Introduction and anxiety

smile24k

Hi Mommies to be! I finally decided to join after lurking for 3 weeks. This is my first child, I'm 35 and will be 36 when baby is born in Nov. I had my first sono this week and DH and I got to hear the heartbeat...very amazing! The doc gave me the whole AMA thing, but said that 60% of her patients would be considered AMA and that obstetrics just haven't caught up to the times. I am struggling with anxiety off and on, just being paranoid about the pregnancy going well and the baby being healthy. I would luv to know if others are experiencing this and what you do to cope. I don't want to stress out and miss out on enjoying the next 7mo.

KateLouise

I think it's natural to worry. The reality is, things can go anytime with a pregnancy. Which I know isn't soothing, but it's a truth.

In the same way things can go wrong anytime in life. But most of us don't sit around worrying about it.

I'm a worrier, so with each pregnancy (this is my 3rd) I just remind myself that the odds are in my favour, and that for most things that could go wrong, I simply can't do anything to prevent them.

So I focus on things I can do to keep baby healthy, like eating well, and being aware of what symptoms to monitor within myself, and then just try and relax into it.

I think it's also a lot easier once baby starts moving.

Best wishes and congratulations!! It's such an exciting time!

DTNZ4Ever

I was that way my first pregnancy and was anxious throughout. With my second I focused on what I could control eating heathy, taking my vitamins exercising etc. The rest was out of my control. I can't control genetics, my age (I too was 36 when DS2 was born), if something didn't develop correctly and worrying about those things won't make them happen or not. Congrats and good luck'

2ndGeneration

 I understand about the worrying-this is my 9th pregnancy (gosh, it looks weird typed out) I had a m/c, then my 5 dc, a 10yr gap, then 2 mc last year and now I'm 10 weeks. And I've worried through every one of them!

 Your doc sounds like he/she has a good attitude about AMA. I'm 42 and asked directly to the doc-do you have a problem with that? (in a nice way) because if she did, it wasn't the place for me. She doesn't : )

 Congrats on hearing the hb, that is wonderful!

dragonfly711

I can totally understand you being worried.  I had a Mmc a year ago Feb at 11 1/2 weeks.  I am not 29 week pregnant and I just turned 40!!!!  My Dr has not worried too much about my age. He is aware but doesnt make a huge deal about it.  

I was very worried during 1st tri the entire time, I dont think anything could have stopped me from being worried then.  2nd tri in the beginning I was always worried but I slowly started to calm down a bit.  Now that I am in the 3rd tri dont get me wrong I still  worry a bit but not as much.  I will not be worry free until after our little girl is born.  

Good that you have a Dr that has a good attitude about AMA

Hearing the heartbeat is awesome!!!  COngrats

QOTR

Congratulations and best wishes to you.  I don't have any advice on avoiding the worry.  I wish I knew the trick!

MrsL2B

Congratulations! I think it's natural to worry a lot at first, even after you've seen and heard the heartbeat a few times.

smile24k

Thanks Ladies! It helps to know I'm not the only semi paranoid mama! :-) I think some of the worry is because at 10 weeks it's hard some days to realize anything is even going on in their. My next doc appt. is May 2 and hopefully I will not drive myself (or my DH) crazy before then, lol. Best Wishes to all!