Does your toddler go down for naps/bedtime without crying?

soveryexcited

For her naps, I read DD a book, cuddle her for a couple of minutes, put her in her crib, tell her night night and leave the room. She cries on average 10-20 minutes.

I was just curious if your toddlers go to sleep without any fuss, or if some amount of crying is normal?

moroccojade

No crying here.  We're a 'no cry' family, though.

DarceyLivesinFL

The only time Sammy ever fusses going down is when he's very over-tired.  We never leave him to "cry it out" either.

britelights

We are not into crying it out, but Nick usually goes down w/o a fuss anyway.

g/l!

Mary

elle6

He goes in phases where he will go down w/o a fuss, and then out of nowhere he doesn't want to go down and will cry. He has been in a crying phase for a while, which we dealt with by rocking him to sleep. However, with a new baby due any day now, we must get out of that habit, so I've been putting him down and letting him cry. It's gotten better very quickly, where he won't cry at all at night, and today he only cried about 30 seconds before his nap.?

howleyshell

Dylan - never really did after we did modified CIO.

Jace - if he's not super tired when he goes in the crib he'll cry for about 2-3 minutes.  Then he settles down and plays for a while before finally falling asleep.

HawaiiBrideGrm

howleyshell:

Dylan - never really did after we did modified CIO.

Ditto. DD never cries either, but we did a modified CIO method very early on (like 8-12 weeks and it worked awesome).

babydubs5

Nope, no crying.  I don't even have a "routine" for naps.  We walk upstairs (he climbs to practice adn to wear him out a little more) and then I put him in his crib, kiss him and walk out.  He doesn't make a peep.

 For bedtime, we do a small routine downstairs (playing, diaper, jammies, snuggles and watching a little bit of wheel of fortune) and then same as naps. No crying at all.

 

melsie

we used to have no crying for naps or bed time... now she'll cry for about 30 seconds to a minute and a half (max) then settle down... but she's having serious separation anxiety lately and the only solution for us is to let her cry a bit. we never let her cry for more than a minute or two and never let it get above a fussy cry (if she starts whaling or throwing things we go back in and try again)

Sassystace

Wow! I thought DD was normal but after all the pps, I see I in the minority here.  DD will go to bed at night w/out crying most nights and if she cries it is for 5 minutes or so.  Naptime is always a good 10 minute or so cry before she will fall asleep. So I know what you are talking about it. She takes one nap a day in the afternoon and is 18 months (and she is tired and needs a nap).  If we didn't let her cry she would never take a nap and just be cranky/whiney all day.

katy75

It depends upon the day.  Sometimes she reaches for the crib and goes in immediately and wants to go take a nap/go to bed.  Other days, she fusses and cries and holds onto me for dear life.  So, I cuddle her for 2 or 3 minutes and then she will go happily into her crib.

mbtortor

Sassystace:

Wow! I thought DD was normal but after all the pps, I see I in the minority here. 

I also thought lost of kids cried for naps.  guess not...

even though DD is younger, she's been crying for naps for months now.  5-15 mins.  she rarely cries for nighttime though.

roseroseroseroserose

We go thru phases.  It's usually for naps and not bedtime. 

She's had a cold and now she's teething so we've been rocking/nursing too long (til she's out) so we'll have crying when we stop that habit!

JulieandBen

Jack doesn't cry when I put him down for naps or bedtime. He never really has.

JulieandBen

He does jabber and sing songs for up to 30mins though. Just as he is doing right now.

soveryexcited

Holy cow, I can't believe the majority of you whose babies don't cry anytime during bedtime! How did you get them to do that? Did you do any sort of CIO? At bedtime, I don't let DD cry it out- I sit next to her crib and stroke her hand or rub her back, but it takes TWENTY MINUTES! And I know she's tired because she's just lying there, but she starts crying the minute I stand up. I just don't get it! Nap times are getting consistently better, today she cried for about 6 minutes, and it was more of a whining tired noise, but I haven't even begun to broach bedtime yet. Seriously- what in the world is your secret to your kids just lying down like that??

JARbaby

No crying but I did Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child.

MrsDR1015

When I put DD down, I nurse her, give her a paci, cuddle her for a few minutes, and then put her down. Sometimes she goes down without a fuss, others not so much.

It all depends on her mood at that particular moment in time...

ridesbuttons

90% of the time my DS goes down without a sound.  Occasionally he will cry for a couple of minutes.  Once every two months or so he will really protest - usually if we are in a strange place.

 

My kid really looks forward to his sleep time, what can I say.

jodynjames2005

Nope, no crying. I never did CIO or anything like that, really, they just got the idea of bedtime.

Oohlalalala

We did CIO kinda sorta... like never let her cry more than 3-5 minutes. ?That worked quite well, and quite fast, so now it is all consistency. ?Before naps we read a book or 2, then lay her down and leave IMMEDIATELY. ?Bed we have bath, teeth brushing, both of us for 2-3 books, lights out, lay down and IMMEDIATELY walk out. ?She rarely cries. ?Mainly only when she's overtired, or we didn't get enough food in her or she's sick. ?

?Soveryexcited, that would be my advice to you-give your comfort and soothing before you put her to bed. ?Spend your 20 minutes with the lights on, talking, reading, singing, snuggling, but when she goes to the bed no more mommy time, its sleep time. ?It took my DD a little while to realize we were "done" for the night when we laid her down, but it is a beautiful thing now. ?She reaches for the bed when we walk over to the crib. ?That rocks! ?May not work for you but you asked so that is my 2 cents! GL!?

Calips

My DD just turned 2 and are having a harder time with bedtime now.  Not crying just stalling, whining, then calling for "Mommy!" a lot when it is time for bed. 

Naps used to be easy but now she complains and fights the idea of the nap but once we read books and she is in her crib she usually doesn't cry.  She will sometimes talk, sing, yell out, call my name (seriously, my name -- not Mommy) for up to an hour.  Then sleeps for 2+.  Sometimes she is out after only 10 min.

We have had major phases with bedtime.  Some wheer we had a week where we lneeded to let her cry 10-15 min before bed.  Some phases without a peep, some with a strong cry for about 2 min.  I find this phase the hardest since it is hard for me to ignore the "Mommy, Mommy, Huggies, Please!"

I am jealous of all you other Mommies.  Would love to go back to the easy bedtime.

momofolivia

Bedtime is easy for the most part because it is dark and DD can't see all the fun things in the room.

Nap time sucks.  it can take me HOURS to put her down for a nap.  It is probably because I am not consistent in ho i put her down.  i do blame me because DH comes in to rescue me and she goes to slep within 15 minutes for him.  I'm trying to figure out what i can do better but it sucks. 

soveryexcited

OhLaLaLaLa- thanks for the idea! I'm going to try that tonight, I'm not sure why that didn't occur to me to begin with. Thanks again for the great tip!

FaeryStarGazer

moroccojade:

No crying here.  We're a 'no cry' family, though.

FaeryStarGazer

moroccojade:

No crying here.  We're a 'no cry' family, though.

Ditto, the girls don't cry when they go to bed. I can't really remember them crying about bedtime ever. When they were itty bitty of course they cried when they woke up, but that was really it. I am very grateful and very lucky

KristinKD

I'm also jealous of everyone whose DC goes to bed without crying!

Bedtime varies for us; we do bath, then books, and then I either nurse her to sleep, or put her down drowsy and sing her a little lullaby until she's asleep, but sometimes she cries for about five minutes. I think part of our problem is that she needs an earlier bedtime, but I rarely get her upstairs before 8:00.

Naptime is tougher for us. Most days, we read some books in her room, then I have to rock and sing her to sleep. I've found that if I wait too long to put her down, she's less willing to go down because she's overtired. Getting the timing right is key to an easy naptime for us. Today was one of those days that I got the timing wrong, and she ended up crying for 10 minutes before she fell asleep.

snickerdoodle27

Nope no crying here. He may talk for a little while but generally goes right to sleep.

Emmasmom30

Normally, yes.  Today, no.

Pesky

Not usually.  Occasionally she might fuss for a little bit but that typically only lasts about 2-5 minutes max.  She kind of knows the routine and we give her advance warning of when she'll have to go down.  She'll usually play with us for a little in the crib, then by herself, talk to herself for a bit and sing and then she's out like a light.