XP: RE beat me to it... I wanted to give him a piece of my mind

jaztastic

So I knew I would be having my WTF convo soon, but was expecting it on Monday. Well I just got off the phone with RE who seemed to be more upset about the fail than me. 

In 3 yrs and 4 transfers I dont think Ive ever heard him sound so aggressive in tone. He was very sympathetic and apologetic for the first half of the conversation. And I think he was disappointed with himself, since for the first time HE actually preformed my transfer this past time. (as if he may have thought the other doctors where doing it wrong before, lol) 

After all the apologies and I really thought this would work this time part... he starts with the list. 

1) Recurrent Loss Panel

2) A second HSG (I had my tubes removed, but he thinks maybe there could be something residual thats causing problems)

3) Put me in a Endometrial study, where part of my endometrium will be biopsied and tested?? (I really dont know all the details of what this is or why), but based on the results apparently their could be additional things to improve the process.

4) A repeat saline sono

5) A special diet, which we will discuss in detail later. Nothing too drastic but he wants to make sure Im at least eating "these" certain things, and staying away from "these" things

6) Proceed with another 2 embryo transfer, that HE wants to perform himself.

I really feel good about this. My doctor for what its worth is a lot like Ben Stein... very nice, mild mannered, very detailed, but a little dry and monotone. And to hear expression in his voice over the phone was like "who the hell is this and where is my doctor"

He did say that we should be able to have a transfer in a couple months, which was a little disappointing, since I was just getting excited about doing a transfer next month. But hey, this sounds good to me overall. I had myself all prepared to go all "boss chick" on him during our talk, but he beat me to it. The only things I was going to ask about was the RLP and a endometrial scrape... 

 

StacyLH24

I'm sorry that you even had to have this conversation. It sounds like he has a detailed plan. I don't know anything about what he is suggesting, so I can't offer anything there. I hope that his new plan is ultimately successful for you. I'm sorry that it means more waiting though. It is great that he seems invested in your success. Hopefully that will make all the difference.

wishiwaspreggo

Glad your doctor is taking an aggressive approach - it helps you feel a lot more in control when you have a plan and take steps towards achieving your goals.  Good luck to you!!  Sorry you're going to go through all that testing but it's better to find out now, huh?

jaztastic

@StacyLH24 all I know is I couldnt write fast enough to keep up with him. and while I dont know what all this means, the fact that he just doesnt want to "try again" is very encouraging. It really makes me hopeful. 

TTCBabyJ

Well it's great that he at least has a plan of action...that is the good part. Sorry about all the failed transfers...I do have a question @jaztaz1‌ so when they transfer with IVF they don't implant the embryo right? So there is still a chance of failure....I apologize in advance for my ignorance. DH and I were just discussing IUI vs IVF. Good luck! I remember your the one with insurance that I would sell one of my nieces or nephews for...;)

erollis

Go doctor, go! If you had any doubts before about how he felt they should be gone now. He sounds like a man on a mission. A great mission to get you pregnant.

jaztastic

@TTCBabyJ‌ lol, yea I'm eternally grateful for our coverage. But yes, even with IVF it could still fail. But I usually don't have an issue with initial implantation. It's what my body is doing or reacting after that point that seems to be the problem. I heard endo scrapes can help with that.

BunnyBerry

It's great that your RE cares and is so personally invested in your success! Good luck with your testing and new diet, whatever it is.

Pintobean39

Sounds like you have an awesome Dr. I hate that you are in this situation but at least he sounds like he's got a plan. Good luck!

lebradford

It seems great that he called you personally and kind of made it his personal mission to get and keep you pregnant. I'm sorry you have to do all of those things though! I hope they pay off for you. Best wishes.

athlete010688

I'm sorry you have to go through all that. However, it is great you have a detailed plan and a doctor that cares! Good luck!!