Daycare costs more than college?!

PC0909

The average around me for a home daycare is about 800-900 a month.  Centers are closer to 1200.  We both work full time and our parents watch LO, but the COL is higher here so it's not too ridiculous compared to the average salary.

JessAnnJ

kindacrunchy said:

JessAnnJ said:

@kindacrunchy‌ you said "no amount of money is equivalent to this time I'm spending with my children." Making statements along the lines of I SAH with my kids because they are more important to me than money is going to irritate some people. It's not as bad as saying "I would never put my kids in daycare", but it's a close second. I actually thought I pointed it out in a nice way originally.

I'm glad you are happy and grateful for opportunity. I really am. I also get what you were trying to say. I just find it incredibly irritating when people make comments like that.

Andplusalso accusing me of judging others for "choosing money over thier children" when I never said that, you did, and taking a comment out of context and twisting it to your inaccurate interpretation is in no way "nice".

I omitted a lot of things that I could have said. We have all lost people. We all appreciate time with our kids. I don't disagree with that. I quoted exactly what you said. Maybe you meant to say something else, but that is simply not what you said. Then instead of acknowledging what you did say you indicated that you can't even comprehend that interpretation. If you can't comprehend that then I suppose there is no point in arguing with you.

Oh and don't be confused and think that what you said makes me feel insecure. It irritates me.

kindacrunchy

JessAnnJ said:

kindacrunchy said:

JessAnnJ said:

@kindacrunchy‌ you said "no amount of money is equivalent to this time I'm spending with my children." Making statements along the lines of I SAH with my kids because they are more important to me than money is going to irritate some people. It's not as bad as saying "I would never put my kids in daycare", but it's a close second. I actually thought I pointed it out in a nice way originally.

I'm glad you are happy and grateful for opportunity. I really am. I also get what you were trying to say. I just find it incredibly irritating when people make comments like that.

Andplusalso accusing me of judging others for "choosing money over thier children" when I never said that, you did, and taking a comment out of context and twisting it to your inaccurate interpretation is in no way "nice".

I omitted a lot of things that I could have said. We have all lost people. We all appreciate time with our kids. I don't disagree with that. I quoted exactly what you said. Maybe you meant to say something else, but that is simply not what you said. Then instead of acknowledging what you did say you indicated that you can't even comprehend that interpretation. If you can't comprehend that then I suppose there is no point in arguing with you.

Oh and don't be confused and think that what you said makes me feel insecure. It irritates me.

Actually you did NOT quote exactly what I said when you originally addressed me. You took part of what I said, paraphrased it, and then added your own interpretation. That mothers who work don't choose money over their children. I would never purposely indicate that a working mother is choosing money over her child. I was simply indicating that no amount of money that I might be losing out on staying at home these years are worth it TO ME. And again I stand behind that comment. I was a working mom until my first daughter was nine yrs old. I will be one again when all my children are in school. I judge no one for choosing to work (whether it's an actual choice or a necessity) you do what is right for your family and only you can determine that.

Dubsgirlie

kindacrunchy said:

Dubsgirlie said:

JessAnnJ said:

@kindacrunchy‌ you said "no amount of money is equivalent to this time I'm spending with my children." Making statements along the lines of I SAH with my kids because they are more important to me than money is going to irritate some people. It's not as bad as saying "I would never put my kids in daycare", but it's a close second. I actually thought I pointed it out in a nice way originally.

I'm glad you are happy and grateful for opportunity. I really am. I also get what you were trying to say. I just find it incredibly irritating when people make comments like that.

She said much nicer than I would have. I LOVE time wth my children. I also like working. So shoot me.

And I never said there was anything wrong with that so quit twisting sh*t! I know you don't like me @Dubsgirlie‌ and that is fine by me. I don't care for you too much either.

Someone took things a little too personal. "I know you don't like me..." Lol. Sounds so 4th grade. Chill out, dude.

BeckyH05

I guess I am lucky. My husband and I work at the same place and we have a wonderful daycare program on site. I just met with the director yesterday to put my name on the list and she said that for an infant it will be $155 a week. I priced an in home daycare and it was about the same. I do know that the cost of what we will be paying for a center based daycare is discounted because we are employees. I like what i do, but I would love to be a SAHM... it is just not in the cards for me right now.

KMMartir

Wow...this sickens me. I HAVE an in-home daycare. I have a six month old, 2 yr old and 3 yr old. For the toddlers, I teach, do crafts, go on mini field trips. And when you break down my pay for them it's $3.3333/ hour. The six month old is the same! Now that I'm pregnant, have my own two sons in three after school activities, etc., it's almost not worth the stress for the pay I earn. And the parents take advantage....which makes it 10. X's harder not to say FORGET IT!! And now, reading what others collect for in-home daycares....I feel REALLY defeated!!

sheluvs2travel

Infant daycare is between $1,200 - $1,400 a month by us.