How did you know?!

smurphy4

My son is 6 months old now. My husband said to me the other day that he is ready for #2 whenever I am. I would like my kids to be close, but I'm a little scared because that's a big decision. I'm also a sahm, so i have time for babies. How did you know it was time for baby #2?

annibes

We started trying when DS was about a year old.

aglenn

We just had 2-3 years in mind as the spacing we wanted, and they ended up being right at 2.5 years apart (@Kimbus22, I feel your pain). 

Dreamingmommy4

I was mentally and emotionally ready when DD was 2 months old (don't ask me why because it doesn't make sense to me either), but we waited to give my body a little while longer to heal. I just went off my BCP on Saturday and we are going to NTNP and see what happens. I want kids to be close together, 1.5-2 years or so, so I'm hoping to be pregnant by the end of the year.

ashiscute

When DD was about 10 mos old I remember feeling ready to think about another and DH and I decided we wanted to start trying when she was about 15 or 16 mos old.  Then I found out I was pregnant a week before DDs 1st birthday so mine are 19.5 mos apart.  I was sort of scared about the pregnancies being that close together but my dr wasn't concerned at all.  Unless your first pregnancy had complications or another issue I don't think it's a big deal. 

loisloan1118

DD will be 3 in August and I think I'm getting ready for #2. 

DH and I have always wanted 2 kids, the plan we'd discussed was to start trying after DD's 2nd birthday.  But when that came and went, DH asked for another year.  I was happy to oblige!  Since then we've taken a vacation just the two of us and a family vacation.  I'm glad we chose to spend more time as a family of 3. 

So, we'll start trying at the end of the summer.  But really, I don't *know* I'm ready.  There are challenging moments with DD where I think, how can a devote my time and attention to two children???  I feel bad just thinking about what DD would lose going from an only child to a big sister.  I then remind myself of everything she, and our family, will gain from another person to love  

Good luck!  You'll find the right time for you and your family. 

Pepper6

I'm pregnant with #1, but the plan is to wait to TTC #2 until DD is mostly potty trained so we won't have 2 in diapers.

jnnfrrose6

I had an unplanned c-section with DS, so we waited until I was far enough past it to be able to attempt a vbac for #2 based on my MWs recommendations. Now DH is already talking about #3 and we haven't even popped #2 out yet.

marathonmommy82

When I could forget the newborn stage

Dreamingmommy4

Kimbus22 said:

Dreamingmommy4 said:

I was mentally and emotionally ready when DD was 2 months old (don't ask me why because it doesn't make sense to me either), but we waited to give my body a little while longer to heal. I just went off my BCP on Saturday and we are going to NTNP and see what happens. I want kids to be close together, 1.5-2 years or so, so I'm hoping to be pregnant by the end of the year.

You checked with your OB about going off the pill, right? I know two OBs have told me that you absolutely need to give yourself 6 months at a minimum to heal and that 12-18 months between pregnancies if far preferable.

Yes I did. She said that so long as I was feeling up to it physically that was fine. She does recommend waiting 9 months to a year, but when she did my last checkup she said that with how well I healed and handled everything I could start sooner if I wanted. Now might be a little sooner than she was thinking, but I haven't had AF yet (I know I could get KU without having one) and we are NTNP. If I get KU right away, fine, if not that's fine too. I'm not worried about it.

northernkhaleesi

DS was just over two when I was ready, and DD was born just 7 weeks shy of his 3rd birthday. It was perfect timing, because he was still too young to remember being an only child, but old enough to be through the most needy phases. He was potty trained, sleeping in a bed and liked to 'help' by passing me diapers and giving baths etc. He didn't have any jealousy or regression issues either, so it was a pretty smooth transition.

Now they're 14 and 11, and I'm game to start over...

abb08

We had hoped to space ours three years apart. My first pregnancy was uneventful, but we had three miscarriages when trying for number 2, putting a bit of a wrinkle in our plans. The one thing I have learned is that I am not in control! DS will be almost 4.5 when our daughter is born.

alysonmh

My daughter is 10 and I finally decided I'm ready for another. I loved being able to dedicate myself to her and if I had another child they both would have been getting half the attention they deserved if I had them close together.

brownmouse

My DD just turned 6 and we are just now looking to start trying again. DH was ready almost immediately and I honestly wanted to give DD a sibling closer in age but we couldn't swing it financially. Now that DD is in school and our daycare costs have declined we can finally give it some serious consideration. Which is good, because I've been hit with all-consuming baby fever and really, really want another one! 

This is almost us too. We originally wanted three, but then for years thought we were going to be one and done because we just couldn't afford another one and were never ready at the same time. Dd will be five and a half when the baby comes in December. Which i think is a good age that she'll be old enough to understand what's going on and help a little bit. She's been asking for a sibling for years and we always told her she probably wasn't getting one so She will be pleasantly surprised when she finds out.