I'm being judgy. I know it.

MommyAtty

I have a semi-new employee, a guy, whose life it seems is always in upheaval. He's been with me 8 months. In that time, his wife got pregnant, which he has volunteered a dozen times was NOT planned (why would you tell your new boss that??? Or that you married your wife bc you'd knocked her up then too??), he has built a new house, had trouble selling his old house, and has had an issue with a new neighbor that ended up with his having to go to court to testify about said neighbor's barking dog. He has a 3yo who apparently has still never slept through the night. Like, she's up multiple times every single night. His wife stays at home. So I have to ask, has anyone else ever heard of a 3yo who STILL wakes up multiple times every night and requires her parents to come comfort her (and she chooses which parent she will accept comfort from)? I think this is hitting me so hard bc No 2 will be here in about a month and I am suddenly terrified this could happen to us. DD is a world-champion sleeper. Please tell me this is an aberration.

Meery82

He sounds like a major drama queen.

MommyAtty

Oh yeah, definite over-sharer. We are going to discuss that soon bc I'm not the only one he over-shares with. It makes his judgment look incredibly off. I actually have 2 over-sharers in my group, and since I'm phenomenally private at work, I so do not get them!! (And btw, I recommended a sleep coach and he asked if there was such a thing. Seriously.)

mittensonkittens

My 3 year old has gotten up 1-5 times every night for the past 6 months or so. Sometimes he has to go potty, or he's cold (he doesn't stay under the covers), or he bumped his head, or DS1 kicked him (because he was in DS1's bed while DS1 was trying to sleep), or he had a bad dream, or something hurts, etc. He screams, cries, or will come to our bedroom to tell us about his problem or ask for help going potty. He STTN before (although he wan't as good of a sleeper as my other kids). My 5 year old and 8 month old are amazing sleepers, so I don't think DH and I are the problem. So it is possible that this guy really just has a kid who is a bad sleeper, but he shouldn't be bringing his personal problems to work.

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shannm

Yes, I have a coworker whose 3-4 yo daughter has her trained to wake with her multiple times a night. She is also the mom who takes her toddler downstairs to play when he asks at 2am.
No. Friggin. Way.

emberlee3

DS is not a good sleeper. He is 4.5 yo. DD is 22 months and has slept through the night WAY more times than DS ever has.

MommaP12

I can't even imagine sharing this much info with my boss ever, let alone after less than a year of working for him/her!  Good luck talking to him about it.  He sounds very dramatic and like it may not go over well.  It would be exhausting to have an employee like this - and you have 2?  You poor thing! You're a boss AND therapist!

thedash

My 3 year old is a terrible sleeper. He's up one time about 3-4 nights a week. He will sometimes have a 3-6 month stretch of STTN but then goes back to this. My 7 month old almost always sleeps a straight 10-11 hours though.

That being said, I don't go to work and talk about it and I'm sure DH doesn't either. Most adults can handle waking up once per night for 10-20 minutes without it significantly affecting their ability to function the next day. This is all weird.

Reilly626

My 3 yr old niece doesn't sleep the night, she has fears, which is age appropriate. At least the guy keeps things interesting right?

MommyAtty

Thanks, guys. I think I'm calming down a little. It would be one thing if this child were going through a phase. But she apparently has always been this way. I'm a terrible insomniac, too, but seriously, I knew better than to wake my parents up and have a screaming fit if Mommy came in when I wanted Daddy. I'm thinking she's kind of a spoiled child whose mom has a vested interest in keeping her kid super-dependent on her. (Mom strikes me as an utter bimbo. Very pretty, but so vapid. I cannot imagine what kind of job she has ever held.)

KayteeGee

Never mind... I totally misread that. I missed the past tense.  my bad.
Yes, screaming fit over who comes in is nutty.

KayteeGee

I mean, I agree that they should work on it...
But my great sleeper at 2 turned into a 1x/night waker at least 3 times a week at about three.
It crazy sucks.
And, your employee TOTALLY sounds like a drama queen.

nosoup4u

My 3 y.o. used to STTN but he has been waking about once a night the past month or so. No idea why, usually he gets put in our bed and sleeps til morning w no problems. The screaming for a certain parent would drive me batty.