DH vent

morrkim

This morning at work h calls me to yell at me because the house is a mess and I never do anything. Also Alexis has gotten up early everyday this week. I know I haven't done much lately because I am working, working on my masters, chasing a toddler, and exhausted from being in my first trimester. He has also been working 6 days a week and Alexis hasn't been sleeping well so he has not been getting enough sleep, but that doesn't give him the right to call me at work when I can't defend myself and I actually did some work around the house last night. He claims it looks worse then when he left yesterday. Maybe it does, but it was even worse earlier. 

 We are just both under so much stress. We want to buy a home, but we can't buy a home unless h finds a job in the area, but we don't want him to have to move before we have a place to live. My classroom has been a very stressful classroom this year. I actually almost hate teaching this year because It has been such a hard year. We were also caught off guard by the pregnancy and twins.

StefanieM522

I'm sorry that your Husband is being a royal pain in the ass right now! You already have a lot on your plate and he doesn't need to add to your stress! Being pregnant is already hard enough, I can't imagine how hard it is being pregnant with twins and chasing a toddler around and finishing a masters and working full-time! You are wonder woman! As long as everyone is being feed and you have clean clothes then I say you are doing alright.  The house work will get done at some point and if he feels so strongly about it getting done, maybe he needs to do it.  I finally told my H that as well and now he is helping me more with the house work and it is becoming managable. Good Luck!

morrkim

H does help around the house. He just feels like I haven't done anything lately. Lately I really haven't done much, but to get yelled at when I actually did do something really irritated me. It didn't help that as I was picking things up Alexis kept going around dumping what I had just done.

BabyCarryingVessel

I second what B said! Men have absolutely no clue how wearing pregnancy can be, especially in the first trimester!

navyandviolet

@BandEddie wow girl I need you when I am in a tiff with dh.

morrkim

When I got him he said he was sorry. Part of it was he had only gotten a couple hours of sleep when he had to get up because Alexis had woken up and she was a grouch.