PPD?

bumpuser9058414

I'll preface this by saying that I am going to call my doctor but I wanted some input from you ladies as well. How do you know if you have PPD or are just stressed and or overwhelmed? DS is 4 weeks old and his pedi thinks he has colic. He cries a lot, more so at night but I feel like whenever he is awake he is crying. I have a 5 year old DD who is acting out and my husband works a lot, so I'm home with both of them by myself more than I'd like. I cry just about every day, I don't want to leave the house if I don't have to because I'm scared he'll be miserable. I don't think the weather is helping either. I don't feel like harming him or myself at all, but I just don't feel right. I feel like I can't get anything done around the house because he's always nursing or crying and I can't put him down or he'll wake up and cry. I'm not a fan of medication but I'm not sure what to do. 

tsmith312

I've kind of been in the same boat . LO is 3 weeks today . Up until last week I've been super emotional and crying everyday , also I just feel like I've been disconnected from DH because this has been so overwhelming . The past 3 days have been super rough with LO she's been constipated so we had to switch formulas . Also EVERY night around 8 or 9 she starts screaming !! Nothing soothes her at all . I mean nothing soothes her , not even holding her or walking around with her . I haven't spoke to her pedi yet but it sounds like colic just by what I've read . I also don't venture out because I don't know what to expect with her . My nephew had colic so my sister recommended this stuff called colic calm I know you said your not a fan of medication , neither am I but I want her to be happy and feel better . It's homeopathic and all natural I figured it was worth a try . I got it at cvs it's pretty expensive but we gave it to her last night and KNOCK on wood she was actually happy and wasn't fussy !! I just want my happy content baby back , and myself !! Hugs to you I hope it gets better I'm sure having an older DD is even more overwhelming !! But your doing a great job momma !!

DTNZ4Ever

Since you are 4 weeks in and still experiencing these feelings I would say yes it sounds like PPD. Baby blues lasts a few days to 2 weeks anything longer is considered PPD. Glad you are seeking help. Hope you get some relief soon.

Raebabe1008

I feel very overwhelmed as well!! It's hard enough being a new mom or a mom in general then throw in fussiness, crying, gas pain, spitting up, and constipation in the mix it's enough to make a sane person crazy!! It's so hard and I don't feel like I have as much support sometimes from my mom in particular. She's old skool and thinks that if one baby is not fussy and tolerating one type of formula that they all should be like that. I feel judged at times when I tell her how overwhelmed and just emotionally exhausted I feel. It's almost like she forgets how it feels to raise a newborn. Ahhhhh!!!! There that felt better. Lol sorry ladies I needed to vent.

bumpuser9058414

Thanks ladies. I'm going to try the colic calm and call the doctor tomorrow! @futuretonyasmith i have the same feelings about my DH too. He's very helpful but I just don't feel connected to him at the moment. It's so hard. Good luck to you too!

BrideNamedMeg

((hugs)) sorry things are rough right now!  I hope your doctor can help, meds aren't a fun prospect but a temporary solution might be all you need to get through it.  

Do you have a rock n' play?  Lydia won't sleep for any amount of time anywhere else, that thing has totally saved my sanity this time around.  

My DD is normally very even keel and has been acting out a bunch lately.  Even MH who usually has infinite patience has almost lost it with her a couple of times.  Punishing the behavior has almost no effect, we send her to her room to calm down. I feel like the bad behavior is testing us to see how much we care about her - after she's calmed down I will hold her for a couple of minutes and tell her how much we all love her, what a good big sister she is, etc. It really does seem to help.

bumpuser9058414

@bridenamedmeg I have talked with DD when she's been calm and told her that I know it's hard right now and that instead of acting out she needs to just tell me she needs extra loves. Now when she breaks down she comes crying to me saying, "Mommy I need extra loves!" It's so hard adjusting for all of us. DH is the same as yours, losing patience with her and I feel awful. I bought the colic calm and also discovered the vacuum cleaner and an app with white noise that seems to be helping. I really think that if his crying would stop so would my crying! 

ETA he isn't crazy about the Rock N Play. He'll stay in it if he's in a deep sleep and I need to place him somewhere but he doesn't love it like most babies! The swing on the other hand is a life saver. 

KariB509

I feel very similar. I'm still sending DS to daycare a few days a week but the days that I'm home with both kids are miserable. I don't know what's wrong with me but I just feel like I can't handle two kids. DD cries pretty much any time I'm not holding her and it makes it very difficult with DS. Also, like you, my H works a lot and I'm alone with both kids or one. Right now, I'm sitting up waiting for DD to fall asleep and my H is asleep in bed. We haven't gotten to spend a whole lot of alone time together since she was born. I feel disconnected from him. I normally tell him everything but I don't even know where to begin with this. Also, he's going out of town next week. Not looking forward to being alone with the kids and not getting to spend any time with him.

Anyway, I really don't know what to do because I'm already on Prozac. I feel like this is situational and more medicine isn't going to help. I'm overwhelmed with two kids, my H is always working and we haven't had much time together. More medicine isn't going to change that. For you though, medicine will help take the edge off.

I'm sorry I sorta just made your post about me. I'm mostly just trying to let you know that you're not alone and I'm also not sure if I have ppd or if this is normal to feel this overwhelmed when going from 1 child to 2.

Ok I'm going to stop rambling now. This post is all over the place. Sorry!

bumpuser9058414

KariB509 said:

I feel very similar. I'm still sending DS to daycare a few days a week but the days that I'm home with both kids are miserable. I don't know what's wrong with me but I just feel like I can't handle two kids. DD cries pretty much any time I'm not holding her and it makes it very difficult with DS. Also, like you, my H works a lot and I'm alone with both kids or one. Right now, I'm sitting up waiting for DD to fall asleep and my H is asleep in bed. We haven't gotten to spend a whole lot of alone time together since she was born. I feel disconnected from him. I normally tell him everything but I don't even know where to begin with this. Also, he's going out of town next week. Not looking forward to being alone with the kids and not getting to spend any time with him. Anyway, I really don't know what to do because I'm already on Prozac. I feel like this is situational and more medicine isn't going to help. I'm overwhelmed with two kids, my H is always working and we haven't had much time together. More medicine isn't going to change that. For you though, medicine will help take the edge off. I'm sorry I sorta just made your post about me. I'm mostly just trying to let you know that you're not alone and I'm also not sure if I have ppd or if this is normal to feel this overwhelmed when going from 1 child to 2. Ok I'm going to stop rambling now. This post is all over the place. Sorry!

@KariB509 this is exactly how I feel! Sorry you are having a hard time too. Hopefully we both feel better soon. 

Aturl

Crying on a daily basis seems to be the norm here as well. The only difference is my baby boy is very calm and happy. The real challenges here have nothing to do with LO. My 5yr old DS is having a lot of behavioral issues and DH and I are experiencing a rough patch so I don't know that this qualifies as ppd. I'm thinking it is more just actual depression and anxiety here. Good luck mommas I hope each of you at least gets a good nights rest and a good talk with your DH's.