If you are OAD or if you want moar babies ? DH would like another, but says he would be ok with just one. I am not against another, but have no real desire to do so. No feeling of an incomplete family or baby fever, but I do get a little sad to think I will never be pregnant or have a newborn again.
I am an only child and DH has a grand total of 7 full, half, and step siblings...so maybe that is part of it ? I know you guys can't tell me whether or not to have another, just wanted some other thoughts and experiences.
Re: How do you know ?
We had always talked about 2. I don't know why, that was always the perfect number for me. DH has 4, he has two older daughters from his previous marriage, and he was ok with one, but I always said I needed two. We agreed to do 2 close together. It always felt right and, now that we have DS, he is just the perfect personality for our family.
It seems like it should just feel right for you both at some point, whichever way you decide to go.
As for knowing we wanted a second, I've just always known that I wanted more than one. I am an only child so I think that played into it, I always wanted a sibling. My H is one of four and he loved having siblings but he feels like 4 is to many for him, and I agree, I can't imagine having four. So that is how we came to the 2 or 3 number.
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I think whatever you decide will ultimately be right for your family as long as you and your DH are on the same page.
For us we always knew we wanted 2 kids. We played around with the idea of a 3rd but we've decided after #2 we're done. I had my doubts about a second shortly after having DS. How could I love anyother person so much without taking away from him? It was a very hard decision but in the end we knew we wanted DS to have a sibling. We never really wanted an only child. It wasn't for us and our family.
We'll be trying for #2 this December. Viva la Mexico!