Told my mom and now this...

stellasmommy412

I'm only 5 weeks, but I told my mom I'm pregnant. We haven't announced it to the world yet, but she's already talking about doing a sprinkle. I know she knows they're tacky but she's so darn excited. How do I turn her down without hurting her feelings?

dufferoo

If you really don't want one, I think the best thing to do would be stop her now, before she starts any actual planning. What if you said "Hey what if you and I just went out and celebrated instead of having a whole big thing?? You're my favorite anyways!!"

KatFCo

For the next 12 weeks or so: "Mom, I know you're excited about this, but I'd really rather wait until later in my pregnancy to talk about anything like that. After all, I'm only 5 weeks along."

After that (and hopefully she's calmed down): "You know, I've been thinking about it, and we really have everything we need. I'd hate to ask people to buy us more stuff when we don't need it."

stellasmommy412

Thanks, ladies! I will deflect with a girls day with her and DD. Maybe I will let her be a part of the baby announcement to DD or something. 

FemShep

Not sure how old your DD is, but I think she's a great reason to avoid a sprinkle. Instead of having a party to celebrate a new arrival, which can add to jealousy issues, express to your Mom that you want DD to feel excited about being a big sister and ask her if she would be open to a "big sister" day with the two of you and DD. That way, DD feels like she's being celebrated in addition to the new baby.

stellasmommy412

FemShep said:

Not sure how old your DD is, but I think she's a great reason to avoid a sprinkle. Instead of having a party to celebrate a new arrival, which can add to jealousy issues, express to your Mom that you want DD to feel excited about being a big sister and ask her if she would be open to a "big sister" day with the two of you and DD. That way, DD feels like she's being celebrated in addition to the new baby.

She will be 5 on the 12th. That's a great idea! She's been asking for a sibling for a while and always plays with her babies like they are real, so I think she will be excited, but celebrating with grandma and mommy will make her feel special. We could do "grown up" things the baby won't be able to do, like manicures or something.

boymomstrong

When my family started talking shower #2, all I told them was I dont need a shower, I need a maid for 6-8 weeks so I can heal from my c section with 2 kids! This seems to be a great idea they have run with and are taking up a collection from the people asking about another shower, we shall see how it goes, I dont like the idea of asking for money I was more joking, but I am not going to turn down a maid service! )

lizztheo

My MIL started going on and on about a baby shower when I was just 8 weeks pregnant and I turned it down very quickly. Instead of saying it was tacky and offending her, I just told her that we have everything we need and would rather not do a shower. She protested by saying what if it's a girl this time and I told her the new baby would wear the hand-me-downs regardless of sex and that if people wanted to give gifts, they were more than welcome but I just wouldn't feel right at a gift-giving event with the children so close in age (in reality, I don't want a subsequent shower regardless of age gap or sex). I tried to word it so her idea wasn't tacky (even though it is). I thought she'd put up a bigger fight about the whole thing but it's another boy so I guess she just gave up (YAY).

darkangel42

stellasmommy412 said:

FemShep said:

Not sure how old your DD is, but I think she's a great reason to avoid a sprinkle. Instead of having a party to celebrate a new arrival, which can add to jealousy issues, express to your Mom that you want DD to feel excited about being a big sister and ask her if she would be open to a "big sister" day with the two of you and DD. That way, DD feels like she's being celebrated in addition to the new baby.

She will be 5 on the 12th. That's a great idea! She's been asking for a sibling for a while and always plays with her babies like they are real, so I think she will be excited, but celebrating with grandma and mommy will make her feel special. We could do "grown up" things the baby won't be able to do, like manicures or something.

This is a lovely idea