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intro: loss mentioned....

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I wanted to check in with the over 40 group. I don't know that I ever intro'd here. It's been a while of not being on this board if I did, so here goes.
I'm 41, hubby is almost 49. We were married last year after his VR. We got pg pretty quick, then had a loss at 17wks. Told we could ttc next cycle. That has been since July 2013. Saw an RE in Jan, he said fat and over 40 gives me 2 % chance live birth on my own. I can get 12% chance IVF and he recommends donor eggs.
So here I am. I'd like to hang out here as well as TTCAL if I may :-)
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Re: intro: loss mentioned....

  • thirtyninetofortythirtyninetoforty member
    Hello! 
    Your RE's comment about fat and over 40...why so harsh?  I'm heavy as well and although I know losing weight (even just a little) will help me considerably, my RE is not negative about my weight. 
    So sorry to hear about your loss.
    Good luck:)
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    TTC #1 with IUI and donor sperm
    First IUI May, 2014, Clomid + Trigger = BFN
    Second IUI July, 2014, Clomid + Trigger = BFN
    Third IUI Dec, 2014, Femara + Follistim + Trigger = BFN
    Fourth IUI Feb 2015, Femara + Follistim + Trigger = C/P :(

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  • MelissaMisoMelissaMiso member
    Welcome and I'm overweight. Being healthy is the key no matter what the scale says. Boo on bad bedside manners of your RE. Don't let that knucklehead discourage you.

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  • BeckyP005BeckyP005 member
    edited April 2014
    Welcome and I am so very sorry for your loss...big hugs. Sorry for what the RE told you. I met with an RE and decided to skip IVF and go straight to DE because of my age (43 at the time) and only having $ to do one or the other. Good luck to you and YH on deciding what to do. It's hard I'm sure..

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  • Davie813Davie813 member
    edited April 2014
    Welcome, and sorry for your losses. I agree with pps about your RE. I hope he's basing those stats on something more substantial than just your age and weight (and that he's not always like that)!

    Best of luck, whatever you decide to do!
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  • hooligans4hooligans4 member
    So very sorry for your loss. I hope you come up with a game plan that you are happy and comfortable with. Although your doctor didn't choose the correct wording he was giving you the facts and you need those to make the best choice for how to move foreword in ttc.
    But I do hope you are in that 2% and you can rub it in his face. :P

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  • Samuelismomma Samuelismomma member
    Welcome..sorry for your loss. I hope you and your H can come up with a decision that is right for you. Good luck! Remember 2% is a number! Maybe you can get healthy and raise it and beat the odds! Good luck!
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  • KrullebolKrullebol member
    I am 40 and know what you are going through so big hugs. I do not know where you are based but here in Switzerland you cannot get egg donations, we are trying this month with IUI plus drugs so let's see what happens.
    Best wishes!!!

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  • URMySunshine77URMySunshine77 member
    Welcome to the board. I am sorry for your loss and that you have to deal with the doctor's comments. Physicians should be supportive, as we never know what type of positive mental support can do for TTC.

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  • northernkhaleesinorthernkhaleesi member
    Welcome to the board. I'm with PPs; that RE was nasty and needs some manners.

    I know lots of overweight people who have not had fertility issues. I know lots of "normal" weight people who have. Your doc was doubly insensitive, and I'd be in the market for a new one.

    All that aside; this is a supportive place, full of knowledgeable people. You've come to the right place.
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