worker from a different department that I hardly ever see came in and we started making small talk.  In the middle of us talking she blurted out, "Are you pregnant?!"  I said no, to which she responded, "Oh, well you have a bump and youre so rail thin everywhere else, and it's about that time where you would be getting pregnant.  I said, "No, I'm just bloated."    She laughed but didn't apologize for anything! Ugh, I really really dislike Progesterone inserts and their side effects.  No, I'm not pregnant, but I look like I am, and I am hormonally off balance.  Let's just say I went shopping over the weekend for non-form fitting shirts!!

TTCBabyJ

Wow! How rude!

wishiwaspreggo

This is why, even if the woman is clearly 9 months pregnant while reading a baby book and pushing a shopping cart full of diapers, I never, EVER ask her if she's pregnant.  If someone wants to bring it up to me, great.  But I will not be the one to say "you look pregnant" to a woman who is NOT pregnant.

A friend of mine is like you.  She doesn't really gain weight anywhere except her lower abdomen so she looks like she has a 5 month baby bump but in reality she's just got a little chub right there.  People ask her if she's pregnant often and she hates it, understandably.

Sorry that happened to you People can be real jerks.

TTCBabyJ

@NariaDreaming‌ too funny. I have a chubby girl who gets asked is she pregnant a lot and now she just says "No, I'm just fat." The looks on people's faces are priceless.

megwill126

How rude! I always keep my mouth shit too just in case they aren't. I would be mortified if I said something and that woman wasn't pregnant!

Lindsey7348

This happened to me too. I had just gotten my BFN from my second IVF cycle and had developed severe OHSS. I am a teacher and was on the playground moving some equipment during recess and one of the much older teachers from a grade up (so didn't know me too well) said 'oh honey don't pick that up you're pregnant' i looked around and was like huh. Then realized she was talking to me. I wanted to hate her and hate life. I went home and cried. The next day I treated myself to a pedicure and the asian lady asked when I was due. I was ready to down the nearest bottle of acetone and or jump off a bridge right then and there. Ugh! So sorry

erollis

That is really rude. They really were clueless and should have apologized.

I'm built like I have a small baby bump. Can't even count how many times if been asked how far along I am by total strangers. Once I had a guy think I had a C section scar because I have a permanent crease naturally in that area. I've even had to convince a customer once I wasn't pg. They didn't believe me no matter what I said.

@NariaDreaming‌ I laughed so hard!

WillCMyInk

Wow! I can't believe she didn't even apologize. I'm honestly afraid I'm going to start getting similar comments at work this month. I'm super bloated and just hope they keep it to themselves.

.Mrs.Matt.

People are SO STUPID! Someone who points out a possible baby bump and doesn't apologize when you correct them -- deserves a punch in the face. Sorry you had to deal with that!

theholmanherd

WTF? I would be pissed if someone said that to me. And she didn't even apologize? For shame...*tisk tisk*

Twinkie0612

TTCBabyJ said:

@NariaDreaming‌ too funny. I have a chubby girl who gets asked is she pregnant a lot and now she just says "No, I'm just fat." The looks on people's faces are priceless.

I had someone ask me if I was pregnant (during IVF #3) and the "Nope just fat" comment didn't phase her.  I felt bad for the lady that overheard the conversation, she tried to "fix" what the other lady said and reassure me that I wasn't fat. 

I'm sure this lady wasn't the only one wondering since I had gained 40lbs in 6 months, but seriously who asks that?

Sorry OP people suck.

Hpearl

I am sorry!  I work at a daycare.....babies are everywhere...and I carry stress weight right around the middle.  

I think I get asked when I am due about once a week.   My favorite was when someone asked if I was sure when I told them I wasn't pregnant.

Awesome.

nswain85

Oh my god! I would have said something really not nice probably. What the hell is wrong with people?!

Sami14vb

@calndi-great response! 

CandaceC1020

@Calindi - Have you been able to find stretchy pants that aren't workout pants or grandma pants? 

I've had to resort to wearing my pants unbuttoned with a rubber band around the button, through the loop and back around the button. 

hope2bmom83

Ugh how freaking annoying!  That sucks, i'm so sorry.  It seems like most of us can relate.  Years ago I had a co-worker argue with me about whether I was pregnant.  She was like are you sure your not?  I said yep pretty sure.  She said well you look pregnant.... I said do you know how rude that is?  Even her friends were embarrassed.
One time I had a patient ask me when I was due.  I said i'm not pregnant, and his girl friend elbowed him and mumbled something.  His cover up was well your married right?  I said well i'm going through a long drug out divorce but thanks for asking.  Ugh people should just mind there own. 

CandaceC1020

@calindi - I've considered buying stock in leggings, but then I will want to buy cute flats to go with the leggings and I'll need longer shirts.  Ugh.  I'm honestly just considering going to the thrift store to see if I can find some decent pants where I can breathe.  I hate spending a ton of money on things I don't know if I'll need/use as much as I should.

Hpearl

calindi said:

Sometimes I seriously hate fertiles.  I mean, even they should get that it's inappropriate to ask if a woman is pregnant, but they're so damned clueless about the repercussions emotionally for those of us who are fat because we're trying SO DAMNED HARD to get pregnant.

I got asked by one of the wives if I was pregnant because I was wearing stretchy pants (I've given up pants that don't have an elastic waistband while in treatment - I like having no restrictions on bloodflow to the area).  I told her, "Nope, it's not a baby in there.  Just my ovaries, which are the size of grapefruits because I keep jamming a needle in my belly every night to try to grow more eggs in the hopes that one will finally become a baby.  I guess I'm just stretching everything out down there to make room, you know?"  She looked embarrassed and sort of babbled an apology awkwardly.

That said, I do LOVE my stretchy pants and long shirts.  When I started medicated cycles, I got a care package from my Mom (she lives 1000 miles away) with loose fitting and stretchy clothes.  She's the best :-)

sometimes I hate fertiles.......that made me laugh right out loud!    Thanks for the smile!

BunnyBerry

@candacec1020 about stretchy pants that don't like casual...I always loved the sweats-that-look-like-trousers at New York & Company. They come in work-appropriate patterns like tweed, plaid and herringbone. Now my waist measurement is too big for my height so I stopped getting them.

OP - There are at least 3 times as much clothes in boxes in the basement as I have hanging in my closet, and the only things left are loose. I wear A-line dresses to work about 80% of the time, and got rid of all slim fitting tops just as you did! Of course this is just due to Crohn's bloating and steroids belly expansion...so who knows how bad it will get after starting IF meds.

CandaceC1020

@BunnyBerry - Thanks for the info!  I'll have to swing by this weekend and check out what they have. 

Definitely sporting a tshirt, hoodie sweatshirt and workout pants to work today.