Tuesday Chatter

PenelopePond

cheeseandrice said:

PenelopePond said:

I don't understand Chick Fil A taking over as the #1 fried chicken place (over KFC). Yes, CFA has great chicken, but it's not the same as going to KFC. That is weird to me.

KFC is disgusting.

I think so too. I probably should have said it's weird because you don't go to CFA buy a bucket of chicken, mashed potatoes, green beans, and biscuits. It's just not the same style restaurant. We have a KFC across the street from our house, and we never go. We do drive 20 miles to CFA though. 

OceanLover26

cheeseandrice said:

hi. We finally picked up the new Escape last night. Even though I really like, I kind of miss my Fusion. An dI"m finally a little pissed at H for killing it.

also. I think I'm going to sign up for SXM because I got totally spoiled by my 90s on 9.

I'm coming up on the end of my 1 year of SXM radio and I'm for sure deciding to keep it. 

27boo

I miss camping. DH isn't a big camper, but I hope to go a few times.

I like to make up a big bunch of breakfast burrito stuff (potatos, eggs, peppers, sausage) and put it in a zippy bag in the cooler. As people wake up, they can make their own, wrap it in foil, and heat it over the fire.

Edit: my fingers are too fat for mobile today

willy_gert

PenelopePond said:

cheeseandrice said:

PenelopePond said:

I don't understand Chick Fil A taking over as the #1 fried chicken place (over KFC). Yes, CFA has great chicken, but it's not the same as going to KFC. That is weird to me.

KFC is disgusting.

I think so too. I probably should have said it's weird because you don't go to CFA buy a bucket of chicken, mashed potatoes, green beans, and biscuits. It's just not the same style restaurant. We have a KFC across the street from our house, and we never go. We do drive 20 miles to CFA though. 

The reason they are compared is that their primary meat is chicken.  There really isn't a place just like CFA, so they get thrown in with KFC, Popeye's and those brands.

thebanich

So there are multiple things circulating my FB right now about now posting fake pregnancy announcements on April Fools Day. It is all about infertility/pregnancy loss. I'm conflicted about them.


What does S12 say?

tinyhumantoe

@OceanLover26‌ now I'm online buying foot cream. Haha

tinyhumantoe

I haven't seen the FB stuff, but I don't think April fools pregnancy announcements are insensitive.

thebanich

cheeseandrice said:

Banich4eva said:

So there are multiple things circulating my FB right now about now posting fake pregnancy announcements on April Fools Day. It is all about infertility/pregnancy loss. I'm conflicted about them.


What does S12 say?

I think they're incredibly stupid, assholish, and insensitive.

ETA: fake pregnancy announcements are.

I definitely see that side of it. I also tend to think..."how old are we?" about most April Fools Day crap.

It was just reading one of the posts and I felt like it came across kind of sanctimommy-ish. I may have just read it that way because my BFF from college has  turned into a sanctimommy and I generally want to punch her for the things she posts.

OceanLover26

cheeseandrice said:

OceanLover26 said:

cheeseandrice said:

hi. We finally picked up the new Escape last night. Even though I really like, I kind of miss my Fusion. An dI"m finally a little pissed at H for killing it.

also. I think I'm going to sign up for SXM because I got totally spoiled by my 90s on 9.

I'm coming up on the end of my 1 year of SXM radio and I'm for sure deciding to keep it. 

Talk to me more about this.  If I pay the $200/year, will I get it in my car (Escape) and online/phone? Do I have ot pay more to access it outside the car?

I'm actually looking at the paper I got in the mail right now, it says that the prices shown (the ~200/year) is for the Sirius Select package of audio channels and do not include the sirius all access package, SiriusXM traffic, travel link or weather.  There's another bullet on the back that says that certain channels are not available on the internet radio or mobile devices. We haven't used the Sirius on our phone/internet but I'm curious now.  I'm going to call and ask....
Okay, just got off the phone with her.  She said it's part of the Sirius All Access package.  If you have the Sirius select package she said you can add access to the internet/mobile device (where you can be logged in to up to 3 devices) for $4 extra a month.  So I guess you can do that or just ask for the Sirius all access package prices to compare.

OceanLover26

@tinyhumantoe seriously this stuff is awesome!  I think it was only abut $3, too. 


I'm going to say no on the fake pregnancy fooling.  I don't like April Fools day in general so there's that. 

MarisaKathleen

I bought waffle irons for camping last year for breakfast.  Holy crap.  They were completely awesome.  Best breakfast I've made camping.  I'm camp chef when we go, so I'm always making new stuff.  This one was a total hit.  

hmp1

tinyhumantoe said:

What comes to mind when you see a woman just wearing a wedding band? I'm thinking of putting my e-ring in the drawer.

My e-ring is just a band because I had no desire to wear a big diamond everyday. I had planned on only wearing that band but DH ended up getting me another band because my e-ring was a little loose and because it has diamonds all the way around, it can't be resized. The second, smaller band is really just insurance that my bigger band won't fall off.

Anyways, I pretty much never look at people's rings and it I do I wouldn't think twice about only seeing a band.

hmp1

tinyhumantoe said:

My ring isn't modest enough. That's my issue with it. It also slides from side to side. It can't sit up straight.

You can have balls placed inside the band to hold it in place. That was one of the options our jeweler mentioned when I was having issues with my ring being too big. He said it is usually used to hold the diamond on top of the finger.

redneckmomma25

My dear friend is going through infertility stuff at the moment. She's had both brothers announce their wives are pg over the past few months. Plus a few Co workers. Then today a mutual friend of ours (closer to her than I ) posted a fake pg announcement. So uncalled for. So I posted a psa and this article.
https://www.scissortailsilk.com/2014/03/28/the-joke-is-over-why-i-hope-not-to-see-pretend-pregnancy-announcements-on-april-1st/

pharmer78

To answer your question, @tinyhumantoe, and perhaps a FFTuC, I strongly dislike camping.  I LOVE outdoor time, hiking, picnics, etc but my hatred of wearing a layer of grime and dust, smelling like smoke, sleeping on bumpy earth, and waking up wet from dew make me call it a night and head indoors.
So no camping plans for us this summer.

And I solve my plumber's crack issue with a cute belt!

hmp1

I don't like camping. Love staying in a cabin or house on a bunch a land and doing the campfire dinners, cooking out, hiking, creek walking... But I want a bed, toilet (not shared with strangers), and a nice warm shower in the morning. We did that last summer and it was great.

tinyhumantoe

Look, I wouldn't do an April Fool's pregnancy announcement.  For reasons that you are all citing, I personally think it's in poor taste.  In fact, I didn't do a FB pregnancy announcement at all because many of my friends are at childbearing age and some are going through struggles.

But I'm going to stand by my original opinion.  It's not a malicious or mean thing, and it's not all about you. 

tinyhumantoe

pharmer78 said:

To answer your question, @tinyhumantoe, and perhaps a FFTuC, I strongly dislike camping.  I LOVE outdoor time, hiking, picnics, etc but my hatred of wearing a layer of grime and dust, smelling like smoke, sleeping on bumpy earth, and waking up wet from dew make me call it a night and head indoors.
So no camping plans for us this summer.

And I solve my plumber's crack issue with a cute belt!

I guess we can't be a nuclear 50s family after all
=((

tinyhumantoe

I can't stand when people pronounce nuclear "nyoo-cyoolar" instead of "nyoo-clee-ar"

Good thing I don't write the pronunciation thingies for dictionaries.  Yowsa

tinyhumantoe

cheeseandrice said:

I really hate the song "Let it Go" from Frozen.  It's not that great of a song to begin with (especially by Disney standards) and it's SO over played.  hate it.

I haven't seen the movie, but the song is awful.

Kissty

E Ring:  I don't wear mine because I lost the stone years ago.  So I don't think anything about anyone wearing/not wearing one.  My mom never wore her's due to her job so...

Camping: HATE IT!!! My idea of roughing it is Motel 6 - even then I'm not cool with it.  LO can go camping with his uncle when he's older.

Fake PG announcements: wrong! Just don't do it.  It can hurt others who are struggling quietly.

tinyhumantoe

I think my issue in general is that sometimes people post things without doing a full risk assessment.  Sometimes words are meant to be a lighthearted joke, and not meant to hurt anyone at all.  Intention doesn't completely negate outcome, but it should at least be considered.

Sometimes people are at a different place in their life.... early 20s.... late 20s..... late 40s... and are either distanced (read: not yet aware) of the struggles that can come with something like pregnancy, or were never fully aware because blogs and facebook didn't exist and many struggles were kept very private.

I don't think these posts are ever malicious.  Careless?  Perhaps.  I think my biggest issue is how exhausting 'correctness' is... you're always going to upset someone, and people are going to have to be more resilient to stupid things that others say. 

The facebook 'friends' further complicates this, because if my IRL friend said something insensitive, I could talk to her about it, and I wouldn't judge her based on a single sentence because I know her well and know she's a good, caring person.  You open yourself up to hearing 350 people's thoughts, and you take each thing personally, and you may not know them well enough to account for their intention.

terri_doula2010

I haven't worn my e-ring regularly since pregnancy with DS. It is really big and makes my fingers ache. I haven't worn my wedding band in almost as long, because my fingers grew. I need to get it resized.

pharmer78

TheAnne said:

Popeyes FTW.

Have you tried the biscuits at Church's Chicken (if you have Church's chicken where you live)? Ridiculously delicious.

MarisaKathleen

pharmer78 said:

TheAnne said:

Popeyes FTW.

Have you tried the biscuits at Church's Chicken (if you have Church's chicken where you live)? Ridiculously delicious.

We don't have Church's here, and all our Popeyes are in the rather sketchy areas of town.  We used to have one right near our apartment and it was delicious.  I still think about Popeyes.  I just don't like to drive to or in that part of town, so I just silently yearn.

MommaP12

Kissty said:

E Ring:  I don't wear mine because I lost the stone years ago.  So I don't think anything about anyone wearing/not wearing one.  My mom never wore her's due to her job so...

Camping: HATE IT!!! My idea of roughing it is Motel 6 - even then I'm not cool with it.  LO can go camping with his uncle when he's older.

Fake PG announcements: wrong! Just don't do it.  It can hurt others who are struggling quietly.

LOL! @kissty I have the exact same sentiments about camping and have often said "my idea of camping is a 2 star hotel"  LOL!  Luckily DH feels the same way, so it's not an issue.

I don't pay attention to people's rings.

I wouldn't post a fake pregnancy and think it's poor taste/insensitive.

I need a pedicure so bad, but am waiting until it's closer to actual sandal temps.  

I really need to get DD some summer clothes.  She has nada.  DS just had a birthday so he got some good summer outfits and a swim suit, but DD has nothing for summer and I feel like the temps could rise in a moment's notice and I should have some rompers or shorts/ts ready to go for her.   

pharmer78

tinyhumantoe said:

pharmer78 said:

To answer your question, @tinyhumantoe, and perhaps a FFTuC, I strongly dislike camping.  I LOVE outdoor time, hiking, picnics, etc but my hatred of wearing a layer of grime and dust, smelling like smoke, sleeping on bumpy earth, and waking up wet from dew make me call it a night and head indoors.
So no camping plans for us this summer.

And I solve my plumber's crack issue with a cute belt!

I guess we can't be a nuclear 50s family after all
=((

HAHAHAHA 

tinyhumantoe

TheAnne said:

I guess my thought is that it is totally reasonable to just not joke about it.  at all.  I would never post a fake "I have cancer!" or "My cancer is cured!" April fool's joke...  I don't *think* any of my FB friends have cancer...  but I really have no idea and I'd hate to risk being an offensive asshole just so maybe a couple of immature people could giggle. 

So, I'm going to agree with your first sentence.  I agree with whomever said "just don't" - I think that's the better choice.

But I'll disagree with the "I have cancer" being remotely similar to "I'm pregnant!"  Pregnancy is typically a happy thing that does not usually result in death.  And pregnancy can certainly be a laughing matter at times.  Before, during, and in hindsight.  There are plenty of laughs to be had about pregnancy.  The problem is that it's a sensitive spot for some, or many.

MarisaKathleen

The radio station I'm listening to does a 10 at 10 everyday and they usually focus on different years. Today they're focusing on "foolish songs" and right now they're playing Jewel's "Foolish Games." The fact that 17-22ish year old Marisa liked this shit is enough to make me wonder what the heck was wrong with me.  

hmp1

pharmer78 said:

TheAnne said:

Popeyes FTW.

Have you tried the biscuits at Church's Chicken (if you have Church's chicken where you live)? Ridiculously delicious.

Church's is the best, hands down. They even have the best sweet tea.

MommaP12

Man, you ladies are really making me want to get some Church's chicken.  There aren't many around here but I can think of one.  I don't think I've had it since I was like 5.  I'll need to go get some now!

tinyhumantoe

Okay, I'll agree that it is insensitive.  And in poor taste.

So....... what is it I'm disagreeing with now?  Haha. 

I guess yes, saying that is insensitive, but I don't file it with very politically incorrect things that are also insensitive.  It's like jokes vs slurs, sometimes there is a difference. These are jokes, and they aren't meant to be hurtful to anyone who is struggling with that sort of thing.  I mean, I could make an April Fool's joke that LO is reading, and it could be insensitive to someone with a child who has a reading disability. 

If someone posted about their pregnancy on FB... "Just call me Fertile Myrtle!  We are expecting #4!  We're scared and excited!" - then would the 'fertile myrtle' be a jab at everyone who is experiencing fertility problems?  I would never post this, but I'm genuinely asking. 

If people are looking at everything as a jab at them, they really need to get out of the me, me, me, me mentality.  Stop being offended at evarythang.

Kissty

IndigoVader said:

I hate people touching my feet. I also hate feet. Pedicures gross me out. Please do not disown me, S12.

 

***STUCK***

 

I won't disown you, I hate feet also!  Though pedicures don't completely gross me out.  I get one maybe two a year.  I prefer to do my own.  Simply because I don't want them touched.

tinyhumantoe

cheeseandrice said:

Infertility is not a laughing matter at all.

No, Infertility is not.  Earlier I thought you said pregnancy was not.  I think that sometimes it is. 

tinyhumantoe

TheAnne said:

I think you're missing the point.  And "I'm pregnant!!  jk!!" is similar to "My cancer is gone!!  jk!!"

I also think many aspects of pregnancy, true and real pregnancy, is funny.  But joking that you are when you are not, isn't.

Sigh............ I'm really not.  And no, those two things are not similar IMO. 

I agree that it's not funny to joke that you are when you are not.  I don't find it funny.  Apparently others do.

tinyhumantoe

I'll just move on.  I've somehow placed myself on the side of the argument that I don't agree with.  For the record, I think it's in poor taste to make an 'I'm pregnant' joke on facebook. 

I think half of my problem here is that I'm trying to decide where I stand on the topic as I type.  I'm not sure how I would take the joke if I saw it on FB, but considering I cry every time I hear of or see someone announcing a pregnancy... I doubt I'd take it well.  I don't think people getting pregnant are trying to hurt me, and I don't think the April Fools jokers are trying to hurt me.

tinyhumantoe

TheAnne said:

But if you don't see the difference in reactions and reasons behind them, I can't really explain any further. 

Jeebus, I DO!  I do, I do, I do.  Earlier I even said, "Intention doesn't completely negate outcome, but it should at least be considered."

Seriously, pick an analogy outside of the cancer example and I will be able to shut my mouth and agree with you.  It was your specific example that I had a problem with.

thebanich

So this girl I know from college posted a fake engagement announcement this morning. And everyone was so excited for her (she posts weekly about how much she wants to be married) and her "JK" got lots in all the congrats.


This may go down as the most awkward AFD joke I have ever witnessed.

tinyhumantoe

I think that all FB announcement April Fools jokes are lame.  I haven't even peeked at FB for this reason.

thebanich

FTR I don't thing fake pregnancy announcements are funny. I think they are in very poor taste.

I really just think my viewpoint of the blogpost was jaded because of the person posting. Another friend of mine that actually does struggle with IF posted it and I didn't feel that way about it.