thinking about TTC #2

moonracer988

well #1 is 5 months old and both me and the hubby have baby fever all over again and are thinking about trying for # 2. I'm at sahm and hubby owns his business so i have all the time in the world for babies. well lets see how the families react when they find out about #2.

nopegoat

Good luck!

Wine&Cupcakes

Kimbus22 said:

I will never understand how it is possible to have baby fever when you have an actual baby.

But whatever floats your boat.  Check with your OB before trying. Most recommend at least a year between pregnancies.  Good luck with whatever you decide!

Agree.

Granted I don't have kids, but I cannot wrap my head around people who get pregnant before a year. A) I think I would fully want to enjoy my child's infancy before distracted by another pregnancy, and b) having two children under two is my idea of a certain kind of hell.

Good luck to you though!

normandyn7

Kimbus22 said:

I will never understand how it is possible to have baby fever when you have an actual baby.

But whatever floats your boat.  Check with your OB before trying. Most recommend at least a year between pregnancies.  Good luck with whatever you decide!

My son is about to be 7 months and my baby fever is just going away. I got it when he was about a month old. I think I miss being pregnant more than anything. Now that my hormones are getting better I think I'm thinking clearly and I know we aren't ready for a second baby. Plus DS is at that stage where he is learning to move so I couldn't imagine being pregnant and chasing after him. Then having a newborn with a baby/toddler? Yikes! But good luck OP! I agree on the healing part because I still feel like I have some healing to do.

SpaceGirlSpiff

Good luck to you! To each their own

It took me a good 2 years before I felt anywhere close to wanting a second...but year one was pretty rough ....We're just now going to start for #2

smg2302

I think part of it also has to do with your social circle.  I was one of the first of my group to get pregnant.  Now DD is almost one and all of my girlfriends are pregnant, so baby fever is back with a vengeance (totally rational reasoning I know).

OP-  Good luck with everything! 

Wine&Cupcakes

beaubecca said:

Wine&Cupcakes said:

Kimbus22 said:

I will never understand how it is possible to have baby fever when you have an actual baby.

But whatever floats your boat.  Check with your OB before trying. Most recommend at least a year between pregnancies.  Good luck with whatever you decide!

Agree.

Granted I don't have kids, but I cannot wrap my head around people who get pregnant before a year. A) I think I would fully want to enjoy my child's infancy before distracted by another pregnancy, and b) having two children under two is my idea of a certain kind of hell.

Good luck to you though!

You might feel differently after having your first. I thought this was going to be true for me too, but I got the baby fever about 5-6 months in. Your LO starts growing out of the baby stage and into toddler stage and you miss the cuddles all that comes with having a tiny infant. It doesn't mean you love your LO any less or don't want to see him grow and spend time with him, but you have an abundance of love to go around.

Certainly a good point...make sense. But it also sounds so exhausting! Although I guess two kids of any age would give you a run for your money...

ashiscute

There are pros and cons to having them super close together.  Personally 5 mos is a little soon to start trying.  Mine are 19.5 mos but that was not actually planned.  

Being pregnant with a baby that takes two naps per day and can't really get away from you is somewhat appealing compared to being pregnant with a toddler that can run around and tell you no.  

Harveys11

I'm with you OP! #2 and #3 will be 12 months apart. I want a big close family. We'll have 3 under 3 and I can't wait. 

Good luck!

paintedtulips

I also agree with OP, I want my kids 12 months apart. Of course I am only TTC #1, but as I only want 2 I like the idea of getting both done, and them being very close. My husband is about a year difference from his sister and they are BFFs. My brother and I were farther a part, don't ever talk. It makes all the difference in the world!

katie0919

Yeah....I had ZERO baby fever when DS was 5 months old. I was still learning to be a mother, handle breastfeeding and/or pumping constantly, hormones, work, and trying to figure out how to maintain my relationship with DH since we had gone from carefree newlyweds to parents and our entire life had changed. 

To each their own, I guess....but I can tell you that having a baby that is 5 months old is EASY compared to when they become bona fide toddler. 4-6 months is such a great age, they are so sweet, cute, and have such great personalities....but they are still immobile. 12 months to 20 months was HARD. I cannot imagine having been pregnant and/or taking care of a newborn when DS was that age. I also look forward to the fact that when I have another baby, DS will be old enough to "help" and understand and will be able to keep himself more entertained than if I had a 1 year old and a newborn at the same time. I shiver just at the thought! But again, some people can probably handle it better than me!

KJKNAJ

I'm another one that likes a gap between children. My daughters are 3yrs8mths apart and there will be at least a 4yr3mth gap between 2 & 3, if I ever get to have a 3.

I knew before I even had kids that I couldn't handle 2u2. I would've strangled one of them.

Crinita

The World Health Organization recommends a minimum of 18 months between babies (birth to conception), for both mom & baby's health.  But I totally understand where you are coming from and to each their own.  DD is 6 mo now and I would be freaked out (but still happy) if we got pregnant again this soon.  Good luck!

marathonmommy82

beaubecca said:

Wine&Cupcakes said:

Kimbus22 said:

I will never understand how it is possible to have baby fever when you have an actual baby.

But whatever floats your boat.  Check with your OB before trying. Most recommend at least a year between pregnancies.  Good luck with whatever you decide!

Agree.

Granted I don't have kids, but I cannot wrap my head around people who get pregnant before a year. A) I think I would fully want to enjoy my child's infancy before distracted by another pregnancy, and b) having two children under two is my idea of a certain kind of hell.

Good luck to you though!

You might feel differently after having your first. I thought this was going to be true for me too, but I got the baby fever about 5-6 months in. Your LO starts growing out of the baby stage and into toddler stage and you miss the cuddles all that comes with having a tiny infant. It doesn't mean you love your LO any less or don't want to see him grow and spend time with him, but you have an abundance of love to go around.

a 5-6 month old is an infant, not a toddler... not even close to a toddler.