MIL vent

slh6363

So this drives me nuts...everytime MIL babysits she puts LO in a disposable diaper (we use cloth)....why? We have very easy Velcro ones not hard to figure out! Also, I do homemade purees for LO, so last night I sent some green beans. Then when we pick him up she tells us she gave him squash....and he's never even tried squash before so that really irritates me! 1. Why waste the food that I made. 2. Don't give him something he's never tried! Ahhh. Anyone else have MIL like this?

LetsGoToDisney

Mine just mooches and I wouldn't trust her to babysit a hardboiled egg. 

I'd be pissed about the beans/squash, where did the squash even come from?

Mmhodges07

I'm usually bitter towards my MIL for being completely absent from DD's life (and lives 15 min away), but hearing these stories sort of makes me grateful that the raging alcoholic/ drug abuser MIL stays away. I cannot imagine having to deal with a  MIL who constantly battles my parenting decisions. Sorry ladies. I'd lose it if I were you!

baby101010

Talk to her. I honestly dont think rhe diaper issue is that big a deal. The food on the other hand is a really big issue. She should only feed baby what you give her. Nothing else. You know what baby can eat and handle at this point not her.

SuperTreesa

Let me preface with saying- these particular complaints are examples of an annoying MIL, not a MIL from hell.

My MIL also insists on using her own sposies on my baby instead of our cloth. It's weird because she loves our cloth diapers but I think it makes her feel special that she can buy diapers for our baby and have them at our house. I've given up caring. She now keeps her house stocked with every size diaper and pull up. And she has 2-3 changes of clothes for all of my kids. I used to get offended, like she thought I wouldn't have back up clothes for my own kids. But now I understand that it just makes her feel like an awesome grandma for always being prepared. And it has eliminated the need for a big ass diaper bag when we visit her.

The food issue- if you are concerned about food allergies, let her know, or just remind her. Just also remind yourself, giving squash to a 5-6 month old isn't endangering them. It's still perfectly acceptable food for their age. Its also not a food that has high rates of reaction.

Gatorsgirl731

SuperTreesa said:

Let me preface with saying- these particular complaints are examples of an annoying MIL, not a MIL from hell.

My MIL also insists on using her own sposies on my baby instead of our cloth. It's weird because she loves our cloth diapers but I think it makes her feel special that she can buy diapers for our baby and have them at our house. I've given up caring. She now keeps her house stocked with every size diaper and pull up. And she has 2-3 changes of clothes for all of my kids. I used to get offended, like she thought I wouldn't have back up clothes for my own kids. But now I understand that it just makes her feel like an awesome grandma for always being prepared. And it has eliminated the need for a big ass diaper bag when we visit her.

The food issue- if you are concerned about food allergies, let her know, or just remind her. Just also remind yourself, giving squash to a 5-6 month old isn't endangering them. It's still perfectly acceptable food for their age. Its also not a food that has high rates of reaction.

I agree LO is diapered and fed. Unless you have a horrible allergy to squash you didn't mention.

ajjf1026

I agree that those are cause for annoyances but I am with @jgslr‌, @SuperTreesa‌, & @Gatorsgirl731. My mil gavr DS bananas today and we just started introducing veggies this week. Am I annoyed? Yes. But she has overall been amazing since he was born. Obviously, there are very real occurrences in which MILs can be absolute hell, but I guess it's all in how you pick your battles. Sorry you are frustrated tho.

kirbabe

jgslr said:

Honestly guys, be glad you have trustworthy family that's willing to visit/babysit little one, and for free. There are many of us that have no family around at all, or have people that can not be trusted around an infant.

This!

I'm very jealous! I think a lot of ladies are taking for granted their support system. It's just DH and I. We haven't had a date in SO long! My parents bought us a gift card to a fancy restaurant here for Christmas, which was very sweet of them, but we can't use it to save our lives! We don't want to take the kids, but we have nobody to watch the kids.

Gatorsgirl731

ElleStaxx said:

Well-- in previous MIL rants I have shared about my MIL calling my son fat, big boned and chunky and suggested 'thinning out his formula to keep his weight down'. I don't consider myself lucky to have her help. No. Thank. You. I trust my dog to watch LO more than I trust her.

That's different to me. She's suggesting you don't feed your baby as much, op's mil is using a different kind of diaper.

Amjoy25

Eh, the diaper NBD, I wouldn't CD your child either and it's ok to be peeved about the squash. I would be too. Not that I would be worried about an allergic reaction, but simply that I would want to be the one to introduce it. Andplusalso, you girls need to chill...not everyone's MIL is gonna beat them with wire hangars, she has a legit reason to be irritated. And OP never said MIL from hell, @ElleStaxx‌ mentioned it and @SuperTreesa‌ ran with it.

EmJ&B

Your child, your rules.

If the ppl watching my son can't be trusted to follow my instructions, then they don't get to watchy son. There is a reason that MIL has never watched him.

I'd be annoyed about the CD but I be furious about the food - giving kids unauthorized food is not OK. Just because MIL could be worse, doesn't mean you have to put up with stuff that makes you unhappy

edaire

Here's a MIL story for you. SIL and BIL have been trying to get KU for about 2.5 yrs with no luck. They decided to Pursue adoption as a "last resort". SIL just found out she's 8 weeks prego. MIL states "I'm so excited to have a real biological grand baby!" Our LO was adopted at 3 days old. She's no longer welcomed in our house.

PongoLePond

My MIL does the same sort of stuff so she doesn't get to take him out without me or my BF anymore. It makes life a lot tougher though so just try to remember to prioritize. The diapers (unless he has a sensitivity to sposies) are not a big deal IMO. The food however would be something that you should sit her down and talk to her about. Maybe explain to her why it's not ok to introduce new foods without checking with you first. New foods are fun and everyone wants to join in on that but it's your right as the parent to have first and final say so. You don't need a reason. You are his mom is enough. I guess all I'm saying is before the irritants turn into a huge deal talk to her and let her know you're not alright with her actions then go from there.

slh6363

Thank you @Amjoy25‌ ! Again I never said MIL from hell, and I am actually quite grateful for all of her help. Just stating that these things annoy me! And yes the CD thing I actual let go, but introducing new foods is an issue for me.

germanpickle

edaire said:

Here's a MIL story for you. SIL and BIL have been trying to get KU for about 2.5 yrs with no luck. They decided to Pursue adoption as a "last resort". SIL just found out she's 8 weeks prego. MIL states "I'm so excited to have a real biological grand baby!" Our LO was adopted at 3 days old. She's no longer welcomed in our house.

HOLY. SHIT. 

Dude, that is so sad. But being an idiot, I bet she doesn't even know the joy and love she is missing with her crap-tas-tic attitude.

EmJ&B

quartermisses said:

edaire said:

Here's a MIL story for you. SIL and BIL have been trying to get KU for about 2.5 yrs with no luck. They decided to Pursue adoption as a "last resort". SIL just found out she's 8 weeks prego. MIL states "I'm so excited to have a real biological grand baby!" Our LO was adopted at 3 days old. She's no longer welcomed in our house.

Good for you. There wouldn't be room for her at my house, either. 

This.

@edaire I am so sorry. What a stupid thing to say