I have a friend who I see about once/year. She has been distancing herself from our group of friends over the past 5 years, but we still include her in things--she very rarely comes. She goes to Aruba with her family every May and since DH and I are going to be there next month I reached out 2 weeks ago to check which dates she'd be there. She responded back with the dates, said she was thinking of DH and I and then let me know she was 10 weeks pregnant. She then included her u/s picture and a picture of a wine glass that said she'd be abstaining until October 2014 or something like that. (It was really awful/cheesy and she's not--so that was weird.) I was confused as to what made her think I would be a great person to send those pics to--particularly the u/s--but I just sent her back a congratulations email saying that I was very happy for her and her DH and let it go.
Today--2 weeks later she's 12w--she sends me an email saying pretty much everything her last email said, PLUS a 3rd announcement! Before the text of her email she wrote, "First though, attached is another little announcement that I thought would make you smile. :-))" It was her announcement that she's having a boy. Her announcement didn't make me smile, it made me say: "What the F*ck is wrong with you?!" and then I cried on my drive home from work. DH is in flight, so you get stuck reading my long story!
Would sending a picture of a cheesecake to a diabetic make them smile? How about a picture of a bottle of vodka to an alcoholic? Maybe a person who just lost their sister would like to see a picture of me and my sister? None of these things are appropriate and would not elicit a smile, so why would sending 3 baby announcements to a grieving mom make them smile?!?!!? I'm not very confrontational when it comes to things like this, but if anyone has any BTDT advice I'm all ears. I'd call up one of our mutual friends to bitch about her, but she hasn't announced on FB and I don't know who knows what! Ack!
TTC since 10/2010 IUIs # 1-5 = BFFN IVF # 1(July 2012) = BFN IVF # 2 (November 2012) = BFP (MIssed MC D&C @ 8w3d on 1/10/13)
IVF # 3 (June 2013) = BFN
IVF # 4 (September 2013) = BFP Fraternal twin boys! (Loss at 21w6d due to IC on 1/26/14...devastated.)
3/21/14--TAC (transabdominal cerclage) w/Dr. Davis in NJ