strangely coincidental dates *loss mentioned*

darkangel42

I'm currently pregnant again (with N2, who was a complete surprise) after 2 losses but the dates are all significant so I'm obsessing and making myself crazy. I couldn't have made these coincidences happen if I'd tried, the years are different but the dates are linked.

The first loss(B1) was a couple of years ago, not long after I got married. The second loss(B2) was last summer. B2's due date was the same time of the month that I lost B1, to within days of each other - both were the first week of the same month. I "felt pregnant" (and I am but test didn't show until 2 days later) with N2 and the date I first felt pregnant was B1's due date. N2's due date is this summer, a year to the day since I lost B2.

None of these dates held any significance for me prior to this apart from interlocking with each other. You hear stories of relatives passing and conception happening on that date but I have nothing like this, no departed relatives sending a baby to us from mine or the husband's family on the anniversary of their passing or their birthday.

Maybe I just have too much time on my hands but I've been obsessing for a while now and I think it's all too strange to have happened just because. One or 2 crossovers I could put down to coincidence but not all of them being connected. 

Anyone care to offer any suggestions? "You're just nuts" is a totally valid comment. Anyone else had spooky date coincidences?

Sarahbeth612

Personally I love things like this! Pretty cool.
I'm due with this LO this November, and we lost our last this past November...the days don't match up exactly (maybe 5 days apart?) and it's not nearly as complex as yours!

darkangel42

I'm sorry for your loss and GL for November! My first was a November baby, they look so cute in their tiny Christmas outfits.

Normally I like those little quirks of the universe that throw 2 seemingly unrelated things together but this is beyond that - complex is a good way of putting it!

ksulli

::technically lurking:: My 2nd BFP came on the last possible cycle to be pregnant before my loss EDD. My 3rd BFP was due exactly 1w before (though 3y after) my MMC was diagnosed (but came 12d before). I think it sort of links the LOs I got to keep with the LO I lost.

darkangel42

ksulli said:

 I think it sort of links the LOs I got to keep with the LO I lost.

That's a beautiful way of looking at it.

2redtulips

You're not nuts. It's totally natural to look for patterns and connections, and I also like ksulli's thoughts about the link to previous LOs.

porterlove525

I say everything happens for a reason.

This LO was conceived on my EDD for my first loss, all of our scans occurred on milestones for both of my losses, our due date for this LO was 2 days after my D&C for my second loss and low and behold, my c-section was just scheduled for the exact same day as my D&C last year, which also fell on a Friday. It's also my mum's birthday and I share a birthday with my father.

I like to think it's the universes way of tying all 3 of my babies and all the sad and happy memories together. It's not crazy at all....although I can totally relate to the worrying/freaking out/panic states along the way I've had plenty and am going into this delivery next week with mixed emotions over mourning one loss and welcoming my rainbow.

darkangel42

@porterlove525 I've seen coincidences of date before but only one-offs (like I share my cousin's birthday - she asked my Mum is she could have the baby born on her birthday as her gift) but never anything so tangled as mine until yours, it's a lot of coinciding dates.
I'm sorry for your losses and it's sort of sweet that you can remember the sadness alongside celebrating the happy.  Once my mind clears, that's how I'd like to see it too.

darkangel42

The freaky continues. 
N2 was born early - the day I got B2's BFP.