February 2014 Moms

I need you guys... (NBR) updated

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edited April 2014 in February 2014 Moms
I'm having a really rough time right now and it's all still pretty raw so it's hard for me to go into detail at this point. Kinda silly for me to be writing this without providing background, but if you all could just send good vibes my way and T&P it would be appreciated more than you'll ever know. I'll update with details when I'm not a crying mess and can sort my thoughts out better. In the meantime, thank you. I don't know what I'd do without all of you. 


-Update-

"The air around me still feels like a cage..." 
That line from the above song is burning in my ears. It's true and it's the most suffocating feeling I've ever known. I don't wish this kind of hurt on anyone. Betrayal, infidelity, gut-wrenching heartache, abandonment. This is my reality. I wish I could just run from this feeling... escape the pain somehow. But as of now, that's impossible. It's completely consumes you, breaks you, and shoves you down into the tiniest, darkest corner it can find.

My husband just told me he wants a divorce. Just like that. Even after I was the one who stuck around to try and work through things. (See previous post.) I've been given 3 weeks to leave. That's three short weeks to find a home, a job, a car, and oh... I don't know... maybe keep my sanity and sense-of-worth in the process. I know I sound ridiculous but I don't want things to end. Not right now. Not like this. Regardless of what the past holds. For now, this is all I can write. No combination of 26 letters could possibly explain how I feel inside. I'm hoping this all blows over and that we can talk about things... if not then I hope I can find my strength along the way.

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"Forever and ever, Babe."
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Re: I need you guys... (NBR) updated

  • Sorry you are going through whatever it is.
    The last few years I've done through well and back and didn't have much support, so I understand the need for friends.
    GL hope you get through it.

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  • Sending good vibes your way. When you're ready to talk, we will be here.


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  • Hang in there, hon...we're thinking about you.
  • Sorry and hugs!
  • Thoughts and prayers and hugs... You're not alone!
  • I am sending you lots of Ts and Ps and good vibes. I remember your other post. Not sure if the two are related, but whatever you are going through, I hope you feel better soon. We are always here to support you!
    It's related. I wish it wasn't. 
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  • Thank you all so much. It makes me feel better to know that you all are here. 
  • Hoping things get better for you!!
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  • I'm sending lots of positive thoughts your way. I hope things start looking up soon. We're here for you. Big hugs!
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  • I am so, so sorry.


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  • You all are very kind with your words. Thank you. You have created a sense of trust for me that I have not felt in a long time. It's something that I wasn't sure I would ever feel again. I'm not going to pretend that I am strong enough to face this alone... And I'm grateful that I don't have to.
  • Go see a lawyer. Tomorrow. I don't think he can legally just kick you out. Even if your name isn't on the lease or down as an owner, if you've been there for a month you've established legal residency (in most states). He'd need to evict you and LO. Don't rush out. Find a good place you can afford.


    I'm so sorry.

    In all of the mush and tears, this didn't even dawn on me. Thank you for bringing this up.

  • Go see a lawyer. Tomorrow. I don't think he can legally just kick you out. Even if your name isn't on the lease or down as an owner, if you've been there for a month you've established legal residency (in most states). He'd need to evict you and LO. Don't rush out. Find a good place you can afford.


    I'm so sorry.

    This is exactly what I was thinking. He can't just hustle you out. You need to find someone who can outline all of your legal rights for you before he tramples all over them.

    I'm so sorry you have to go through this...stay strong.
  • I am so sorry. I hope things work out for you...
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  • I'm so sorry you are going through this. Sending hugs and T&P your way. We are here for you!
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  • I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. Stay strong! Sending tons of T&Ps!
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  • I'm so, so sorry. Please do what you can to take care of yourself and LO. F14 is here for you.

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  • I'm sorry your dealing with all of this right now. I can't advise, but I'm sending prayers and strengthening vibes. *hugs*
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    I'm sorry you're going through this right now. Sending you lots of strength. ((Hugs))
  • I am so sorry you are going through this. Surround yourself with people who will love and support you.
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  • I am so sorry you are going through this. I know you have been dealing with a lot with this situation and his behavior lately. The only thing I can offer is that what seems like a door closing right now, will afford you many more open doors in the future. I wish the best for you and your children, concentrate on doing what you need to do for yourself and them. 

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  • So sorry :-(. Don't just leave though. I know enough to know that backfires in court as he can twist it to say YOU abandoned the marriage. Hugs! This will be a long road but you can do it.

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  • I'm so incredibly sorry you are going through this. Focus on one day at a time and making sure that you are taking care of and doing what's right for you and LO. Big giant hugs coming your way.

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  • I'm so, so sorry. we're all here for you and are thinking of you... sending the biggest (((hugs))) and many T&P's.
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  • So sorry you are having to deal with all of this! I don't have any advice to offer, but I am praying for you. ((Hugs))
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  • Lots if hugs for you.
  • I'm so sorry.
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  • I am so, so sorry. I can hear your pain in your posts and it absolutely breaks my heart. 

    I second what people say about seeing a lawyer. Actually, see multiple lawyers, the "sharkier," the better - if a lawyer confers with you even once, they cannot represent your husband in the divorce (or so I'm told). 

    A lawyer can walk you through this, step by step. You'll be entitled to child support, an equal divide of your bank accounts, and possibly more. I agree that he cannot force you out of your home - but a lawyer can clarify all of these things. 

    Again, I am so sorry. Big huge hugs to you. 
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  • I'm so sorry, I wish I had something to say that would help. But I'm here if you ever want to talk, and I'm thinking of you. You are strong! Never forget that.
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  • I am so sorry you are dealing with this. As everyone has said, we are here for you.
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