~~~Preggie Pact~~~

stoneycakes

Sorry I've been a slacker with this thread.  I blame it on my sketchy laptop.  It's hard to post on my Kindle!  Where's everyone at in their TTCing?  DH and I are being procrastinators and waiting a few more months to start again.  We were planning to start TTC this month, but now that summer is coming up, we decided to wait until fall.  I love summer and I just want to be able to enjoy this summer since it's the first one since DS started STTN.  I felt pretty lousy during my whole pregnancy last time so I'm totally putting it off, lol.

Dreamingmommy4

I am actually finishing off my BCP pack this month and then I'm done with BC. Then we will be NTNP. I don't expect to get pregnant right away, I haven't seen AF yet (I know I could get pregnant without having one) and it took us quite some time to have L, so we will see. I am hoping to be pregnant by L's first birthday. Oh and we will be saving $20 a month by me stopping BC, bonus!

CLLDLL

@stoneycakes I totally understand wanting to enjoy the summer.  Plus this way you'd have an early summer baby so you could get out of the house a bit rather than being cooped up with a winter/early spring NB.

We are on our last cycle NTNP before we get all serious about TTC.  I'm excited to be this close, but also getting a little nervous about how I would handle being a working mom of three.

The good news is my LP seems to be getting longer and my O date is moving up in the cycle compared to my first couple PP cycles. Hopefully things stay this way & don't get all wonky again.

YellowLily2013

Chickypoo2468 said:

Apparently I'm too old to have a pleasant TTC journey. I have nothing but pain and frustration in my future. Or so I've heard.

:P
That's not what I meant!!

YellowLily2013

Chickypoo2468 said:

But when you restated it to clarify it sounded even worse.

Sorry....

What I've learned is ttc is a journey at any age. And it's not as easy as have sex = get pregnant. That is all I've been trying to say.

YellowLily2013

Right I agree with that. But it also doesn't = getting pregnant first try.

And months of healthy trying still weighs on women.

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TJ1979

Hugs MK.

candlequeen

Wth happened? :-S

YellowLily2013

My point and worry wasn't for her age. It's for her!

I know women struggle at all ages and I know many people are "lucky" but many others are not. I'm just hope she doesn't get upset if she doesn't get pregnant first try!! That's seriously what she's thinking right now and trying to plan everything based on getting pregnant at a specific time.

It was a specific comment about a specific person. I wasn't trying to make wide generalization about all women and ttc.

I really hope the best for her. (And anyone ttc).

YellowLily2013

MK even your article pointed out a higher risk for fertility issues with prolonged birth control usage.

There's lots of issues that aging brings along for potential fertility issues. Not that worry about any of this good for anyone.

I'm keeping my mouth shut to her, but think I'll get her a copy of taking charge of your fertility. Since she's not into the research that you and I seem to be into.

YellowLily2013

Chickypoo2468 said:

I don't think she wants your concern. Let her have her fun. If she comes to you freaking out in a month you can gently remind her that it can take a healthy couple a year to get KU.

And FYI, starting with "but you're 31" is not the way to go.

1. Just because you wouldn't want my concern, doesn't mean she doesn't. You know our relationship.

2. I haven't taken any fun away from her!

3. I will remind them that it takes a healthy couple a year.


Sorry the age thing is bothering you. They want "many" kids so they will likely be having kids past 35, have a read wrong that having kids past then is consider "high risk". Even though many women are able to have healthy uncomplicated pregnancies. They are monitored closer than younger mothers? No?

If 35 is a Fallacy, than I can really see why the age thing has really struck a cord. But if there is truth in it, than it is good to be cautious.

YellowLily2013

Good to know. I like knowing facts like that to share.

Mandmeesh

Chickypoo2468 said:

And check this out-- I'm not charting. I don't want to chart. I hate charting. I want to just have sex when I feel like it and one day wake up pregnant.

I don't even know what charting is...or any stages of ovulation. I'm with you MK, sex = pregnancy. My health class in high schol was awesome

Edit stupid spelling error

YellowLily2013

I didn't know about it prior to the bump. I thought it was pretty popular on here...

It's knowledge and a great tool IMO, especially if you haven't gotten pregnant right away.

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Mandmeesh

SecretAgentKate said:

i charted for years while we dealt with unexplained IF.  it was not a good tool for us.  it was useless.  i was also 23-25 years old at the time.  

this is all anecdotal, i know.  

Maybe you were doing it wrong. Duh

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Mandmeesh

Mh puts together lots of videos of M and our family...some of the newborn videos were making me really miss NB M. I'm not ready for this TTC pact, but definitely miss the newborn days

N_Koz

The over 35 thing is about your chance of chromosomal abnormalities going up. Older eggs tend to not age very gracefully. That said you can have those issues at a younger age too. I had little man when I turned 31 and I got ku the month I stopped charting and we just did it more 6 months in. I plan on having at least one more and when people start talking about my age (it has happened) my blood starts boiling. If you know the risks you know the risks. Yes physically the average woman is best off having kids at 16, mentally, emotionally, financially that is not usually the best course. Getting involved in other people's reproduction is not a good course of action and is rarely appreciated. Btw can I join the pact if we are TTC after little man turns one in August?  

flummadiddle85

SecretAgentKate said:

i charted for years while we dealt with unexplained IF.  it was not a good tool for us.  it was useless.  i was also 23-25 years old at the time.  

this is all anecdotal, i know.  

It may not be a good tool for everyone. It can help identify when O occurs, so when a doc tells you to time sex around day 14 ( like my doc did), but you're O'ing on day 21, it can help. If you have a regular length cycle, but you find that you O late, and actually have a luteal phase defect, it can help. If you're having enough high temps to confirm a pregnancy before a HPT, but keep miscarrying, it can help identify another issue with sustaining a pregnancy. 

These are things that may not have been identified without charting, or could have taken longer to identify. Does it solve every infertility issue? No. 

And wth happened? Was this on TB somewhere else?

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flummadiddle85

Chickypoo2468 said:

A dr that tells you to time sex around day 14 has no idea how a cycle works. Day 14 is textbook. It's not real life.

Yes, I know. But that's what the doc told me. I don't go to her anymore.

TJ1979

Mapleme said:

I really don't know what happened here, but I'm 33 and got pregnant the 4th cycle of NTNP. I think the only reason to "intervene" with someone's fertility life would be if you had a close friend who either asked for advice on getting KU ASAP or who wants to have a bunch of kids, but is contemplating starting really late and you advise them to start sooner. But either way, I'm sorry that YL and MK are having a fight. *awkward pregnant lady hugs* to both of you.

More awkward pregnant lady side hugs over here too.  We aren't supposed to fight amongst ourselves (unless it involves @theultimatestoneycakes) We are supposed to gang up on newbies, duh!

TJ1979

Similar to the real @stoneycakes, she's one I love to hate. 

YellowLily2013

Thanks @TJ1979‌ and @Mapleme‌ I definitely didn't mean to cause anything.

I'm sorry to those who I've offended.

stoneycakes

Mapleme said:

Mapleme said:

I really don't know what happened here, but I'm 33 and got pregnant the 4th cycle of NTNP. I think the only reason to "intervene" with someone's fertility life would be if you had a close friend who either asked for advice on getting KU ASAP or who wants to have a bunch of kids, but is contemplating starting really late and you advise them to start sooner. But either way, I'm sorry that YL and MK are having a fight. *awkward pregnant lady hugs* to both of you.

More awkward pregnant lady side hugs over here too.  We aren't supposed to fight amongst ourselves (unless it involves @theultimatestoneycakes) We are supposed to gang up on newbies, duh!

Wait. Are you saying that you DON'T like @TheUltimateStoneycakes‌??? She's my hero. She's the whole reason that I decided to CD in the first place. I might have to cut you.

You shut your mouth.

TheUltimateStoneycakes

TJ1979 said:

Similar to the real @stoneycakes, she's one I love to hate. 

you guys sure do know how to make a man blush